inxomnia
-
Posts
1,770 -
Joined
-
Last visited
Content Type
Profiles
Forums
Events
Posts posted by inxomnia
-
-
i think that statistic, like a great majority of it is when girls are drunk and have sex with the person the ywere talking too all night long but were too drunk to aprove of actual sex during the time of sex.
in this type of situation, i would not blame the guy for getting with the girl. and saying its absolutly not the girl's fault for getting that drunk, is foolish as well.
most rapes are by people who are close to the person who was raped, family members, friends, S/O which is why it is hard to report because if its your friend "well it kind of just happened" they dont really know "was that even rape?" same with if its ur S/O. as for family or something like that, it is hard to turn ur back on family and that is indeed disgusting to do something like that to ur own blood.
as for some dude jumping out of the shadows with a weapon and raping some girl, i'd say those are mostly reported...
those huge statistics are accounting for a lot of stuff and is misleading. kind of like saying cigarettes kill. how? some one been smoking for their whole life and dies at 70, life expectancy for that person was 75, thus cigarettes killed him. like what? does that really count? it could have been mcdonalds or stress or something else that made him die that early.
many organizations who try to "do good" blow up their stats as a way to "spread awareness" but if you really look into it... it just turns them into liars...
if i was a judge and a girl said her date raped her after they been flirting all night and she got black out drunk, i most likely would just let the guy go too... im not saying this is the case all the time. im just pointing out that more than likely, MOST of that 97% fall under similar circumstances...
honestly rape really grinds my gears. someone just violently forcing themself on someone else is sickening in my mind. however a lot of cases that are called "rape" are nothing like that scene in my mind at all. rather you can chalk it up to "some stuff just happend after a crazy night"
my point is... the whole anger, rage, power rampage image of rape, is a very small minority of what these statistics consider to be rape. interviews with serial rapists (the ttype mentioned above) show that indeed they target certain types of women. easy to take off clothing, hair in a bun or pony tail (easy to grab) not paying attention (drunk) or other wise an easy target (alone in a dangerous area) ALL things that could be EASILY avoided.. its as simple as putting ona seat belt. sure its a little uncomfortable not to wear ur favorite pony tail style, but when the seat belt saves your life when some one else crashes into you, its the LOGICAL choice.
Rape is rape. If a girl at any point says no or indicates no, a guy taking it any further is rape. And your post is a prime example of why we need more awareness. It seems you understand that a lot of the time rape happens between people you know in situations where the girl is usually vulnerable. It is within the guys entire control whether to violate her or not. No girl drunk or unconscious is automatically asking a guy to have sexual intercourse with her, most likely she isn't even a sober state of mind. Rape has legally been all about consent - that's why awareness programs have always been about "no means no". It's in instances like these, where guys who don't think of themselves as the "rapist" or "perpetrator" that awareness can work because they aren't sociopaths or psychopaths. They are just normal, horny guys who usually would cower at the thought of being a convicted rapist in jail. They are the ones who make a stupid, uninformed decision and deal with the consequence. It's the guys who don't realise that drunken sex is not just a one night stand, it can be rape if it isn't mutual. It's the guys who assume that any girl who dressed provocatively is sexually promiscuous that need to be educated that that is not the case.
There is a difference between that and random attackers, with random attackers its never about the girl. It's always about being in the wrong place at the wrong time (and that could be anywhere at any given time of day) because those rapes are triggered by something in the rapists. They are not the social norms, and they don't do it for purely sexual reasons but for the power trip as well - for the feeling of dominance.
-
starsky00 said:
I just finished watching RM ep 147..the episode was sooo funny..i still amazed how Green Team win ( knowing they have the least people among the 3 teams)..-JIHYOJIHYOJIHYOJIHYO- hahaha..Mong ji is so pretty..and i love how she gave her chicken (the one she caught) to HAHA..she is so kind..
