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Looking forward to the Special Episode tonight, hopefully it will make saying goodbye to the show a bit easier.
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So sad to see W end, but I'm glad it was a happy ending. So many feels. I'm going to miss this drama - have a W shaped hole in my heart right now.
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Hello friends and fellow W-addicts
What is everyone watching while watching for the next episode?
I keep trying to find something so I can stay sane and stop thinking about W but am still struggling to do so - haven't felt this way about a drama in a long, long time.
I keep replaying the only 4 episodes we've had gah.
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iamthewildturtle said: How much of a factor are looks?
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suju_lovee said: oooroosay said: would it annoy you if your girlfriend always asked or wondered what you were doing?
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raymondc27 said: how would you feel if you saw your ex in another country?
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livingforhistory said: Got a question for the ladies.
So what if the "nice guy act" isn't an act? What if a guy just genuinely tends to have a big heart and tends to put other people first? Is he still a weakling pushover that doesn't deserve anyone? -
donporkuloin said: What are reasons behind a girl or woman being a man eater?
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Random thoughts: (SPOILERS)
I feel weird now that Secret is over *cannot comprehend*.. I want to watch them be all happy and have cute kids and blahh. But in all, I'm actually really happy with the ending. Personally, it would've been too makjang if Min Hyuk did the whole "takedown" thing and it would've gone against his "idealistic" speech he had about chaebols and the real world on the rooftop, because he grew up in this world and he knows it, and he was responsible to his dad, the hotel in remembrance of his mother and even Gwang Min who went to jail for them.
I love how YJ breaks it off and her reasoning was that she couldn't allow him to abandon his father for love because she did that and regretted it - it was eye opening because I didn't really think of that before, but it's so true: it's because she sacrificed and took the blame for Do Hoon that her father became traumatised and led to his death later on.
I totally understand why she didn't take San back. I mean, he was already settled in with his new family who loved him, and he was already so protective of his mother - that if she did take him back, he would resent her. It's better off being an aunt to him and later when he's older (like 18 etc) she and his mother can reveal the truth. Because in his mind, his adoptive mother is his mother and so even if she is his birth mother, she can't replace him. Besides, taking him back would be totally destructive to all parties anyways - the family will be torn with the loss of their child (and they were innocent in the whole thing), San will be sad and depressed from being separated from his family and resent his mother and she will be hurt seeing that and having broken relations with her son. I think this way, it works out for everyone because she can still see him and work on building a connection so he see's her as a second mother anyways, and he will get to have two families who both love him.
I also appreciated the fact that scene where YJ asks DH whether he realises how much he stole from her and how much he's missing out on because that was always it - he was saw how far he had come and looked toward going to the top but he never stopped to realise what he was losing. He kept seeing that wrongs were being done to him and he was forced into the circumstances, but really he was actively making those decisions and he lost out on being a father to his own kid. I prefer that to a ruthless take down because it allows for redemption and reminds me that at the very start, DH did have a heart. So it was nice to see that a bit... and it allows for some closure apart from the whole revenge thing. I love how this ties in with the whole Wuthering Heights reference of how destructive revenge was.
My only gripe is that airport scene where MH walks past YJ. They should've just reunited then and there and *inserts more cute adorable scenes, where they go and be awesome "godparents" to San* Though the bakery scene where she pulls him in for the kiss when he was being a tease was so damn awesome and rewarding. Bah.
Can I say that the producer/writer is awesome and they were true to their words when they said the ending would be unexpected? I mean, I've read that people found it anticlimatic, but to me the reversal was that MH finally showed the maturity to let bygones be bygones and take some responsibility for his actions and his company (and also because Secret was a melodrama and those are terribly makjangy and frustrating). Yes, 'justice' wasn't served by MH and YJ but DH did finally own up by his own choice and this was better for me because it allowed all the four leads to have their story arc and their growth. It would've been frustrating if the other two leads had to be these annoying a**holes the whole way through just to make our leads seem ever-noble, when originally they were all 'good' but made bad choices (and I really mean all of them, including the leads, because despite their different motives their choices were stupid - ie, YJ going to jail for DH) that led them down their own paths.
Final complaint: I want more happy scenes. Are they really going to show BTS clips next week or did I read wrong?? -
Mr-2PM said: Hey ladies,
I have a question regarding how to get close to a girl.
