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Guest vegavak

When a guy replies/responds to your calls, but never calls you first. What does that mean?

Does a guy ever feel a girl is being clingy if she calls/texts maybe once a day?

Your ages and relationship to each other would be a good start.

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i just recently confessed to a guy erm....we're not friends,i ignore him for a multitude of reasons(namely insecurity)basicaly i have been very good at hiding my emotions,so he nvr saw it coming? or he at least thought i didn't like him anymore....after i confessed,i basically allowed him to leave. coz i understand that it is kinda shocking. I am hoping that he will give me a reply,no matter what it is. ...however,to cover my butt i did say that i was hoping to [at least] be friends].....soooo,erm do u think he would still talk to me about it?

the things that have going on between us is like a k-drama. ahhhh!

we're in high school btw....and he's a sweetheart/nice kinda guy...pretty outgoing sort....and he's the fob sort...and in high school,that is pretty important

-if u need more details,do say so

btw i kinda shyly apologized about all of it,and he said there was nothing to be sorry about=/

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i just recently confessed to a guy erm....we're not friends,i ignore him for a multitude of reasons(namely insecurity)basicaly i have been very good at hiding my emotions,so he nvr saw it coming? or he at least thought i didn't like him anymore....after i confessed,i basically allowed him to leave. coz i understand that it is kinda shocking. I am hoping that he will give me a reply,no matter what it is. ...however,to cover my butt i did say that i was hoping to [at least] be friends].....soooo,erm do u think he would still talk to me about it?

the things that have going on between us is like a k-drama. ahhhh!

we're in high school btw....and he's a sweetheart/nice kinda guy...pretty outgoing sort....and he's the fob sort...and in high school,that is pretty important

-if u need more details,do say so

Dramatic much? Meh...he'll probably end up talking to you saying how he feels and it goes two ways, he tells you he doesn't like you and if he's considerate enough he'll say we can just be friends. From there, if I didn't really like that person or I really dislike them then I would probably avoid them as much as possible. Also if he is the kind of guy that tries to let you down easy, he'll say something like I'm too busy in my life. But if all goes well you're in a relationship hooray?

P.S. Since you're not friends he'll probably judge you upon your looks and a small bit upon past appearances(not looks but how you talked to him and when he's seen you around).

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Dramatic much? Meh...he'll probably end up talking to you saying how he feels and it goes two ways, he tells you he doesn't like you and if he's considerate enough he'll say we can just be friends. From there, if I didn't really like that person or I really dislike them then I would probably avoid them as much as possible. Also if he is the kind of guy that tries to let you down easy, he'll say something like I'm too busy in my life. But if all goes well you're in a relationship hooray?

P.S. Since you're not friends he'll probably judge you upon your looks and a small bit upon past appearances(not looks but how you talked to him and when he's seen you around).

oh gosh,i have ignored him so badly in the past....=(....but god,we need to at least talk about it!

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There's this guy that would always stare at me in class. Back during Valentines day, I was sitting with a friend, chatting etc. He was on his phone, he just suddenly stopped and stood right in front of me. I do have a crush on him, kind of. Well, after that incident, he went to sit down at a near by bench. I had to go to the other building to validate my parking ticket for the garage, so I went and he was standing there waiting for me, once I got there, he followed me to the garage. He stood there in front of me again, but I just got in my car and left. [creepy?] A few days later, he'd show up at my workplace (HE NEVER SPEAKS TO ME, he just stares) he knows a few of my coworkers, so I'm assuming he's there for them, BUT the thing is, he'd always stand at a place where he's able to see me. Everytime I look up, he's there looking at me.

The thing is..he has a girlfriend, why do guys act in such ways?

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i have THREE questions. can you answer all of them? thanks!!

1) what are some signs that a guy's feelings are hurt?

2) how do guys act when they are mad? (other than yelling)

3) if a girl that you like broke your heart, would your feelings for her change? would you stop liking her?

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oh gosh,i have ignored him so badly in the past....=(....but god,we need to at least talk about it!

For me and this is me alone, not saying towards anyone else. Whenever I get a cold shoulder from a random person I think that they hate me or think I have a bad rep. Good luck though. Never been in a situation where this happened.

i have THREE questions. can you answer all of them? thanks!!

1) what are some signs that a guy's feelings are hurt?

2) how do guys act when they are mad? (other than yelling)

3) if a girl that you like broke your heart, would your feelings for her change? would you stop liking her?

1. If he goes kind of emo, like he won't talk to you. Or he'll be pissed off. Not much to it eh? But if you ask them what's wrong and they know that you're there for them, then they will tell you.

2. Uh we pound on stuff? We have some grunts maybe, I take deep breathes to hold my anger in. Some give an attitude

3. Our feelings would change in the fact that...she just broke my heart. We're not robots even though we do conceal our emotions. But we would still have that feeling, that caring feeling. Some more than others. Some let things go, others do not.

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1. If he goes kind of emo, like he won't talk to you. Or he'll be pissed off. Not much to it eh? But if you ask them what's wrong and they know that you're there for them, then they will tell you.

2. Uh we pound on stuff? We have some grunts maybe, I take deep breathes to hold my anger in. Some give an attitude

3. Our feelings would change in the fact that...she just broke my heart. We're not robots even though we do conceal our emotions. But we would still have that feeling, that caring feeling. Some more than others. Some let things go, others do not.

@ shirotaka thank you =]

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So we're in high school...

There's this guy that I've known for the past two years, but it's only been the last couple months we've really started getting to know each other. This year, he's always been really sweet (he would say things like, "You look amazing in those jeans" or "Your hair looks really good" and stuff like that), but it was never really flirting - he's just a really nice guy and I'm pretty sure he's like that to all girls. So a couple months ago, we started becoming

closer, like he would drive me home and make me go watch him at his sports practice. It all changed when he, my friend, and I went together to a formal - we all had a really good time and I started liking him a tiny bit.

After the party, when we came to school on Monday, he was pretty normal. When we talked about the party, he said things like, "You dance too well for me" and "You made me nervous." Then a week later, when we came back to school, he wouldn't look at me or talk to me on his own accord. (We have one class together, and usually the atmosphere is really light and fun...there's a bunch of us during that class and we pretty much just joke around the entire time.) If I said something to him, he'd respond, but I haven't been really been talking to him because I'm pissed off at his attitude. It's been that way for the past two weeks or so, and in that time, there have only been a couple days when he'd tease me or laugh with me. I'm not really sure if he's ignoring just me or if he's doing to other girls, too, but I'm getting really annoyed by his behavior. I *think* it might just be with me, though.

The only things I can think of that I did to instigate this behavior are really small, like I jokingly blamed him for not having a ride home from the party (he told me to "stick by him" but I ended up getting a ride from someone else) and I had been flirting with him more openly in the days leading up to the formal. So he might have thought I liked him? But I never did anything overt to show him that I liked him.

So there are a couple things I'm wondering:

1.) Did I scare him off by flirting with him or dancing with him at formal?

2.) Is it normal for guys to completely ignore girls they think might like them, even if they were friends before?

3.) WTH is going on? Is there anything I can do to without seeming weird or clingy?

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i just recently confessed to a guy erm....we're not friends,i ignore him for a multitude of reasons(namely insecurity)basicaly i have been very good at hiding my emotions,so he nvr saw it coming? or he at least thought i didn't like him anymore....after i confessed,i basically allowed him to leave. coz i understand that it is kinda shocking. I am hoping that he will give me a reply,no matter what it is. ...however,to cover my butt i did say that i was hoping to [at least] be friends].....soooo,erm do u think he would still talk to me about it?

the things that have going on between us is like a k-drama. ahhhh!

we're in high school btw....and he's a sweetheart/nice kinda guy...pretty outgoing sort....and he's the fob sort...and in high school,that is pretty important

-if u need more details,do say so

btw i kinda shyly apologized about all of it,and he said there was nothing to be sorry about=/

Oh boy.

All you can do is wait. And stop ignoring him.

There's this guy that would always stare at me in class. Back during Valentines day, I was sitting with a friend, chatting etc. He was on his phone, he just suddenly stopped and stood right in front of me. I do have a crush on him, kind of. Well, after that incident, he went to sit down at a near by bench. I had to go to the other building to validate my parking ticket for the garage, so I went and he was standing there waiting for me, once I got there, he followed me to the garage. He stood there in front of me again, but I just got in my car and left. [creepy?] A few days later, he'd show up at my workplace (HE NEVER SPEAKS TO ME, he just stares) he knows a few of my coworkers, so I'm assuming he's there for them, BUT the thing is, he'd always stand at a place where he's able to see me. Everytime I look up, he's there looking at me.

The thing is..he has a girlfriend, why do guys act in such ways?

That's not a normal guy thing to do. He just stands in front of you and says nothing? Oh my god. It's making me laugh. But seriously, that's so creepy.

i have THREE questions. can you answer all of them? thanks!!

1) what are some signs that a guy's feelings are hurt?

2) how do guys act when they are mad? (other than yelling)

3) if a girl that you like broke your heart, would your feelings for her change? would you stop liking her?

Different guys respond differently to all those things.

So we're in high school...

There's this guy that I've known for the past two years, but it's only been the last couple months we've really started getting to know each other. This year, he's always been really sweet (he would say things like, "You look amazing in those jeans" or "Your hair looks really good" and stuff like that), but it was never really flirting - he's just a really nice guy and I'm pretty sure he's like that to all girls. So a couple months ago, we started becoming closer, like he would drive me home and make me go watch him at his sports practice. It all changed when he, my friend, and I went together to a formal - we all had a really good time and I started liking him a tiny bit.

After the party, when we came to school on Monday, he wouldn't look at me or talk to me on his own accord. (We have one class together, and usually the atmosphere is really light and fun...there's a bunch of us during that class and we pretty much just joke around the entire time.) If I said something to him, he'd respond, but I haven't been really been talking to him because I'm pissed off at his attitude. It's been that way for the past month or so, and in that time, there have only been a couple days when he'd tease me or laugh with me. I'm not really sure if he's ignoring just me or if he's doing to other girls, too, but I'm getting really annoyed by his behavior. I *think* it might just be with me, though.

The only things I can think of that I did to instigate this behavior are really small, like I jokingly blamed him for not having a ride home from the party (he told me to "stick by him" but I ended up getting a ride from someone else) and I had been flirting with him more openly in the days leading up to the formal. So he might have thought I liked him? But I never did anything overt to show him that I liked him.

So there are a couple things I'm wondering:

1.) Did I scare him off by flirting with him or dancing with him at formal?

2.) Is it normal for guys to completely ignore girls they think might like them, even if they were friends before?

3.) WTH is going on? Is there anything I can do to without seeming weird or clingy?

When he told you to stick by him, and you didn't, and got a ride home with someone else, don't you think he could be mad about that? Maybe he wanted to drive you home. Maybe he took it the wrong way. Maybe it's not a 'little thing' to him. It sounds like this guy likes you, and is just taking it personally, which explains his behavior. At least, that's exactly how I see it.

I would apologize for not sticking by him that night, and tell him you were gonna stick by him better. That is, if you like him.

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Guest needlepeople

So because he didn't talk to you, you're not talking to him? That's kind of stupid, don't you think?

Well, it's not that I'm flat-out refusing to talk to him - I just don't ask him to hang out anymore or talk solely to him during school, if that makes any sense.

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Well, it's not that I'm flat-out refusing to talk to him - I just don't ask him to hang out anymore or talk solely to him during school, if that makes any sense.

Why not? It's probably affecting him more than you know.

I changed my response to your post to give my raw perspective on your situation.

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Guest Deadalready

Man this thread moves fast.

thank u :)

i have a new Q.

which is most important to u:

a girls 'smile' or her 'humor' .. give a reason if u like..

Because this sounds like it was directed a me.

I like girls who are funny or can make me laugh, (I'm a serious case). Of course there's lots of humour types out there so the type of humour a girl uses will have different effects on different people.

Personally I hold that anyone can smile, few can be funny.

i have THREE questions. can you answer all of them? thanks!!

1) what are some signs that a guy's feelings are hurt?

2) how do guys act when they are mad? (other than yelling)

3) if a girl that you like broke your heart, would your feelings for her change? would you stop liking her?

