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So if you were interested in a guy and he asked you out for coffee, you wouldn't make it a top priority?
For me, unless I'm overwhelmed or something, I'll make time for a girl I like.
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OK she replied. Yah she was busy. So I asked her out for coffee this weekend but she said her weekend is packed so we're going to meet next week on a weekday.
I dunno. I feel like maybe she didn't smile at me that many months ago and that it was all in my imagination. If she were interested in me, she'd be more enthusiastic.
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It doesn't matter. I texted her like 24 hours ago and no reply. She's not interested. At least I tried.
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So I went for it. It was pretty nerve-wracking. One of the toughest things I've ever had to do. I was inspired by that saying about all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage or something like that.
So I got her number and I'm going to ask her out for a coffee date.
If things don't work out, whatever, at least I won't be living with regret. Regret is worse than being rejected.
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That was many months ago though. Is it possible she can still feel the same?
I went to the gym at lunch today and she wasn't there. Pretty Disappointed. Should I keep trying?
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Ladies, please help me with this. I need some very specific advice for a situation I'm in.Just some background. I wouldn't say I'm a totally shy/nerdy/awkward kinda guy but I do have trouble approaching a girl cold. As in, I don't know the girl and we don't know anyone in common and I'm not in any kinda social situation with her. Once I get past this, I'm generally OK.So here's the situation. And I might have messed it up already but I want your opinion. So there's this girl at my local gym. Around 8 months ago, I was going through a pretty bad breakup and I was in no mood to date and generally just wasn't interested in getting to know women. I started going to classes at my local gym quite often and this girl is a personal trainer who works there. I noticed her obviously because I'm attracted to her but due to my frame of mind at the time, I wasn't planning on doing anything about it. One time, as I was leaving the gym, I think she smiled at me. Like it was very brief. I didn't really catch on at the time because this kinda thing NEVER happens to me. I thought she was smiling at someone behind me or something. So I just walked away and did nothing. This other time, when I arrived at the gym and I went to get a towel, she was working at the desk and she handed me a towel but she just handed me the towel with her eyes downcast. I've observed her at the gym and she's a very friendly, warm kinda girl with people and so doing something like that means she must have felt that I rejected her or something. It's an unfortunate misunderstanding because I am interested but just at the time, I was going through a bad situation.
We've passed each other in the hallways a couple times and again, I couldn't work up the courage to chat with her. Plus, she's always usually busy with her clients or doing something so I don't feel comfortable interrupting her. So as a result, just nothing ever happened.
Also, I stopped going to the gym for a couple months now because my work got super busy and I've been out of town quite often. But I've been thinking about her a lot and also I want to start dating again.
Do you think it's too late for me to approach her now? Assuming I'm not too late and she's already dating someone.
I don't really have a choice except to approach her cold. My plan is just to go to the gym and do my workout and if I see her on break or she's not working with a client, I will just go for it.
But did I already mess it up by not making a move that many months ago?
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@Sommelier
So maybe it was all a mistake for me to have approached her? Maybe this whole endeavor is futile and nothing will come out of it.
@severus
In your personal opinion, how high is your standard in terms of whether or not to give a guy your number? Would you give any guy (as long as he's not creepy/stalkerish) your number if he were to ask or would you have to be somewhat mildly attracted to him physically?
@CamelKnight
Do pretty girls actually get hurt that deeply? I realize this is a stupid question because anything can happen in this world but just generally speaking, say she was hurt by a guy, it's relatively easy enough for her to find someone else. Yah she may have had her heart broken but she also has other guys interested in her. It's a lot better than other average looking people's situations where after they lose someone they had strong feelings for, it's going to take a long time (or never) find that feeling in someone else again.