[[Drama 2022/2023] The Interest of Love/Understanding of Love, 사랑의 이해]

1 hour ago, Shimmery-summer said:

 

But then when he tries to explain himself after restaurant hesitation incident which he said just took few seconds but she refuses to listen. If I am not wrong when they get locked in store room they have a very clear convo where she still turns him down because of her family background and by that time she had already for no good reason had starred dating the guard as well. What my point is that sang su does come out clear and decisive and she still turns him down, she actually says much early on in a monologue even if he hadn't hesitated she still wouldn't have accepted him. As of guard she had accepted him but he hadn't moved in yet and it was just 2 days of seeing each other when storeroom convo happens, she could have ended it then rather than what she eventually did. And frankly when she brings that nasty pos bf, hate the character how he destroyed her repute at work whilst him just being a loser, he was already in a state of depression, so a guy who wasn't good enough to take care of his own emotions how can he take care of her. But still she was making an effort to help a human which failed. But I think ss doesn't deserve hesitation blame because it had been long back since he cleared it up and even she apologizes to him for acting rude in the storeroom. Her mental baggage regarding her mom's profession makes her think she is less than him, she fears telling him about them will make him leave her and further look down on her. 

 

Was just observing that the guard left her twice and each time he did he sort of stormed out of the scene, acting rashly, aggressive and hasty, was that behavior a foreshadowing of him again acting rash and storming into bank and the creating the scene and a hint on what kind of personality he has.

The complexity of emotions she feels with working with a man she has a crush on, knowing she'll likely endure the most hate and gossip from the office and takes a greater chance then watches him  hesitate? She was hurt, angry and sad.  His explanation doesn't take away the pain she felt in that moment.  Why did  Ha Sang-Su  have one second of doubt? When she chastises him for not stepping in when he's seen her  abusive treatment, she notices. When he believes she's choosing and not understanding she's enduring is reflective in how different they are.   Ahn Su-Yeong is the one in this drama that took the most risk to find love and it hurt her.  She doesn't have that same freedom to put all those things into question because of the repercussions.  And Jeong Jong-Hyeon keeps failing her and offering her no trust in care.   It's unfair to judge Ahn Su-Yeong based on what we'd do but feeling her pain and hopelessness as she's trying to figure things out is what's heartbreaking. 

38 minutes ago, nrllee said:

That’s selfish in my books. 

Yes, the one power she has to give herself the love and care she needs. She certainly should be selfish.  She's suffered years of abuse from powerful men and has seen how many of her co-workers stood by and mocked her treatment, including Ha Sang-Su.  A relationship with Ha Sang-Su  was always going to be difficult because of her experience on the job and him seeing it all. When he finally stands up, they're both in relationships. Navigating an emotionally abusive work relationship when you're constantly being hurt by men is a huge emotional task to let things be. She does not have that luxury. All Ahn Su-Yeong wanted was someone that doesn't have to hesitate to be with her.  Someone that doesn't feel lost after they've failed an exam.  She wants the simple things and still can't get it.  I feel for her, even when she gets things wrong. 

[[Drama 2022/2023] The Interest of Love/Understanding of Love, 사랑의 이해]

I know many people are angry with Ahn Su-Yeong but she continues to keep having to prove herself at work and finding love. Love shouldn't be an exhausting process BUT she has a man that retreated into depression when he couldn't pass a test and a male lead that couldn't muster the courage to tell her his feelings from the beginning.  Loving someone should be fun, exciting, hopeful and when she took the second male leads hand in the rain she embraced it.  Only to be knocked down again by his nature to retreat when he fails.  Ha Sang-Su obviously cares about her. But he's lacked the courage, for years, in telling her  and when the time came, he failed, hesitated and she saw it all.  Her hope for love fell into the same cesspool of her abusive working conditions. IMO,  Ahn Su-Yeong  deserves our understanding when she's protecting herself.   Defense mechanisms are not evil, they are a means of protection. If any of the men could offer full love and support, don't we think Ahn Su-Yeong would have embraced it?  But things are more complicated and she's learned to survive and keep moving, even with all the disappointments.  Is that a way to live? It most certainly is for Ahn Su-Yeong  and that's something we should show empathy for instead of our judgment. 

[[Drama 2022/2023] The Interest of Love/Understanding of Love, 사랑의 이해]

Does anyone know the song at the end of Episode 5 when they're running in the rain? The lyrics are something like "you will always be... save my heart....hope you dream of me i'll soothe your mind."