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THE ART OF BEING SINGLE

The Art of Contentment

For most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination. This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday, I’m sure most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love will always be tested. Someone more handsome,beautiful, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one. Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you’re willing to see it through. It means you don’t walk away every time things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry will never have. Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one. The art of contentment means you wouldn’t mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.

A Time to Know Yourself Better

Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself better. You can pursue different interest and passions without having to ask another person’s approval. It is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more than what you expect to be. Allow yourself to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out why you’re still romantically unattached. It’s all in the mind. Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one moment, was alone. Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don’t know who and what you really are?

A Choice Between Good and Best

Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it’s between good and best. Treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. Sometimes, you won’t hear music, or feel magic to know who’s best for you. The heart just knows and it doesn’t need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter. Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.

Take Your Time, The World Will Wait

Being married doesn’t guarantee that it will make your life happy. It doesn’t guarantee anything at all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the right intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering love, you’re better off unattached.

Living Life

Don’t put your life on hold for Mr. and Mrs. Right but don’t let it waste away with Mr.or Mrs. Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. It’s not about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you think would happen in the future. Live life now. Live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow life to surprise you with it’s most wonderful blessings.

Note: I did not write this. I found it on a guy's MySpace blog. I googled it to see who originally wrote it, but I just found that other people have posted it on their blogs without any specific source.

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aha.. all that optimism, there's only room now for pessimism.

but eh. freedom is awesome. i've realized that last night leaping for joy. haha

but you're not really single if you're emotionally attached to someone you can't have. >>'

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lol that made me feel great :)

i just recently broke up with a guy because something felt wrong.. now i know lol

i need time to find myself :]

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Single is an art that is very hard to master, my friend. Once mastered, you will see all the heavenly glory at your fingertip. :ph34r:

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it shows there are great times of being single!

in fact, it's great after awhile.

thanks !

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Yeah it really bothers me when people go from 1 boyfriend to another without even giving themselves time to live single !

The 1st 2 points are really good advice.

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Single is an art that is very hard to master, my friend. Once mastered, you will see all the heavenly glory at your fingertip. :ph34r:

Yeah. I think it has a lot to do with self-acceptance, getting over insecurities, low self-esteem, etc. It's really difficult especially when you're constantly comparing yourself with others. I don't think anyone can actually MASTER it. More like it's something that you have to learn from daily. Lol, man, I'm not one who has a way with words. I'm probably not making sense.

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Being single is okay... but being with that person who understands and connects with you is actually more enjoyable. :blink:

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^ Can't you seek to find that kind of person in a family member or best friend? Or, if you believe in Him, God? Afterall, a boyfriend can become a best friend, or vice versa, a best friend can become a boyfriend.

I love you for this topic! =D Makes me feel much better about being single.

I love the person who wrote this for writing it! =D

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Aw this cheered me up =]

There are some people I know who can't stay single - they have to be with someone else straight after each breakup,

so they go out clubbing and drinking to find random people.

I can understand that feeling, because post-breakup, I'm sure everyone feels lonely..

but after time, you do start to realise the benefits of singledom ;D

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lmao ive been single all my life :P so i guess ive had plenty of time to master it :)

and yes when i see some relationships im GLAD to be single.

on the other hand, some relationships make me WANT to NOT be single haha

but i know i'll eventually find someone so in the mean time, SINGLE LIFE!!! <33

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Being single is okay... but being with that person who understands and connects with you is actually more enjoyable. :blink:

True, but, while they're single they should try to make the most of the benefits of it, rather than just moping about being lonely, is the point of this post (I think?). I think it's a really nice post :) "Being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us." So true~ don't be pushed to get together with someone who you don't think is right for you. Wait for someone really special, it's totally worth it! <3

I spent a looong time being single before I met my fiancé, and I did a lot of things such as spontaneously deciding to go to Japan (it was a really enjoyable and memorable experience, really empowering and confidence-building too, to go to a different country on your own! ^^ I went karaoke-ing with the locals, haha <3), and pursued singing for a while (and got to go to London and sing live on TV, and met RnB singer Jay Sean ^^). Things that probably wouldn't have happened if I was taken. :)

Agree with the post it's better to wait it out and really get to know yourself and what you want, than just jump straight into a relationship just because everyone else is doing it (as the post says, some people get together for the wrong reasons and are just miserable- you're actually better off being single than in a relationship that just makes you unhappy!). Knowing, loving and accepting yourself will make it easier to find someone else to do the same :) I waited longer than all my friends to find someone (everyone else started dating in high school), but I didn't just wait around, I did a lot of stuff and had a lot of fun, and am now very happy and settling down ^.^ Funnily enough, I'm the first of my friends to get engaged, even though I was the last to start dating. xD My friends who started dating earlier.. pretty much all of them have actually split up, now. :blink:

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