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[Guest Harbl]

If my chunky friend keeps going on about her diet all the time and i'm eating something she likes should i offer her some?

[Guest junkers]

if at the time, you have a boyfriend. yall girls think its normal to hangout with a guy friend 1 on 1 to movie, dinner, sport just you two alone?? and your guyfriend is always driving you around.

[Guest LUVSSOURCREAM]

Ever since my ex-boyfriend broke up with me, I've felt the need to change myself. I don't think I've been changing myself to his likings but I have been trying to change, whether it be my personality or my clothing. I've grown to be more conscious of my appearance and behaviors. In a sense, I've gone from tomboyish to a tad more girlie.

I suppose I should add more about our breakup: In short, he was my first real love. We'd known each other for over a decade and dated for nearly two years. Our relationship didn't end well, and today we're not on speaking terms. He broke up with me and I soon learned he cheated on me, had secured a relationship with his current girlfriend, and then broke it off with me. It's been nearly 6 months since then.

What exactly am I doing? And why? I would've understood it better if I did this while we were dating..

what others said about finding yourself is right. and i would like to add to that by saying we change ourselves after a break up

to forget that 'old me',

to 'find a new me',

to 'move on',

to 'strengthen me',

to 'improve myself',

to 'be more liberated'

and all that good stuff

and we don't really feel that push to change ourselves when we're in love, because when we're in love, everything feels fine..there's no need to change.

[Guest ms. rachellica]

if at the time, you have a boyfriend. yall girls think its normal to hangout with a guy friend 1 on 1 to movie, dinner, sport just you two alone?? and your guyfriend is always driving you around.

i think if the boyfriend is alrite with it then i think it's fine. coz i chilled with my bf's friends b4 without him nd he didn't mind. nd i've smoked up nd drank with them so if he's fine with that, then it shows how much he trusts me.

[Guest junkers]

If i smoke and gamble, would you date me and try to change me or move on?

[Guest Rhiya]

Thank you for the replies.

ju-ju

His reason for breaking up was because we barely spent time together. He had a number of things to juggle; his family was very dependent of him as well as his friends, in addition he had an overly packed school and work schedule. Because of this, I never demanded anything from him and always tried to be understanding. When we were together, his friends would be trailing behind us. Again, I never complained and understood. To put it simply, I gave him his space and his time which he ultimately took advantage of. Perhaps I gave him more than enough, and the freedom went straight to his head.

To be honest, I never thought I was good enough for him. We were mirror opposites and I wasn't the type of girl you'd think he would date. However his new girlfriend, the girl he cheated on me with, is the girl I envisioned he would wind up with. I guess I was wrong, I'm changing myself to something he wants, at least what I think he wants. What to do now..

[Guest Blu_Velvet_Sea]

Ever since my ex-boyfriend broke up with me, I've felt the need to change myself. I don't think I've been changing myself to his likings but I have been trying to change, whether it be my personality or my clothing. I've grown to be more conscious of my appearance and behaviors. In a sense, I've gone from tomboyish to a tad more girlie.

I suppose I should add more about our breakup: In short, he was my first real love. We'd known each other for over a decade and dated for nearly two years. Our relationship didn't end well, and today we're not on speaking terms. He broke up with me and I soon learned he cheated on me, had secured a relationship with his current girlfriend, and then broke it off with me. It's been nearly 6 months since then.

What exactly am I doing? And why? I would've understood it better if I did this while we were dating..

Why are you changing yourself? Maybe because of he's your first love, and because he cheated, which made you wonder "what do I lack to make him want to be with another girl?"

[Guest lolololitslight]

How do you get the girl to become a horn dog besides her period?

Lol x)

[Guest itchywurms]

If my chunky friend keeps going on about her diet all the time and i'm eating something she likes should i offer her some?

if i am you, i will still offer her the food especially when i know she likes it, it's up to her if she'll take it or not....but if she's going to take it then i'll refuse to give her and remind her of her diet..lol i am a mean friend...but if she pleads for it then i'll give her just a small amount.. (i am not that mean you know.. )

if at the time, you have a boyfriend. yall girls think its normal to hangout with a guy friend 1 on 1 to movie, dinner, sport just you two alone?? and your guyfriend is always driving you around.

yeah it's fine just as long as you're plain friends or best friends and if it's okay with your boyfriend as well. i don't see anything negative with it.

If i smoke and gamble, would you date me and try to change me or move on?

is it really "you" only??

well this goes for every smoker and gamblers: i think it's okay dating them but then again i have to remind the guy to at least lessen it just a bit if he could not take it out of his system. i don't want to force-change a person because i don't want it to happen to myself, it should be the person's own will to change or whatsoever.