:x -
inxomnia said:
melisapurnamasari said:
shraiberg said:
i thought running man's ratings were going down. i hope this show goes on forever!
yeahhh, i see... but i'll be forever fans of running man. i hope many runnning man's fans will be like me so the rating won't going down anymore kekekeke. I think why running man's rating is going down because recently many guest now from actor or actress. maybe if runningman's guest is big bang,suju, shinee, cn blue and other idol's pop the rating will be increase. i think PD nim must be more creative so that running man's fans won't boring
"JI HYO JI HYO JI HYO JI HYO JI HYO JI HYO JI HYO"
That and the popularity of DWAYG. If I was in Korea, I'd be so torn between those two shows.
true on the DWAYG, it is becoming big. alot of celebrities have been coming out supporting this show. DWAYG is fresh and unique in a way that it promotes family-togetherness. not surprising if one day it will surpass RM in ratings..
Yeah well I think it's because RM has been on for so long so whilst it has a good fan base, it also has higher expectations to fulfil and it's a game/competition focused show even though the cast chemistry is also key, whilst DWAYG is more on showcasing the cute interactions of the cast.
-
melisapurnamasari said:
shraibergsaid: i thought running man's ratings were going down. i hope this show goes on forever!
-
Thought the ep was alright, some new and fun missions but I kind of hoped there was a name tag mission instead because the guests were young flower boys! I mean, I get it when they do other missions when the guests are older, but yeah, I guess since it was at a university, they wanted to provide some 'fanservice' and let the fans get involved. Also, I feel like the guests were proactive with the missions (hardworking) but so .. quiet. Like KSH rarely talked, he just smiled and laughed though I felt him wanting to talk but hesitating; same with HW to an extent.
-
I look at the frame - so shoulders I guess, then arms and legs (chicken legs even with a hot upper body is a bit -.-). That said, I'm not too picky with bodies as long as he's not skinnier than me and he's within healthy body weight.
-
I say break up with her. You clearly don't value the relationship enough to understand her concerns or try to communicate about it. It seems all you care about is how it would affect you and how volatile the break up would be. It just sounds like you're over the relationship at this point and frankly, I think she deserves better.
-
marjoriefayesaid:
inxomniasaid: Yay! Kim Woo Bin on Running Man soon.... cannot contain my feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeels. Cannot wait gah <333 Especially with Jong Suk too omgahhhh
Ps. pardon my spaz
-
Yay! Kim Woo Bin on Running Man soon.... cannot contain my feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeels. Cannot wait gah <333 Especially with Jong Suk too omgahhhh
Ps. pardon my spaz -
I've never regretted it because I've never had a crush on someone seriously. I've always fiddled with the idea of who that person was and how we'd be together. I can't commit to anything more serious so I never have to worry about actually falling for them. I prefer to be chased more anyways.
-
@little girl: I'm sorry I can't really remember even though I tried backtracking. The gist of the article was about how daring their (her and Jun.K's) skinship was and hinting at dating prospects which she denied and just said they've become closer sunbae-hoobae. And that she made good friends thanks to R&I. Also, she mentioned that the group does have a kakao chatroom but she doesn't go in there because she doesn't have a phone.
-
Man, now when I hear the song 'I want to kiss you' by Jung Yeop... I think of a sad-looking Jonghoon waiting for Yewon... Still sad over these two... ahh what could have been.. !
-
@little girl: I think that article may have been translated a couple of pages back.
And Season 3's rumoured cast looks pretty appealing! -
http://netizenbuzz.blogspot.com.au/2013/02/yoon-se-ah-and-julien-kang-to-leave-wgm.html?m=1
This makes me so sad. So I'll think of it as : they're planning to really date so they want privacy. Seriously the start of WGM this season was so promising.. Only to plummet dramatically
-
idless said: If they are going to have Season 3, why not revamp it to Celebrities & Non-Celeb guests? They can also invite actors/actress & veteran idols, who would be more serious at dating prospect.
