Ask The Fellas

[Guest jojo16]

oooroosay said: So while i was dating my ex i would often hang out with another friend who was a guy.  (2010) 
My ex = White guy, worked a part time job while at school. had no long term goals  (my parents hated him, ESP my father)  
My guy friend = Korean guy, super duper smart, also in his mid 20s, has a full time job and graduated already. (my parents LOVED him. esp dad!) 
The korean guy would often text me and ask to go eat lunch with him during his lunch break, since he worked in an office very close to my house. He has a lot of girl friends, so i thought we were both hanging out as friends. 
So during our lunch "hangouts" we would often talk and i would complain about my ex. My friend would tell me that my ex was a creep and to break up with him. One time i told him that i was interested in moving to california (i had a full time job at the time so i had somewhat of a decent salary? .....k not really) and he said that we should both move there together..... (implying what?? i dont know)....i told him i wasn't sure if my parents would let me live by myself with another guy before getting married and he said "you should tell them you're with me! after all they love me".... which kinda??? confused me????  He would always talk about how girls "friendzoned" him too and would get REALLY excited to hang out with me.... sometimes i think or maybe i think too much and overanalyze everything bc im just LIKE that.... 
We would hang out alot but i think i pissed him off a couple times.... (idk maybe cuz im stupid and socially awkward and not as cool as he is) =( 
Anyways..... after a couple hangouts he grew more and more distant and now we dont even talk anymore. =( he still contacts me sometimes via facebook... but as for hanging out, never. 
So what happened there???
Do you think that maybe this guy WAS interested in me? or.... maybe i am thinking to much? is there any way i can start contacting him without looking desperate? or should i just let go, give up, and find someone else ? 

[Guest Eru]

@strawberrykiwii  But again, it's important to you should know what their texting patterns are.  They might just be very prone to using emoticons.    I like using emoticons.  :3

[AiriinxKumori]

Ok, I'm gonna feel real stupid asking this. But why would my bf lie about searching/clicking porn images of asian hotties from reddit?Even when the evidence is very clear that there is no way you can get those images unless you search them up or look for the category.They even require you to consent if you're 18 and over. My bf still denies that he intentionally looked up these pictures and says he's being honest and knows that no girl will be ok with these type of pictures in search result. I did my own research and so far I don't really believe him.

[odaesan]

AiriinxKumori said: But why would my bf lie about searching/clicking porn images of asian hotties from reddit?

[Guest kimchiday]

if a guy hangs out with you and posts it on his FB that it was a "night out with his sister." does that mean he's not interested in a relationship? O:

[Guest lilwoo]

kimchiday said: if a guy hangs out with you and posts it on his FB that it was a "night out with his sister." does that mean he's not interested in a relationship? O:

[Guest xoDee]

I like my co-worker at work, and I thought he also liked me a bit because he often flirted and teased me...he's a shy and sincere guy and the things he does for me even my other co-workers say have never seen him do for anyone else.
He is so sincere and so genuine, and such an overall great guy, I fell really hard for  him, and he was everything I wanted, and I also thought he at least had a slight interest in me. 
He always waited for me for my rides or offered me, teased me, go out of his way to help me, pat my head, touch my hair, be so attentive to me....
it was recently discovered he has a girlfriend now, and has been dating her for about a month. This was discovered when he decided to bring her to the work xmas party as a plus one. I felt so upset and depressed. He obviously chose her instead of me...Why does he act like he likes me but he has a girlfriend? 
Please help me out!
Thanks guys!

[Guest dazzIe]

fellas, how often do you think of the woman you love? and another question, we all know women talk about their boyfriends to their gf's but do guys do too? what do you guys usually talk about? lol.

[Guest disgradius]

@ xoDee: I'd be kinda careful with coworkers. For one, company policies sometimes prohibit relationships. That and some people just generally try to make a good impression on all their coworkers (for promotions or just an easier work life). Does seem a little too close to not have any interest but I'd say its hard really connect with coworkers without meeting them outside of work as well.

[Guest disgradius]

omgitscrystal said: Simple question.
Do most guys behave the same way? As in, if the like a girl, they'll drop rather visible hints?

Because one of my guy friend admitted to us that he really likes one of my friend. And he isn't one who normally jokes around with these kind of relationship stuff but gosh he is not doing anything at all to make it noticeable and all of us are getting frustrated lol.

[Guest iilysium]

I'm finding my relationships situation confusing. How do you know if a guy wants more than just a friends with benefits relationship? What would a guy do? I don't want any emotional attachments, I'm done with that, so I'm worried that there might be feelings developing on the side. And how the hell do you make it clear that it's just a fwb relationship without being outright rude...because it's not as if they've confessed or anything, so it'd seem presumptuous of me to make it seem as though I assume they have romantic feelings for me, you know?

What if you're in some weird three-way fwb relationship (three people involved) and they both tell you they're unattached and then you find out that the two are actually together? They lied about it when I asked them separately but admitted to it when I asked them together... What the hell would be the reason for lying about that...I asked and I kept getting shifty answers like "idk" and "shrug". What...it's just weird to be in the middle of two other people's relationship...

[Guest dazzIe]

i've heard from guy friends that..a guy will date a girl if she has potential to be his wife. is that true?

[odaesan]

@dazzle No. Most won't do that.

[Guest joongielove]

So how do you know if a guy wants to get in your pants or actually wants a relationship? Theres definitely chemistry there, and we act like best friends. he asks me about my day, gets to know my interests, my hobbies, about my family, etc. His last relationship ended a year ago, and they dated for 3 and a half years. My ex and I broke up in July after 3 and a half years. The thing is though, we met at work. But he's leaving this job soon. i always feel like I'm pestering him when I text him. 

[odaesan]

Don't click the link!

[Guest xFloOwuffBB]

What are some things that guys wear that can be engraved with letters or numbers? :0 no dogtags please cause I've already thought of that, everything else is welcome. and thank you!

[Guest avedia]

^
I'm not a guy but my boyfriend really liked it when I gave him an engraved pocket knife. He "wears" that whenever he goes out. Just make sure it's legal to carry around a pocket knife in your state, and buy a nice knife from a sports shop, not from China Town lol.

[odaesan]

I have a watch, a keychain, and a knife that can be engraved. A knife is a good idea, but a watch or a keychain may be great if he wants to get a new one.

[Guest destinymarie]

Why do guys let me win at video games? I bet I could still win if they tried...

[odaesan]

@destinymarie there are many reasons. They could be trying to be courteous by doing that, trying to look like they don't try to take everything as a serious competition, trying to make it more obvious that they like you, etc.