NaughtyDog
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Ninshark said: how much difference does it make if it's knowing a guy for an few minutes, and hour, or a few weeks?
--how long does it take to need a good enough impression to agree to a date?
I usually never even think about asking someone out until I'm at least on talking terms- I guess that means I'm in the friendzone, but anytime before I don't feel comfortable enough to ask.
plus, only one person answered my last question, wondering:
how likely would you (asking personal opinion of some girl reading this) agree to a LDR met online without having met them in person, just through e-mails, texts, calls, and skype? obviously- won't meet for awhile like until vacation etc because LD. -
speedredefined said: @UnicornGummi I avoid weekend nights, because I don't want to appear to be a social pariah. For instance, I want the girl on the other side of the phone to think I'm on a date, out doing something or busy (ie: too busy thinking about them/not desperate).
For the girls here living in large US cities - how long does a guy have to text that you met in a club before you'll meet up with him? Also, would you be okay with a guy calling you, say if the text convo was getting stagnant? -
radiocat said: Why do some ladies pretend to be studious in the presence of an attractive guy for examples taking out a book to read, wearing specs to make herself look geeky(even if she looks prettier without them)??
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Girls' date=' which type of cologne have you liked on guys or that you think have a good scent? [/quote']
I remember I used to literally want to jump guys who wore Acqua di Gio, but now I just love when a guy smells like fabric softener haha
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LOL @ Korea
1) Korean
2) Korea
3) Chinese
4) Japan
5) richard simmons
6) Korean (gay)
7) Asian
8) Mother
9) Toilet
10) richard simmons
Korea's list went from boring to 'Asian Mother Toilet richard simmons'...
Sounds like a bad Asian porno title...¯\__(ツ)__/¯ -
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cityhunter said: Hi everyone:I wanted to give everyone here a friendly reminder to keep your comments on the forums respectful and civilized. I have read through most of this thread, and I’m conflicted about whether or not to close it. I’m all for thoughtful, civilized discussion of a sensitive topic and sharing related experiences, but I’m not for rude and judgmental behavior. If you disagree with what someone has said, please express your disagreement respectfully, choosing your words and your tone carefully. It’s easy to hide behind your anonymity online, but a good rule of thumb is not to write something here that you wouldn’t say to someone’s face. Manners apply online too. Users on Soompi come from all different walks of life...the community would benefit from everyone putting in the extra effort to write posts that don’t unnecessarily offend or alienate others.
I’d also like to address the claim that Soompi keeps “threads like this” open to create conflict and increase traffic. I’m not sure where this claim came from, but it’s by no means Soompi policy. For a time, we banned all ethnicity-related threads from the forums because we felt that they always devolved into a mess that ended up offending too many people. However, people asked for a place to discuss these topics, so we’ve allowed ethnicity-related threads once again. Please don’t put us under pressure to ban them again. Thank you. -
@donporkuloin, you can call me a hater all you want, but tons of members on soompi have told you exactly what I've been saying (I'm just the only one who bothers to reply to you anymore), I love that you're preaching about women not dating certain guys because of the colour of their skin when you've told me multiple times, "I will never date a black woman because of X and Y." Make up as many "case studies" as you want, but choosing not to date black women because of your predispositions about them is exactly the same thing as others choosing not to date black, Asian, Middle Eastern, etc.
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@donporkuloin I agree that people should date others because of who they are and not because of the colour of their skin, but no one on soompi has really said otherwise. Please find a quote of even one girl on soompi that's said "Oh, I like white guys because their skin is white and because of what the media tells me is trendy".
You've said that girls have told you that you're a great guy, really nice, good personality, etc. but they wouldn't date you. I'm going to be super blunt and give it to you straight right now - this is just my opinion, so sorry if you don't like what I'm about to say.
Girls that love everything about a guy's personality, but wouldn't date them is probably 99.9% because they're not physically or sexually attracted to them. Now I don't know what you look like, but assuming from your posts, I'm going to guess that they're not attracted to you. You can kick and scream and shout at the top of your lungs that it's not fair because you've got almost every quality that a girl wants, but the bottom line is, if a girl isn't physically/sexually attracted to you then it's pretty much game over.