-
Just a random thought, but I feel like there may not be a R&I 3 any time soon, because since the first two seasons were filmed consecutively, the second batch of idols weren't influenced by the previous groups interactions and feedback. With a third season, since it'll be filmed later and they've seen the two previous seasons, chances are the idols may be less real or more conscious of the viewers and not be themselves.
@akikisetsu: That's cute to see! Glad that they're stills supporting each other
-
-
Ahh thanks again for the translation.
I think definitely in this scenario.. since it was so short, that's why it turned out this way. I feel like Yewon was definitely wavering.
Minhyuk.. from his words, why does it sound like he was kind of using Jiwon to make Yewon jealous with "wanting to see her reactions"? -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAZ6D79lCKE
New eng-captioned interview -
^ Ditto .. and Mir? He wasn't even that bad in first season.
It seems netizen only really care about GNA to be honest.. well she is the most popular one. -
Wow .. what?
http://netizenbuzz.blogspot.com.au/2013/02/tv-spoilers-romantic-idol.html
Article: 'The Romantic' G.NA cries over winning 0 final votes
Source: Mydaily via Nate
1. [+313, -21] G.NA has enough charms to meet way better men
2. [+283, -16] G.NA seemed nice.. I don't think she was able to find a pair because the men weren't that great
3. [+272, -19] Kids like Jonghoon who are so full of it are the ones complaining about not having a girlfriend later
4. [+246, -9] Why is G.NA on this show ㅜㅜ She doesn't need to be begging for love.. There's gotta be tons of male celebrities that hit on her, so why come on the show for this embarrassment ㅜㅜ
5. [+224, -9] They shouldn't run programs that leave people feeling hurt...
6. [+225, -14] She's not someone that would receive 0 votes outside of the program
7. [+195, -3] Why is this show still on air? It's not like they can date for real anyway, it's basically playing with the emotions of other people.. The only thing left in the end is a wound. You can end up like G.NA with zero votes and nothing but wounds.. or actually fall for someone but not end up with them and still end up with wounds.
8. [+196, -11] Jonghoon seemed too selfish. He could've considered the feelings of others while still being nice to the girl he wants but he treated G.NA like she was nothing, said whatever he wanted to her, and nagged at her to hurry up when they were going to eat. To Hyewon, he acted as if he could climb up to the sky and pick a star for her.. It was obvious that he's a selfish kind of guy who only cares about his own emotions. Jonghoon, it's not good to be so cruel to a woman tsk tsk tsk
9. [+204, -24] I was so turned off by Choi Jonghoon after watching this
10. [+200, -22] A bit disappointed with Choi Jonghoon after this program...
11. [+158, -2] What's the point of this program? They all act like they're dating or interested in each other but once the cameras are off, they're really nothing but strangers.. What a useless show
12. [+137, -8] I became Choi Jonghoon's anti after watching this.. ㅋㅋ It's great that he only has feelings for one woman but that doesn't mean he has the right to completely treat any woman who's also interested in him like trash. And just because he's the senior, he goes and tries to lecture his friend Minhyuk and orders him around..
13. [+122, -3] Out of seasons 1 and 2, Mir and Choi Jonghoon probably gained the most antis ㅋ -
pabuya said:
OMG, IDK but the ending makes me smile, all of them are so GREAAAT and COOL, although kindda sad, but the their SMILES in the end makes me happy for them, even though its sad or Happy smile, its just that, these idols dont need to pretend to please everyone.
I like how Yewon returned for being so jolly, its really different when hes with JH, there sad in her eyes, i love JH but definitely i do think that Yewon know they cant click..
-
Man, I feel that I've been so emotionally invested in this season that even though Yewon (my newly found bias) got her happy ending, I still feel so bad for the others - especialy Jonghoon (another new bias). Sighhh.... I adore this cast still.
-
akikisetsu said:
said: jonghoon looks hurt:( if only minhyuk choosed jiwon maybe theres a happy ending for jh and yw
If You Got Raped....
in soompi hangout
Posted
ajlee613 said: inxomnia said: