Ask The Fellas

[zzongah]

Hey @ccco , I read your post and I would love to share my thoughts with you. I'm no love expert, nor had countless relationships before to say that what I think is right. It would still be different from what he thinks.. But, here it is..

Well. Obviously, he likes to get to know you more. It's just your first time going out with him so I think he doesn't wanna pressure you with personal questions. He might want to keep it casual and with a friendly atmosphere during that time. If he likes you, or not.. He might be interested with you. You might intrigue him on some ways that's why he keeps on texting you, or he asked you out. I can't say if he'll be serious nor if he'll ask you out again in the future, but.. I suggest you just go with the flow. It's the early stage of getting to know each other, so just enjoy the company and you'll know for sure if he likes you or not! Or maybe, you'd like him too! lol. Goodluck dear!

[odaesan]

If you really like a girl, do you talk to your boys about it? Do you ask your guy friends for relationship advice?

No, that's really uncommon. In most cases, we'll just keep it to ourselves or ask a woman for advice. Some friends will offer advice, but it's rare for men to ask for it. In the case of not seeking advice but letting others know about it, guys I've seen (having not done this myself) usually talk about going for it a lot. Most don't even try it. They'll just talk about doing it. It really depends on who you hang out with.

[GiaGia]

Lol so funny @Lie thanks for sharing.

[Hanulsky82]

Would you elope with your significant other if your parents disapprove the relationship and you think your significant other is the one?

[Guest writerstale]

Babybug82 said: Would you elope with your significant other if your parents disapprove the relationship and you think your significant other is the one?

[oryxncrake]

What is the worst thing you ever said to a girl? Be honest! 

[nn_nn]

nvm I dont want to ask anything

[veryhungry]

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[Hanulsky82]

@writerstale. I think it depends if I'm really in love with someone, but I don't think I am in love with anyone enough to elope. I was just  thinking if I could elope wth someone I really like, it'll be romantic and fun.

[Ernie]

Hmmm, I'm just reading the previous post

[nn_nn]

PROBLEM FIX

[nn_nn]

what is the appropriate respond when bf told you that he is holding back because he is afraid being abused (aka if he shown too much of affection and love for me, I will abused it because I know he would do anything for me)?

[Guest writerstale]

what is the appropriate respond when bf told you that he is holding back because he is afraid being abused (aka if he shown too much of affection and love for me, I will abused it because I know he would do anything for me)?

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@nn_nn  : Treat him positive with actions with consistency over time, and that should change things. 

[nn_nn]

i do treat him positively, I encourage and motivate him to apply for jobs and etc. I changed my spoiled personality because I know that is an immature/ selfish thing to do in a relationship. It is not like I am trying to change him physically, I just want him to be a better person. I told him so too! ..and he understands because he himself told me that noone in his family likes certain stuff about him. And I told him that dont try to change to please others, do it because you want the change.

Also another dilema!

bf is not a big taker. Hes more of a texter, he rarely likes to talk for hours on the phone. He is more of a person talker then a phone talker. How do I get him to talk more? I tried to involve our conversation with the things he likes (which is sports) but it doesnt work too well ...

everytime we talk i feel like I blabber on for hours, and he just listen ...the only time he ever talk alot is when we get into heated deep conversation, but I dont want to always talk about that ... sometimes it is nice not to have serious conversation all the time for it tends to get boring over time.

Edited May 19, 2015 by nn_nn

[Guest Tofu_Cloud]

Dear Men,

 

So you're inlove with a girl name Suzy.

YOU are 30 yrs old. Which version of Suzy would YOU rather be with?

-  25 yr old suzy who has a 6 yr old child

- 35 yr old suzy

 

They are the same girl so they obviously same personality just different criteria.

Edited May 21, 2015 by Tofu_Cloud

[zantac_2]

^if they are the same girl, then it really doesnt matter? but on time factor alone. the 25 yr old. thats an extra 10 years to spend time with!

Edited May 21, 2015 by zantac_2

[GiaGia]

I find it so annoying once a guy starts to tell me about what he does and well I just get bored really fast. Why are some guys so keen on talking about themselves especially about their job??

 

[Ninshark]

what is the appropriate respond when bf told you that he is holding back because he is afraid being abused

Also another dilema!

bf is not a big taker. Hes more of a texter

everytime we talk i feel like I blabber on for hours, and he just listen ...the only time he ever talk alot is when we get into heated deep conversation, but I dont want to always talk about that ...

 

​All you can do is keep accepting his actions with positivity and give back love. He probably was betrayed in the past or you're his first girlfriend. You'll really have to prove to him that you will be a good gf so that he can let loose his love for you.

bf not being a big talker- you just have to get used to it, it's his personality, unfortunately. all you can do is encourage him, and he may or may not follow.

about talking, he probably enjoys listening, and just being there with you. I feel like this too, and I blabber on for hours. just check from time to time if they're bored. and take breaks and ask him stuff. if he doesn't talk much, it's because he doesn't care too much about doing so, while you like talking about yourself. so he probably wouldn't put much effort into interrrupting you with his own stories (even though you'd like him to) just tell him to talk more, and ask more questions. He probably won't change though, just try to get used to it.

 

YOU are 30 yrs old. Which version of Suzy would YOU rather be with?

-  25 yr old suzy who has a 6 yr old child

- 35 yr old suzy

​If I'm already in love, then the 25 yr old with the kid. If I'm choosing to date them from a dating site or if I meet them or friend sets me up, I choose neither. too old or having prev kids are dealbreaker for sure. I'd rather be single and look elsewhere. If I am desperate, then the 35 yr old, because I'm probably that age as well.

 

I find it so annoying once a guy starts to tell me about what he does and well I just get bored really fast. Why are some guys so keen on talking about themselves especially about their job??

​why do guys talk? because the girl won't. are you not talking enough? maybe that's why.
why do they talk about their jobs? probably because they're trying to impress you, show that they're not bumming around, and also because the rest of their habits are not respectable. you know guys, always like to do fun, childish, dangerous, stupid, immature, lazy, dirty, weird things. stuff like smoking, partying, porn, talking about girls and sex, messy room, gaming, forgetting to brush teeth, not knowing how to cook, being a foolish dare devil etc etc

what do you want them to talk about? if you don't give them a topic or ask a question, then that's their default topic. if you won't want to talk about work, then ask them a question and direct them to what you want to hear about, know about, talk about. If you don't know, or are relying on the man to keep the convo going, then it is your fault for being disappointed.

[GiaGia]

@Ninshark you're making a lot of sense, thanks!

[odaesan]

I find it so annoying once a guy starts to tell me about what he does and well I just get bored really fast. Why are some guys so keen on talking about themselves especially about their job??

 

Because it shows stability and focus. Many men will try to project the stability semi-consciously, but a lot of the other reasons are just off-domain and they don't really notice.