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1 hour ago, VanillaSalt said:

Why does se hee keep a daily log of Ji-ho? Did he ever say why? I wonder if they'll address it before the show ends lol. I have mixed feelings about this, like it's cute because it's se hee and he's like the main guy, but it's also a little weird?? like why are you tracking her actions like your monitoring an app activity or something. hmm..

He is very logical and analytical, so I think it fits his character.  I am very similar to SH, and this is something I would do. It helps me remember details about people. 

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15 hours ago, nellebean said:

I haven't watched ep. 11 yet, but from what I've read here, I feel sorry for Horang. Poor girl, wasted her 20s on a Peter Pan. Getting married and raising children is not a bad dream- I think she's been unfairly criticized for selling herself short and whatnot. Being CEO is not for everybody... So I want to know, what is WS thinking? Why did he date her for the past 7 years? What's that horrible saying? "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free." Is that what happened here? 

 

I watch romantic dramas because of happy endings, so I want Horang to get her happy ending, too. And I don't think becoming a Red Coat Ajumma is her happy ending. Poor girl. 

 

It's interesting you blame WS because I personally feel more sympathy for him. According to my values, I believe women should be independent first and foremost, which is why I cannot support HR's dream at the expense of WS. However, if anything, they are both at fault for not properly communicating their goals in life and plans for the future. They should have discussed it at length instead of assuming or expecting the other would give in and accommodate when push comes to shove. This is essential for two people who want to share their lives together and because they lacked this foresight their relationship is inevitably jeopardized. 

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So SW's classmate has the green umbrella now, so does that make him Nam Joo's potential killer? I was wondering if he would resent SW for not getting Jae Chan to help his father's situation. Perhaps he will think if Jae Chan helped his father sooner, his father would not have felt so hopeless about being falsely convicted and committed suicide. I feel like SW's classmate will do something drastic. 

 

 

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@Ondine

 

You are right, I guess I was so fixated on BN I took those moments for granted, in which they demonstrate respect towards each other's boundaries and hardships, which usually isn't even addressed in Kdramas. I think it just irked me how far-fetched BN the stalker was, and in a drama that had rooted itself in realistic, heartfelt moments, it was very jarring. 

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I am let down by this week's episodes. It just doesn't feel as realistic or immersive as the previous episodes, and lost a lot of its charm. If I were to compare the stalker situation to the attempted rape situation, the latter was far better written. First of all, her co-worker was more developed character - he was established as someone who had been toying with Ji Ho's feelings for years and then taken advantage of that. In addition, in terms of how their actions panned out - for the attempted rape, Ji Ho was the one who defended herself, and it added to her character growth by leading to her decision to quit. Ji Ho had no agency in these episodes with Bok Nam, it was all about how her contrived relationship with him affected Se Hee. Finally, it just felt redundant to have Ji Ho harassed not once but twice in this show.

 

I know I'm like the only one complaining on this forum so sorry for ruining the mood lol I just wanted to share my opinion, that's all. I'm watching 2 other dramas (While You Were Sleeping and Go Back Couple) and this one is my favourite so I guess I have higher expectations for it. 

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22 minutes ago, watermelon2512 said:

 

It's because the writer make the character SH and JH  both are uniq and totally opposite each other but have similarity in term of reserved, quite, introverted, deep thinker, so it is expected people with character like them to have a slow pace relationship.

BN character is supposed to be unlikable in certain way to make the character of SH still shine. It's also a lesson to learn that good looking is not the most important fact when it come to good relationship, but personality does.

This is a "slice of life" theme drama so it is expected to get as close to reality on how people who initially will react to a certain situation.

Too much unrealistic if SH and JH have a fast pace relationship.

The story it's not just pointing all at romance and lovey dovey moment (apply to all couple in the show including JH friends) but it's to show how JH and SH character to overcome their weakness and their lackness until they both can understand and accept each other weakness that's how people survive in a long term healthy adult relationship and that is the reality.

I understand the pacing of their relationship. I like that it is slow-paced and I would even be satisfied if they don't end up together until the last episode. I also wasn't saying that I wanted them to be lovey dovey. I think you misunderstood my opinion. 

 

My problem is BN's character, he is a plot device and that makes him unrealistic. He does make SH shine but that's because he is very one-dimensional and contrived, the Obvious Bad Guy. I would have liked to see SH and JH's relationship develop in other ways. For example, they can share moments of compassion or kindness to each other. Or they can learn more about each other's past and the hardships they experienced. We still know very little about SH. I enjoyed the previous episodes in which we were shown how they had similar interests (soccer), and compatible lifestyles (likes cleanliness). I enjoyed the episodes where we got to see them caring for each other in genuine situations (like when SH extended his kindness to JH's mother). This love triangle situation with BN feels manufactured and falls short of those "slice of life" themes. 

 

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1 hour ago, mapleoaks4 said:

Is it just me, or is the thread slower today? Maybe not many people liked ep7. I know personally it wasn't my favorite amongst the 7. 

Personally, I did not like it that much. I'm still somewhat dissatisfied with the introduction of a romantic rival. I stand by my opinion there were many better ways to advance SH and JH's relationship, and jealousy and rivals are more suitable later on in the story. It doesn't help that I don't like Bok Nam's character. If they were going to introduce a romantic rival I wish they made him more interesting and have more depth. He's just Generic Pretty Boy (w/ Evil Intentions). A contrived plot device. While other episodes offered refreshingly realistic and organic characters and relationships that drew me in and immersed me, with this one I felt like I was watching just another Kdrama. 

 

That being said, I know I sound harsh. I still quite enjoy this drama and given the quality of previous episodes I trust the writers to know what they're doing and continue delivering that quality. 

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@Fiona0754The 38 year old woman next to Se Hee was removed from the relationship chart? Does that mean the writers have decided to remove her character and changed the story (this drama is still in the process of filming right, it's not a preproduction)?

 

I'm disappointed because we know so much about Ji Ho by now but Se Hee is still very much a mysterious figure. I was excited by that relationship chart because it showed he experienced some hardships/relationship problems in the past that influences his behaviours and attitudes today. I really want to know more about him and his motivations, feel like his character needs to be fleshed out a lot before they jump the gun with the romance. 

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6 hours ago, Jillia said:

There are smarter ways to show Ji-ho that something is lacking in the relationship with Se-hee. And there are smarter ways to make Se-hee realize this thing between him and Ji-ho isn't just a contract marriage anymore.

 

I loved how they showed the difference between Ji-ho and Se-hee and the couple in the subway, the guy taking care of his girlfriend, offering her a seat and not leaving to take another empty seat 6 meters away from her. It made Ji-ho think.

 

I would think the writer can do more stuff like that. Also, Ji-ho is in her 30s and has friends who date but never dated? I mean I can live with that but to bring in a guy to make her realize what it looks like to have somebody being interested in you - just ON TIME when the contract marriage happened? Cliché drama I personally don't need. Also Ji-ho isn't 16, she is 30.

 

Also... there is no need for a guy to make Se-hee jealous or to make him realize he actually likes Ji-ho. Why not escalate their relationship to a point she confesses and leaves and Se-hee realizes he can't live without her. It's much more elegant and somehow without the whole second "lead" drama going on.

 

I found the whole second lead syndrome swoonworthy and cute when I was in my early 20s - like Goong was MY second lead syndrome, okay? But I'm in my 30s now and I feel like bringing in a dude, so to create drama between two 30 something people doesn't sit well with me. I know it will certainly make the younger viewers swoon (and maybe some 30 year old viewers as well.) and squee and that's fine.

 

And I mean if the writer in the end surprises me by breaking the cliché I'm good but I feel like we're going into classic/boring k-drama territory and I'm not interested in that. This drama is better than that.

Woah, how did you read my mind?? XD

Seriously, I have the exact same thoughts as you. I'm only 19, but I can still recognize writing pitfalls and cliches. I feel like there were a dozen different ways they could have developed their relationship without bringing in Generic Pretty Boy to cause feelings of jealousy, especially when they've spent 0 scenes showing how Se Hee has any romantic interest in Ji Ho. Like, I'm pretty sure he needs to be interested in her first in order to be jealous, so it feels out of place they're introducing a romantic rival now.