Physical attraction, whether we like it or not, is a crucial part of any relationship and if it's not there, then it'll be hard to maintain a relationship in the long run. There are instances where I wasn't initially physically attracted to a guy, but their personality made me attracted to them overall. It doesn't happen all the time, but it does happen.
I don't know even one guy who has a great personality and is attractive that has as much trouble in the dating game as you do, so maybe that's your problem, not because of what the media says.
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I think it has less to do with 'sparks' than it has to do with attraction in general. I don't think you need sparks to form relationships, but I do believe attraction, whether physical or emotional, is one of the key elements in relationships.
You said you don't feel any physical attraction or attraction in general yet, so maybe because you're new to the dating scene you're enamoured by the idea of dating more than you are of him as a person.
Nonetheless, it's great that you're giving this guy (who actually appears to be very nice) a chance and not just writing him off because you don't feel that 'spark', but if you ever do feel that you actually aren't attracted to him/don't like him, then the best thing to do would be to tell him straight out before things get a little dicey.
Anyway, good luck with everything and keep us updated! -
MrPower said: Why do you always want us to call you, and not the other way around?
And why do you want us to text you first, and be the last to text?
Finally, why do you insist on publicly humiliating us by making us carry your purse? -
bubblyteax said: I've been dating my bf for 2 months now, and every now and then, people tell me how he's this bad guy: a player, does drugs; not the right guy for me.
But I know he stopped doing drugs last year, and he's dating me.. I doubt he would cheat on me. Should I just go with the present or let his past actions decide my dating life?
I feel like i'm his actual first girlfriend he liked because the rest were just sex buddies, and even did it with his cousin.. the thing is, he doesn't know how to show his feelings; I talk to my friends more than him and it's really sad to me. I told him how it seems like he doesn't care about me, and got wicked mad.. I've seen him cry too. But the thing is, we go to the same school, and barely live that far from each other.
I just need a guy's input on all of this.. I'm so confused and i'm so naive with judging. -
donporkuloin said: Truth is most men that are into Asian women have some kind of Asian fetish whether it's talked about out loud, or hidden. Truth is everyone has some kind of fetish. Some are weirder, and some are more accepted. I can't speak for everywhere in the world, but I'll speak for midwest America. In midwest America it's highly pushed in society for most women in general to want to date a White guy. When you take a step back from any kind of bias, and look at some facts. On tv and in movies White men are highly promoted, and pushed more than any other races of guys. That's a fact. It's to the point where people actually believe in the hype that one race of man is better than the others with stereotypical ploys to lessen the chances of success for other races of me. What I will say is this I find that a lot of my female friends that are into White guys I ask them why are they into White guys. 10 times out of 10 they'll say because they see them a lot in the media. Just remember while being defensive about liking a White guy; and while worshiping the trend of being with a White guy he can do the same horrible things to you any other guy has done to you if not worse. Last female friend I know that was dating a White guy turned out to be a sex offender, had herpes, and I had to call the police on him due to his over aggressive behavior towards her. What I really wish is the media promoted each race of men fairly. But for the media there's no good profit in that so that won't happen unless people speak up in mass numbers.
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So, we agree that I have not engaged in any Asian male-bashing and that no 'race' should be put on a pedestal.
As for Gofishus and people making generalizations about Asian females who date white males (or vice versa), this thread alone has a bunch of that kinda crap - http://forums.soompi.com/discussion/2006493/do-asian-boys-only-like-asian-girls-or-anyone-girls/p1
1) http://forums.soompi.com/discussion/comment/25218459/#Comment_25218459
Statistical data (according to OKCupid and Gofishus) that every female, not just Asian females, want to date white guys.
2) http://forums.soompi.com/discussion/comment/25218454/#Comment_25218454
He uses the OKCupid article again - "For people who say I'm generalizing, here's statistical proof that Asian girls prefer white men:"
3) Gofishus said: "Yeah, but sometimes this is true. Let's not mention all the white guys who go to Asia just get laid with an asian girl, and then write a book about it (lots of awful stuff on Kindle stores these days)."