[Guest ShinAoshi]

I have a question. Say a guy who you like messages you by mobile. How long would you wait to reply? would you reply straight away? or stall for time?

[Guest itchywurms]

I have a question. Say a guy who you like messages you by mobile. How long would you wait to reply? would you reply straight away? or stall for time?

honestly, i'll spazz first but as soon as i got my act together i'll reply immediately so as not to keep him waiting and lose interest maybe??

[Guest lilmzwhoa]

How do you get the girl to become a horn dog besides her period?

Lol x)

try something simple.

like snuggling, perhaps.

or when you guys are making out,

put your hand behind her head or on her cheek.

kinda like caressing it, i guess?

i know for a fact that when i have my "monthly friend,"

i become soooooooooooooooo..--you know the word.

[Guest Xiaoba1tu]

I have a question. Say a guy who you like messages you by mobile. How long would you wait to reply? would you reply straight away? or stall for time?

Pretty much as soon as I could. (=

If i smoke and gamble, would you date me and try to change me or move on?

Smoke and/or gamble. No date.

[Guest songssiissii]

If i smoke and gamble, would you date me and try to change me or move on?

smoking can be tolerated...as long as u dont smoke near me.

gambling.. it all depends on what type of gambler you are.

if u werent a crazy gambler, knew went to stop, cash out and chill, i'd date you, but i wouldnt try to change you. i dont believe anyone can change you but yourself.

a girl might give you a little motivation, but the changing all depends on you.

I have a question. Say a guy who you like messages you by mobile. How long would you wait to reply? would you reply straight away? or stall for time?

wait 10 mins

[Guest TrainDriver]

question: when a girl (whom you have feelings for) says u should date one of ur friends cos u would make a nice couple, wat does it mean?? considering that we were alone and that we never talk about relationships, even with other friends, and that sometimes i feel she might feel the same way back.

[Guest mango-iee]

I have a question. Say a guy who you like messages you by mobile. How long would you wait to reply? would you reply straight away? or stall for time?

As soon as you recieved it. A guy doesn't have any patience waiting for a girl that long.

question: when a girl (whom you have feelings for) says u should date one of ur friends cos u would make a nice couple, wat does it mean?? considering that we were alone and that we never talk about relationships, even with other friends, and that sometimes i feel she might feel the same way back.

Well, maybe, she know you have feelings for her and that she wants to hide it or maybe "test" you by saying you should date one of your friends cause you guys make a cute couple. Another reason why I think she might say that is that, friends know each other well. Not like the best friend forever type, but friend, you get a long with and you two did get a little chat or two about each other, so you two will make a cute couple cause you two understand each other and won't be fighting a lot. =P

@ Junker

If i smoke and gamble, would you date me and try to change me or move on?

It depends on how bad/worst you're.

- If you smoke but know when to do not smoke (especially on date) around me, then I'm fine with you smoking. As long as you don't smoke one after another when only 15 minutes pass.

- Gambling...honestly, I hate gambler. I will let you pass, if you aren't an addicted gambler who goes to the Casino once in every week and

you gotta know when to stop. Once you're lucky, stop. Don't continue.

If you're beyond than worst...then I don't know what to do with you.

[Guest shirotaka]

Here's a question for you ladies. It applies to some guys but the majority girls do this.

So my best friend, who is a girl, comes up to me and says, "I'm so sad right now..." then I ask, "What's wrong?". Her, "Nothing". After that she just walks away.

So my questions are:

Why do you do this?

Is it for comfort?

Just to vent?

What do you want us to do when you say this?

[Guest jacky48]

Here's a question for you ladies. It applies to some guys but the majority girls do this.

So my best friend, who is a girl, comes up to me and says, "I'm so sad right now..." then I ask, "What's wrong?". Her, "Nothing". After that she just walks away.

So my questions are:

Why do you do this?

Is it for comfort?

Just to vent?

What do you want us to do when you say this?

Why do you do this?

either:

a ) she was going to tell you about it, but changed her mind last minute

or

b ) she wanted you to ask her to tell her more about it

Is it for comfort?

it probably is.

Just to vent?

it really depends on the situation at hand, but a lot of the times its for venting

[Guest shirotaka]

^Thanks for the quick reply. Its what I assumed it would be. But I'd much rather have the person tell me rather than have the weight of the world on their shoulders.

[Guest EenXsooN]

my friend (a girl) has been talking to me alot the past month..

and then suddenly she tells me she is going on a break from guys..

and she doesnt talk to me for a week..

and she doesnt keep conversating with me when i talk to her..

shes changed so much so fast..

does this happen alot?