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@bebebisous33, I like your first paragraph about how GS and JI got together; casually, mutual friends and why not? We don't know when GS started working with the bank, but the beginning of the relationship could have been when he was still in a band. If SH and GS were friends, JI may have been taken with SH and SI out to hear them. It obviously developed into a sexual relationship and that doesn't happen without some affection. So, they didn't start out passionately (lovey/dovey), but developed over time into a couple. At some point he started working at the bank and my speculation is that they started having friction then. He becomes too busy to spend time with her, they start arguing, somewhere he says he doesn't always win, and apparently he threatens repeatedly to break up because of his short fuse. When he says, "You can say you dumped me", it is probably because family (except his) and friends have accepted them as a couple and would expect some explanation. They were never really passionately in love, but lots of pairings and marriages are like this. GS refers to the honeymoon of the first month of a relationship, but says then it falls into a routine. He was satisfied with this, especially as his work life made more demands and I think he wanted to marry her because he didn't have the time, energy or even desire to start over. She expressed unhappiness to her friend before she met JH, friend doesn't really like her relationship with GS but JI tells JH later, that she had been confused for awhile, but just put off dealing with it. She has no role model relationships with which to compare hers. She wishes for "a passionate relationship where you don't get hurt", but she may not know if it is really possible. Then she refers to meeting JH as 3 seconds that can change your destiny. She has never felt this before and it pushes her to examine her feelings and relationship with GS. All relationships don't start out with this electricity, but it is hard to ignore if you keep running into each other. It is palpable and really hard to fight against. They are like magnets.

We haven't yet seen what GS will do in anger and retaliation, so he may end up being unredeemable. But two weeks ago I wrote: "I hope GS does not become a truly bad person. It is more realistic if he is just a flawed pretty decent guy who has never been affectionate or romantic. " I still hope this is true, but there is reason to be worried. He has a right to be hurt and angry at both of them; although she said, "You saw this coming," which is true, neither of them were really honest with him. And there is quite a bit of foreshadowing: I hope he is not violent, but he did grab her arm in the hall outside her apartment which she wrenched away. He said he has a short fuse to explain why he kept talking about breaking up. He scared JH's bank buddy, taking him outside to "have a talk." He really has no one to confide in to relieve his hurt and anger. He didn't tell his father or his musician buddies; he just downed alcohol which is always good for clear thinking (not). JI's mother said something about his temper, and both times JI and JH meet to talk in the park, she just assumes he is angry and wants to yell at her. Her father has a bad temper and throws fits at all of the women in his family, so she has been conditioned to expect it. The previews show him trying to guilt JH about ruining JI's life, which is the best strategy to use because JH already feels guilty. Someone will tell JI's father, probably GS or SI's sorry husband, and GS will think JI will have to obey her father. And suddenly he has turned the topic away from his problems as a boyfriend to "altruistic" concern for JI's life being ruined. This is probably his best option for controlling her. Of course, it won't work. JH on the other hand, doesn't seem to have a short fuse, always apologizes first, shows true concern for those he loves, has impulse control, has had a loving example of marriage in his family, uses humor to break tension, and all of his friends and acquaintances are loyal and concerned about him. As she says in preview, he has a warm heart. JH's maturity level is even higher than JI's because of his life experiences, and GS's father says JI is more mature than GS. The contrast between JH and GS is stark. Because of his immaturity, GS will have a hard time believing she hasn't lost her mind and accepting defeat. I just hope he does not resort to violence and become a truly bad character. Right now, I feel a little sorry for him, because he has no idea what he is up against. As the potential civil servant said, "Love."

Another reason he may have gone looking for his old musician buddies, is that all his newer acquaintances know JH. Remember he was new to basketball alumni group and was invited by coworker/subordinate at the bank, who is best friend s with JH and KS doesn't want to talk to him. Otherwise, in 4 years he really hasn't developed another friend group. What will happen to the basketball group now? JH has been participating longer, KS is new, but KS will paint JH as the bad guy and he is their contact to use school gym. JH's two best friends are not going to abandon him, but the potential civil servant is not on the team. I also thought it was interesting that musician friends knew about JI, so they probably started dating when he was a part of that group. She may have liked him better then when he was happier and more carefree. Maybe working at the bank caused him to be depressed and more disengaged. If his dad knew he dated her back then, it might explain why the dad thought she was just a casual, fun girlfriend that he would outgrow when he settled into a "real" career and chose someone more suitable for a banker's wife. That would also explain why they had never met her; they never saw her as serious wife material.

Hushshh, do you know about VPN? Canada Netflix is showing about an hour after it airs in Korea. I think US will air week by week sometime in July.