4) "ajlee613 said: and from what i've seen and most of my friends observe, the asian women who go out with non asian men, are usually the ones that simply cant get the asian dude (left overs)."
That's just some of the nonsense he (save for ajlee's post) alone has been posting about AF/WM relationships. I'm not even including the users that think women idealize white or Korean males because of the media.
Oh, and here's the Korean complex thread of his just for kicks:
http://forums.soompi.com/discussion/375681/how-come-some-girls-think-that-korean-guys-are-better-than-other-asian-guys#latest
P.S. If you're going to preach about logical fallacies, mudslinging and the sort, try not to do the same "P.S. homo sapiens is a species, not a "race". Thought you took 8th grade biology. Don't confuse species for race any more than you confuse ethnicity for race. " Putting smilies doesn't make it less condescending, if anything, it makes it more condescending.
Anyway, I'm done with this thread, it's just one major face-palm haha -
koreanballads said:
Gofishus stated "Most Asian guys are close-minded". That in itself, is a racist belief. You affirmed this statement by stating "Quote of the Year, folks!" Gofishus didn't say, some guys are close-minded and don't date girls out of their own race, did he? He specifically generalized about 2 billion people. Do you really think that 2 billion Asian males are "close-minded"? Do you think that Gofishus saying, "50%+ of 2 billion Asian males are close-minded" had anything to do with reality? Did he take a survey of Asian males that was statistically valid in order to make the claim that most of them are close-minded? No, he simply pulled something out of his chocolate starfish, a tasty morsel of racism, should I say. By affirming that statement, you affirmed a racist generalization, pure and simple.
Did you even read what I wrote in that thread? I wasn't affirming that Asian males are close-minded at all. If you read the second part of my post, I was basically saying that finally, ONE of the Asian males that bash Asian females for dating outside of their race admitted that they are doing so because they're not getting any. It was a joke post from me because Gofishus has been on the stormfront in threads like these leaving statistical evidence that Asian females prefer white males. So, you haven't shown me a post I've made bashing Asian males or being racist yet.
Ah, then my analysis of him being a white guy was incorrect. He is, then, an Asian guy who says racist things about Asian guys. I don't have a problem saying that he's racist. Asian guys can be racist against Asians, just like Asian females can be racist against Asians. Interesting second point, however. Is there any substance to the statement that Korean guys are highly regarded by females? Perhaps. But no more than how white guys are highly regarded by females. Should Korean guys be highly regarded by females? No. No more than thinking white guys should be any more highly regraded by females.
I completely agree with you, which is why I'm so bothered by Asian males like him. I don't regard Korean males higher than other Asians, nor do I regard white males higher than Asian males. Isn't the fact that people might assume I do put white males on a pedestal and would never date an Asian male, simply because I'm dating a white guy (the first white guy I've dated), the same as saying Asian males = ____? These people are basically saying Asian girls who date white guys = _____.
I could make a thread dedicated to bashing Asian fetishists. I can bash white guys with Asian fetishes. I can also bash white guys who think ALL or MOST or A MAJORITY OF or MORE THAN FIFTY PERCENT OF or ____ Asian males are insecure, short, ___insert generalization here____. But I don't. Nor do I chime into threads and start to bash white guys who are Asian fetishists. This thread is just a soapbox for bashing phantom specters. Just plain silly.
Wait, what? What does this have to do with my point? My point is that I did not ever bash Asian males as a whole and you're here talking about a random bashfest that neither you, nor I are a part of?
As for the last part of your post, I agree that there is nothing wrong with being proud about your heritage. If you had simply wrote "Korean and proud", I don't think anyone would have a problem with you. -
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@koreanballads "A half Korean calling themself "Korean" is like a mutt calling itself a purebred." and "The future of the Korean tribe hinges upon the purity of its bloodline."
Those two lines alone are proof enough of your racist mindset. What if I changed the words Korean to something else? - "A half white, half black person calling themselves white is like a mutt calling itself a purebred." "The future of white America hinges upon the purity of its bloodline." Can't you see how ridiculously racist your comments are? This honestly sounds like something straight out of a history book about slavery in America; almost paralleling the "one drop" rule (a person that has even one drop of "black blood" in their ancestry is black.)
