Does Age Really Matter?

[Guest aimeelinluvyunhojung]

me and my bf broke up weeks ago

and hes only thinking of getting rid of his dog because he feels that he isnt able to satisfy his dogs needs like playing with her etc

he just wants the best for his dog (its only 11 months so its still a puppy i guess)

buttt he probably wont cuz he loves her to bits <3

[Guest Mentor]

    They say age is just a number. In a sense , that would be correct. The problem occurs when we try to relate that number to a particular character level, like the age to drink. Over here that age is 21 but it doesn't necessarily mean that once you hit that age you become mature. Some may mature at 17 or 18. Others may never mature. The only thing I can caution people to do is not put too much significance on chronological designations. It is better to compare them by proficiency level of a normal grouping say like the things a normal person can do at a third grade level and the things a normal person can do at a fifth grade level or what a person can see at 20,30,or 50 ft. that a normal person can see at 40 ft.  In other words, we should see people according to their relative proficiency ratings as opposed to their chronological designations.

[Guest zoomlo85]

@ mentor. WTF is with all those stupid wordings, 'chronological designations'. Are you serious? lmfao.

[Guest ktty]

I was always convinced that I would never date a younger guy. But now my boyfriend is about 2-3 years younger than me and the worst part is that he is the same age as my younger brother (he is 18 and I'm turning 21 this year) . At first it was okay and didn't really think much about it. But with time and cultural differences I slowly feel the ..how do I put it "consequences" I guess. He's german so he doesn't really mind but I'm thai and growing up the asian way where you respect the older person it's getting difficult. I like being independent and doing things the way I like so my bf can't really say or do anything. And I just feel the age difference more and more. Sometimes he even acts exactly like my brother. I feel like I have to lead him and tell him how to behave like a mother. He's really attached to me and has to do everything with me. I don't really know if this relationship is gonna workout because I'm starting to feel like I'm the leading the guy but I want the guy to lead me but because I'm older I can't really imagine letting a younger guy lead me.

(no idea if anyone will get this)

[belle_kd1413]

As long as the guy's mature enough. 

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[Guest ZeroX3]

i'm 16 and he's 21...

it'll be a few years until he takes me seriously. i've got to... at least be legal first! haha

now hopefully no one will snatch him away in these 2~3 years

why does every1 think its 18, 18 is the legal age for porn yes, and drinking in some places. but for dating lol. 16 is the legal age for consent in almost all countries.

[Guest .autumn.]

If I was single I wouldn't date a guy a day younger than me but I dont mind dating a man 5 years older.

[Guest Naked-Fanatic]

however one of my cousins who is 22 is married to a 52 year old man and they live happily together. my family wasnt all that happy about it.

*GASP!* I agree that age doesn't matter, but that guy gotta be one wealthy man.

[Guest *mkcee]

;3

Anyone ever watch the TV series "Lie To Me" ?

This woman on that show states, and I quote - "The perfect relationship almost always stems from two individuals who are 5 or more years apart"

Hehe - not saying that's absolutely true, but there is something about dating someone who is a good few years your senior ...

[Guest aliciaatethesandwich]

I think it depends on the time and situation. Like when I was a freshman in high school I tried dating a freshman in college, but it was wayyyyy to complicated because of the age difference. Then I tried dating a guy a year younger than me, but that didn't work because he was way too immature. Even during my junior year I tried to date a freshman in college, but that was still too complicated. I like older guys but at this point, I'd much rather have somebody my age because we'll be about at the same level of maturity and we'll be experiencing the same situations at the same time (like college applications and prom and drivers' ed...). But once I go to college or graduate from college, I don't think it'll matter then. But younger will NEVER EVER EVER be an option every again. It felt like I was constantly babysitting a toddler. I know it might have been an individual thing, but...I don't really care. To each her own

[thanislim]

Age gaps are just numbers ~~ it's all about how compatible and mature you two are. I'm going steady with someone 10 years younger than me and we're doing very well. 

[egghead_1]

Above the legal age is all I require

[Guest sunsetflare]

Depends on the maturity and what you want out of a relationship, but there's also a perception of scale as well.

For example, think about two people dating with an age difference of 5 years. That sounds like a lot (for some people anyway). But when you think of it as a 23 year old dating a 28 year old it's not so bad. Neither is a 31 year old married to a 36 year old.

Scale down the ages, it's a 12 year old and a 18 year old. You're probably going to jail.

It's more that at different ages people are at different stages of life, but for most people once you're out of the education stage and you start working everyone more or less has the same maturity and mindset about what they want out of life.