As mentioned every guy reacts differently to each situation, for 1 and 2 I'll offer some general points that may apply.

If a guy's feelings are hurt or mad they usually have to find a release of some kind (like many people), sometimes they'll suddenly spend more time on hobbies or past times (like online gaming, running, writing, etc) things to just take their mind off their own worries.

Many guys will suddenly reduce their need to socialise dramatically and retreat to their quiet place and may stay that way for a while, it's a good idea to stay out of their way because yelling can await a poor girl who's picking a little too deep.

Well if a girl breaks my heart, my feelings do change. I can't be much more specific than that though.

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Guest needlepeople

When he told you to stick by him, and you didn't, and got a ride home with someone else, don't you think he could be mad about that? Maybe he wanted to drive you home. Maybe he took it the wrong way. Maybe it's not a 'little thing' to him. It sounds like this guy likes you, and is just taking it personally, which explains his behavior. At least, that's exactly how I see it.

I would apologize for not sticking by him that night, and tell him you were gonna stick by him better. That is, if you like him.

Thanks - that kinda shed some light on what might be going on. I guess I've been a bit inconsiderate, not talking to him and all :blush:

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Guest april_showers

The arm pull-away-- does it happen often? Other than that, it sounds like the guy is just really shy.

Thanks and yeah that's what I figured.

I didn't try grabbing his arm again after that. >_< All I can say is he's quite fine with hugging. =/

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Guest reminescence88

my boyfriend recently broke up with me about a week ago..he said he didn't feel the connection anymore, and he thought we were too different (he said I was too innocent, and he felt that he was too wild for me since he smokes, drinks, does drugs, etc.). he also said that he felt that it was unfair for me because I treated him better than he treated me. so we parted and went our seperate ways

it's been a week but I've been hurting alot..I also felt that lately he's been have such a great time after our break up..he's been partying, drinking, smoking pot, meeting new people especially girls..

and we haven't talked since the day of our break-up..but recently I texted him that I still had some of his things and to let me know when he wanted to pick them up..he replied "Okay thanks"

I just feel like he doesn't care about me anymore..

but I was wondering..is it possible he's hurting as much as I am?

what do guys think about after a break up?

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my boyfriend recently broke up with me about a week ago..he said he didn't feel the connection anymore, and he thought we were too different (he said I was too innocent, and he felt that he was too wild for me since he smokes, drinks, does drugs, etc.). he also said that he felt that it was unfair for me because I treated him better than he treated me. so we parted and went our seperate ways

it's been a week but I've been hurting alot..I also felt that lately he's been have such a great time after our break up..he's been partying, drinking, smoking pot, meeting new people especially girls..

but I was wondering..is it possible he's hurting as much as I am?

what do guys think about after a break up?

From the way he broke up with you he doesn't really sound like its going to hurt him. I'm guessing you just want him to feel the pain you're feeling, rather twisted mind don't you think? Anyways guys, if they're actually hurt think just like girls I guess. We'll miss you and some get on their lives while others are left mopeing. Depends on him and like I said, from your description he seems like a party guy who wouldn't be too inflicted.

P.S. I'm just glad you didn't make a thread. Because some of them look like they just want attention.

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Guest The Fey

if a guy is comfortable with a girl between the sheets..then why not just make it exclusive?

in stead of referring the girl as a fwb?

(and guys say girls are complicated!)

lol because it ties you down permanently. why ruin a good thing?

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Guest chopstick^^

A smile because its welcoming but I don't want a girl thats stingy and humorless. Also humor brings on a smile =D. So I think humor actually...

Unless he really likes his women super feminine, I think it was just him being surprised. I think it's pretty awesome if a girl can hock one further than me, as long as she's not constantly spitting.

Her smile needs to be genuine AND she needs a decent sense of humor.

Because this sounds like it was directed a me.

I like girls who are funny or can make me laugh, (I'm a serious case). Of course there's lots of humour types out there so the type of humour a girl uses will have different effects on different people.

Personally I hold that anyone can smile, few can be funny.

thank u shirotaka, vegavak & Deadalready for answering my Q. :)

@ deadalready, if u wondering, i was asking everyone! hehe :) but thanks!

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