lol I have tried to sum up my impression with Ryan, hope you enjoy it:
Ryan Gold - a liberal we need more of
As Her Private Life is coming to final episodes, I feel like people have tried to de-code Ryan Gold to every detail to explain why this man is so attractive, admirable and, at the same time, swoony.
To me, I have always seen Ryan as a standard liberal who is far more open-minded and progressive than many alive men in the whole world. Raised in the US and being a prominent artist, it’s not hard to understand why Ryan is considered liberal. Because art itself can’t exist if people don’t respect the opinions of others while at the same time stand firm with their own ones. Otherwise, artists are no more than copying machines that produce standard excel sheets.
With that being said, Ryan is still considered a strong example of how liberals would believe and behave in real life (Please excuse my English!)
1. He respected a personal decision, even if it’s not exactly favorable to him.
Don’t we all melt when Ryan found out Deok Mi’s fangirling status and acted so cool about it? Fangirling might intrigue negative impressions, but if you think of it as a religion, it makes much more sense. Just like a liberal who respects religion right of others, that “I believe in and worship to Budda but I respect your choice to pray to God, even if I will never consider him my God”. Ryan has treated DM’s fangirling like it’s her freedom of religion to put her belief in whatever God she wants.
And then when Deok Mi kinda rejected him and refused to let him talk, he took her decision with care. He took time to think it over and respected her even when she acted weird and created that uncomfortable atmosphere he didn’t like a bit.
Take another example with Eun Gi. I appreciate that Ryan respects Eun Gi’s choice to fall in love with DM without questioning and trying to stop it. In the context of their (very healthy) relationship, Ryan has fewer reasons to worry. But in many other cases, we have seen a boyfriend trying to stop affection towards his girl from another male. “Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves.” - said Abraham Lincoln keke He did that to preserve his own freedom to love her, even EG is all “please stop to make her flutter” and “how can you know about her more than me?”
2. He should be Ambassador for LGBTIQ+ rights
I have worked in gender advocacy field for quite some time to know that even a male Ambassador for gender and LGBTIQ rights can fail to deliver the right messages all the time. Born and raised in a traditional society, even they received training before being an Ambassador and being pretty open-minded themselves, there are still moments we hold our breath when they say something a little off and subtly gender bias because it's so deeply rooted in their minds. But Ryan is perfect to be an Ambassador, he treated the (even misunderstood) lesbian love between DM and SJ with the right attitude. Not only does he respect their equal right and opportunity to love and be loved, but he also sincerely feel an obligation to protect and create a favorable condition for them to perform their rights. Haha his monologue in the bathroom and his determination to get Eun Gi down in a judo fight is epic. This is exactly the key message behind a lot of gender behavior change campaigns. “Equality” doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone. If a person belongs to “social minor group”, she/he needs MORE care and attention to be equal to others.
3. He takes sexual consent serious
Ok, we talked a lot about this. Being one’s boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t mean we can invade the other person’s privacy. In term of skinship and sex, consent is everything. Ryan has been making sure he has consent for everything he does. Given the fact that many people got raped even in marriage, having someone that takes consent that serious is pure gold. The only case when he made a sudden love is to (fake) kiss her to fool Cindy. But then he made sure his thumb was in the right place (even all of us and DK wished the thumb wouldn’t have been there^^).
Having said all of the above, I believe we need more liberal and sexy people like Ryan Gold as male leads to advocate for freedom!