Long story short, We're both in university with one class together. We've made some small talk here and there before and after class.
How do I go to the next step? How do I get close to her and go about to ask her to hang out?
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perl88 said: Just finished watching ep. 10...as usual a great epsiode..
Poor YJ..i really feel for her..all she suffered and now to find out that the man she sacrificed herself to is none other than a cruel bastard who ruins her life and took from her the most important people in her world - her son and her dad..words can't describe how detestful he is...(and superb acting of BSB..i drop my invisible hat for him..wow i really cursed him this ep.haha. it's makes me wonder when will come the day he will play a good character once again like he did in shining inheritance and dong yi)
But the thing that most made me shocked was what he told her in the car - "you drove the car. you said so yourself"...gosh if i was YJ in that moment i would slap him so hard not like the slightly slap SY gave him.
As many people here said it feels like next week we'll have a sick MH and maybe YJ nursing him..that will be nice to watch!
The conversation between MH and step mom about the music box didn't gave me the answers i expected to but i still feel there is more than that. why step mom insisted on keeping it? maybe it's hers on the first place. and how she reacted when he said ommoni..
Another thing that was intersting beside MH - YJ scenes was with the book wuthering heights and the summery YJ wrote to MH. the main protagonist in the book didn't get the chance to say to the girl that he loved her and died in the end. i soo hope it won't be the case here! it will be too sad. i hope it's not some clue implemented for us and it's just to make MH understand that in his way of revenge he misses things he is not aware to them right now but when he'll get to understand it will be too late..
In one of the comments to the ep. in dramaholic i liked what someone wrote there - maybe now YJ will start her revenge towards DH , MH will assist her and in the process she will fall for him and figure out how good person can he be. i want happy end to the drama. YJ and MH so deserve that after all they went through! and of course i hope san hee is alive and YJ will find him. -
I think the whole "outbreak" of this mudslinging is really from all the threads about "Do guys..." and "Do girls..." popping up. Honestly, you can't generalise half the population along gendered constructs and not expect people to bring out gendered stereotypes. People need to realise that your gender doesn't determine how you act in a relationship, it's a multitude of factors. When it all boils down to it, it's just about difference in perspective and does not have to be a male vs female thing. People have different experiences, different values. I mean even on an issue like women being homemakers you will have women being for it and women being against it and men for it and men against it... It's never going to be all men are for it and all women are against it.
I think leaving those "do guys..." or "do girls..." questions are a better fit for the Ask the ladies/fellas threads because generally people are more open to the POINT OF VIEW of the opposite sex there and are less defensive because they're asking for advice and see it as simply a DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE. Just my 2 cents based on my own observations.
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Ladies' date=' do you like androgynous men?[/quote']
Nope. Even if i find some pretty boys attractive, I probably wouldn't date them cos they might be more high maintenance than I am.
Question for Asian girls: Why the double standards when dating Asian dudes vs non-Asian dudes - you know what double standards I'm talking about - don't even front. (http://memegenerator.net/instance/39255418)Question for non-Asian girls: How many Asian guys have you crushed on or dated?
Don't really know where you're getting at with the double standards thing tbh. I've been attracted to both Asians and non-Asians.
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False.
The next person is content with their life.
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Swearing is the only one in that list that wouldn't be a deal breaker. The others would have me running a mile away before any relationship even began.
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If you text with a guy every single day, for several weeks (or months) straight. And frequently wonder what he's up to. And want to tell him what you're up to also. And get concerned or nervous when he doesn't reply. And play that "who texts first" game with him.
Does that mean you have at least some sort of feelings for him?
In other words, do you think it's possible to do all that above and have absolutely no feelings for him at all?
I would say yes there could be no feelings involved when you're texting someone daily, but add in the whole nervous when he doesn't text-looking forward to his texts etc is kind of indicative of some interest at the very least as opposed to just chatting to pass the time.
Do you give people second chances?Say that you were plain looking/overweight/not rich and a guy you liked rejected you/showed no interest in you/looked down on you, and then you work hard to improve yourself by using makeup/losing weight/getting a well paying job (for yourself, not for him), and then all of a sudden, he is interested in you and starts talking to you heaps. Would you turn him down the way he turned you down or would you forgive him and go out with him? (This is assuming that your relationship level with him stays the same)
I often see this story line in Asian dramas/K-Pop videos/manga and anime, and 9 out of 10 times the girl will reject him at first thinking revenge is sweet, but then gets together with him in the end. I'm sitting on the bench with this because I can't decide which option is more reasonable.
Well it depends. If he suddenly likes me for my improved looks and not just my personality then probably not. If it was instead where we just developed feelings for each other at different paces then perhaps yes. Also if depends on if I even like the guy still. I'm very quick at moving on especially if I think the guy is a prick so it's unlikely I'll still be all over him.
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I don't look too much into it. I offer to pay for dates but don't fuss if he insists on paying, I just offer to pay for something else. I'm cool with letting guys pay for dates during the courtship but during the actual relationship I'm more insistent on taking turns or buying each other gifts.
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Do you count New Years or birthday kisses as cheating? Or is it only cheating if your s/o hides it from you?
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so speaking of tattoos, are girls really "fine" with it if a guy they were interested in didn't discuss it or tell them about them?
like a very large one that mostly stays covered infront of almost everyone? and how about noticable scars? is it ok to just keep the past to myself? is it better to simply make up a nice easy to listen to story like "i fell into something playing basketball" or "this means that and it looks cool"?
i think one of the most compliated thing about women is when they say "its okay if you dont want to tell me" because man is it really ok?!
When I say that it's my way of showing respect and giving the guy space, but of course, deep down I would still be curious. I wouldn't hold it against him to keep it to himself but if we've been together for years, and I randomly ask I would kind of expect him to have trusted me by then to tell me. But thats only if I'm still curious - though unlikely.
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girls what do you think of tattoos on guys? does it make them more attractive or change your first impression of them, and if so in what way?
im actually kinda curious. tattoos back in the day within my social groups used to think so lowly of tattoos until one mysterious point in life even some of my nerd friends are getting tattoos on their backs, arms, etc. its like a growing trend that is slowly being accepted
i personally dont like tattoos and i dont plan on getting one. i dont judge anyone or anything and it doesn't affect me in any way besides letting them in my house in front of my mother who hates the beep out of tattoos
edit: fk i just noticed there is some grammatical errors but i'm too hungover or w/e to fix
Depends on the actual tattoo itself though I'm pretty neutral in that it doesn't really add any extra points or subtract unless its an ugly or stupid tattoo. I don't like anything too over the top though because that probably would not make a good first impression on my parents lol.
Ps, the earring ... Not a fan of the humongous holes... It just looks painful to me so nopes.
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inxomnia said:
ajlee613 wrote: »
i think that statistic, like a great majority of it is when girls are drunk and have sex with the person the ywere talking too all night long but were too drunk to aprove of actual sex during the time of sex.
in this type of situation, i would not blame the guy for getting with the girl. and saying its absolutly not the girl's fault for getting that drunk, is foolish as well.
most rapes are by people who are close to the person who was raped, family members, friends, S/O which is why it is hard to report because if its your friend "well it kind of just happened" they dont really know "was that even rape?" same with if its ur S/O. as for family or something like that, it is hard to turn ur back on family and that is indeed disgusting to do something like that to ur own blood.
as for some dude jumping out of the shadows with a weapon and raping some girl, i'd say those are mostly reported...
those huge statistics are accounting for a lot of stuff and is misleading. kind of like saying cigarettes kill. how? some one been smoking for their whole life and dies at 70, life expectancy for that person was 75, thus cigarettes killed him. like what? does that really count? it could have been mcdonalds or stress or something else that made him die that early.
many organizations who try to "do good" blow up their stats as a way to "spread awareness" but if you really look into it... it just turns them into liars...
if i was a judge and a girl said her date raped her after they been flirting all night and she got black out drunk, i most likely would just let the guy go too... im not saying this is the case all the time. im just pointing out that more than likely, MOST of that 97% fall under similar circumstances...
honestly rape really grinds my gears. someone just violently forcing themself on someone else is sickening in my mind. however a lot of cases that are called "rape" are nothing like that scene in my mind at all. rather you can chalk it up to "some stuff just happend after a crazy night"
my point is... the whole anger, rage, power rampage image of rape, is a very small minority of what these statistics consider to be rape. interviews with serial rapists (the ttype mentioned above) show that indeed they target certain types of women. easy to take off clothing, hair in a bun or pony tail (easy to grab) not paying attention (drunk) or other wise an easy target (alone in a dangerous area) ALL things that could be EASILY avoided.. its as simple as putting ona seat belt. sure its a little uncomfortable not to wear ur favorite pony tail style, but when the seat belt saves your life when some one else crashes into you, its the LOGICAL choice.
Rape is rape. If a girl at any point says no or indicates no, a guy taking it any further is rape. And your post is a prime example of why we need more awareness. It seems you understand that a lot of the time rape happens between people you know in situations where the girl is usually vulnerable. It is within the guys entire control whether to violate her or not. No girl drunk or unconscious is automatically asking a guy to have sexual intercourse with her, most likely she isn't even a sober state of mind. Rape has legally been all about consent - that's why awareness programs have always been about "no means no". It's in instances like these, where guys who don't think of themselves as the "rapist" or "perpetrator" that awareness can work because they aren't sociopaths or psychopaths. They are just normal, horny guys who usually would cower at the thought of being a convicted rapist in jail. They are the ones who make a stupid, uninformed decision and deal with the consequence. It's the guys who don't realise that drunken sex is not just a one night stand, it can be rape if it isn't mutual. It's the guys who assume that any girl who dressed provocatively is sexually promiscuous that need to be educated that that is not the case.
There is a difference between that and random attackers, with random attackers its never about the girl. It's always about being in the wrong place at the wrong time (and that could be anywhere at any given time of day) because those rapes are triggered by something in the rapists. They are not the social norms, and they don't do it for purely sexual reasons but for the power trip as well - for the feeling of dominance.
So why place yourself in a state where unscrupulous men can take advantage of you? In a perfect world, you could go out NUDE and no one would touch you, no one would whistle and men would lay down jackets over puddles for you.
Doesn't happen in this society and if you can't change society or the offenders, change yourself. Why risk mind-numbing physical and emotional trauma to prove a point?
I agree with SunniRise that caution is necessary but to change yourself and what don't ever go out with guys or drink alcohol, don't ever wear anything slightly revealing ? I find it so irritating that guys find it so easy to tell a girl what she's supposed to do in order not to get raped, but you guys can influence guys that yknow that girl is way too drunk for it to be anything other than rape, that its not cool to be take advantage of that girl and see where it goes, to perhaps be around and actually proactive in preventing drunken rapes instead of just being ignorant. What you guys don't realise is that even if they're at a party with a lot of drinking, there were probably people there she trusted to look out for her and not take advantage of her in that state. And even if that is naive, it doesn't make her any more blameworthy.
I'm not saying a girl shouldn't look to protect herself. But the way you guys are suggesting it be done, is basically an adopting of the victim blaming mentality and exactly why rape victims can't come out with reporting their rapists. Remember the predator was the one who violated the victim. There is a difference between "being cautious" and "you're putting yourself in danger".
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@therealtk ^ like what she said it is different for different people.but even if someone's working it doesn't mean you're banned from texting them as long as you're not like blowing up their phone. it's not like you're annoying them every 5 minutes asking them questions. if they're busy they'll just reply when they're free. but if you're expecting a response right away or you're in a hurry that obviously would not be the best time to text them. i honestly don't see what the big deal is about texting people during a certain time. if they don't feel like responding/can't respond then they'll just respond later. but then again, it is different for different people. some people don't like to be disturbed while they're working and some could care less and probably doesn't even pay attention to when/what time someone texts them. i know when i'm busy or at work i don't even check my phone.
i just find it ridiculous how much people overthink small issues like this.maybe i'm just too whatever about these types of situations.
who knows. Yeah I understand what you guys are saying, I was just being sarcastic! ㅠ_ㅠ
But my first thought was girls didn't like being text at a certain time. So that's what confused me, but after I read some comments I fully understood what was being said.
Hehe,
anyways thanks though! Best way to gauge her texting preferences is by how fast she replies. If she doesn't mind texting at all hours, she'll reply quickly at all hours. If you notice she replies slowly at certain hours eg work hours, then notice that and text her at night.
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I'm a 32C so I'd rather be 32D, I know a lot of girls say it doesn't fit with the petite frame... but I'd rather have curves than look like an elementary kid even more. To be honest, there are some cons like the whole running gets uncomfortable and stuff, but on the plus side, it fills out clothes better in some cases.
who knows. 
anyways thanks though!
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Just wondering, does anyone have the link or page number where I can find all the eng subbed BTS scenes?
Already suffering from post-W withdrawals.