Frankly, I'm reporting you for your racist signature. As a Korean, I'm actually ashamed to share the same "blood" as you. -
yesungsgal said: Mannosuke said: But it's ok when an asian guy gets a white girl. That's cool. Nothing wrong there.Rarely hear asian dudes go "damn man why you getting with a white girl you betraying the family"
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Gofishus said:
yesungsgal
said: I didn't say you weren't making a point, I said I didn't understand what you were trying to say. No need to get snarky about it...
I'm not targeting this at you, but in general, yes. Some White guys fetishize asian women. We all know about yellow fever and that, it's pretty gross and stuff. But some asian guys seem to think ALL white guys fetishize asian women which isn't true. It's a very unfair generalization and at the same time it's demeaning for asian women. They're also implying that if we're dating a white guy, then by default we're too stupid to realize he's fetishizing us.
Anyways, my rant was that I was shocked at how ignorant and disgraceful some asian guys are. They're simultaneously racist and sexist at the same time and completely oblivious to their own flaws. Then they're all shocked when they find out girls don't want to date them and immediately blame it on the white establishment and start quoting a ton of statistics about how the "game" is stacked against them from the start instead of trying to undermine it and prove it wrong.
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Gofishus said: So, 3/10 is actually alot. that means, every 1 out of 3 guys has an Asian woman fetish, and dates her solely because of that. Isn't that terrible? And there are studies that show that out of interracial coupling, by far Asian girl + White guy is the most common. Heck, just take a walk here in San Francisco or LA to see how common these pairings really are. And here's the article (take it with a grain of salt since its online) http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/?a=1
I think, its not because Asian guys don't like interracial couplings. We just see this particular pairing (AF+WM) so often. Even Hollywood movies have taken care to proliferate this pairing. I mean, I really don't care if white guys date asian girls and treat them well. That's fine.But when you have a cottage industry of stuff like this....
http://www.amazon.com/Asian-Sex-Stories-Indonesian-ebook/dp/B0047DWYK0/http://www.amazon.com/Romance-Lights-Asia-Relationships-ebook/dp/B0070DOYDY/http://www.amazon.com/Girls-By-Speaking-Chinese-Mandarin-ebook/dp/B007A4WUVQ/http://www.amazon.com/Barely-Legal-Babysitters-Sensation-ebook/dp/B0058KAOYO/
...basically books on how to pick up asian girls or inappropiate stories about how you conquered an asian girl (all written by white men unsurprisingly), then it becomes a problem. Hope you can see it from an Asian guys point of view. -
Lol please just ban this guy and bring back the ethnicity rule so we can spare ourselves from threads like these.
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Shouldn't you be thanking soompi for asking questions since about 90% of the questions come from here and not Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc?
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I ate the last piece of pie while he was at work and blamed it on his dog.
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And he goes, "
You wouldn't like what I'd get you so I don't get you anything." Then he just continues on shopping.
For my last birthday, I got a bra (wtf.. even though I'd been hinting that a pair of sandals I found on sale were really nice). For our anniversary a month later (still hinting for the sandals), I got a build-a-bear (no fancy shirts on it or anything, just a big bear). For Christmas, I got an eyeshadow palette consisting of mainly blue eyeshadows.
When I made it into nursing school, he drew me a picture.
Honestly, I'm not a materialistic person. I don't go shopping because I'm always trying to pay for my phone bill, insurance, car payment, and gas. I'm never able to get myself anything.
Sometimes it'd be nice to get surprised with something...ANYTHING. His surprises consist of lotion he steals from his workplace, random bracelets he makes out of strings lying around, and "cool" rocks he finds.No matter how many times I've tried to bring this up to him, he always says it's because I'm too shallow. No I'm not! I've done so much, I deserve SOMETHING in return!
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radiocat said: Lets say if you really love the girl, and you want to own her, you dont care if she is already in a longterm relationship because she left the guy because of you. Isnt it only fair if the guy is given the chance to show his efforts/love to the girl doesnt matter which guy knew her first, but her love goes to the guy capable of keeping her heart?- Maybe the fault doesnt entirely falls on the girl? Love is selfish, love is unfair, it is natural and we should see it as moving freely.