Dhakra said JI's mom is the real MVP and I totally agree. (Love this actress in several dramas.). It reminded me of Garrison Keillor's Lake Woebegone, a fictional small town in Minnesota, "where the women are strong, the men are good-looking and the children are all above average." I love the strong women characters in this drama and I believe they will be the problem solvers in this drama.

I, too, am an English literature teacher, if we are doing full disclosure. These dramas are so rich in character development and some of the writers are really good. I love this art form!

Richelle, I am worried about Eun-u. Something in the preview was JH saying he could endure anything except hurt to EU. What is that about? I can't really imagine how KS can hurt EU.

I agree with you, Dhakra, I think her directness made him like her. He was impressed with her and now may want to help son hold onto her. She is much smarter and braver than her father. She did a great job of boxing him in on her father's job offer, commending him for not tying it to personal considerations, but on merit. You can see why KS picked her; she probably would have stood up to his father for him, if he hadn't already lost her. When Dad thinks about it though, he probably will not want a daughter-in-law helping his son rebel against him. Surprised, but no.

Interesting subplot idea....Now that potential civil servant is backing off Jae In, what if the other banker friend. HU (?), tried to officially date Jae In? He has left all sorts of foreshadowing that he is desperate to meet girls, he wishes he had a girlfriend who had him on a leash, he called both sisters gorgeous, and seemed offended that Jae In asked him where he worked and didn't remember that he had already told her he worked at the bank. Interesting if he actually pursued her, potential civil servant might get jealous and realize he has feelings for her, and Jae In would finally have the attention she craves. I think she would pick the potential civil servant (PCS), even though her parents would prefer the other based on his resume. She became starry eyed about him at the karaoke place when she heard his beautiful, romantic voice. He is shorter and not as good looking, but she seems to truly like him and I think he is genuinely a responsible nice guy. The only hitch to this fantasy is that HU demanded that JH and PCS stay away from both sisters to avoid KS's (his boss) wrath. This could change once JI and KS really break up and KS shouldn't really care who Jae In dates.

I loved this episode! I loved JI, I loved her mother, I loved JH''s mother and father, I loved Eun-u, and even KS's father a little. Can't wait for tomorrow!!

The preview looks like Eun U somehow got to her library by himself and she is hugging him while JH comes in wide eyed scared because Eun U was missing. It looks like on the way out, JH, holding EU's hand, sees KS coming in library?

BLESS YOU!!!!!!

I am rewatching last episode to keep from going crazy until Eng subtitles are ready. In first scene where JI and KS are on the phone, she says You have always said, don't worry. I'll say you dumped me." It just dawned on me that this is only talking about if he breaks up with her. You wouldn't have to SAY someone dumped you if they really did. All their talk of break ups in the past has been on his side. He has never even contemplated her breaking up with him. I mean he sees himself as a catch and a step up for her, and so does her dad. His dad sees her as a step down, or at least not an asset. Another example of how unbalanced their relationship has been and how arrogant he is, even if it is condescendingly understanding.

Does anyone live tweet in English while the show is going on? I have to wait for Netflix.

GS will not easily let JI go. Remember he is satisfied with their lukewarm relationship. He told JH that after a month or so honeymoon couples settle into a routine of dating and should expect to stay together unless something (big) happens. He expects regular sex, tells JI couples don't have to ask permission for sex, puts work ahead of spending time with her, but thinks that will improve with marriage. With marriage, they will eat, sleep, and drive to work together and it will make everything so much easier (for him.). He picks up on her signals that she is unhappy and pushing him away as hormonal and in need of vitamins! It makes you wonder about his parents' marriage; is his father condescending to his mother? Are women respected in his home, or are they someone to be managed and manipulated, however benignly? He hasn't been in a hurry to push their relationship to marriage, because he knew there would be the inevitable argument with his father over JI, but since his father is pressing him to marry someone else, he realizes he will have to speak up for her now. I cannot tell if he ever loved JI, but I think his desire to hold onto her is more about not wanting to put in the time and energy to start over with someone else, liking that other men find her "gorgeous", liking his comfort level with JI, at least in the past, and his original attraction to her outspoken, stubbornness,; he needed her as an ally to stand up to his father. This same directness and stubbornness are going to come back to bite him now. When he suspects he is losing her and there imight be someone else, he becomes possessive and desperate, "Let's be more in love. I'll do better." That possessiveness will turn to anger at her and JH when he finds out. He seems like the type to act like he doesn't really care and not show his feelings in front of peers, but he has already told them about her and getting married, and he will be too embarrassed to let it go. The interview between JI and GS's father will be pivotal. I can't wait to see what happens there. I would love if the mother were introduced. JI refers to his parents, but GS and his father meet up at home and only a housekeeper is evident. Hmmmm