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I know you don't want to hear from anyone who isn't over 20, which I think is dumb, because instead of putting an age limit, you should put MATURE AUDIENCES ONLY.
Let me start off by saying no, I am not here to call you names, or to criticize you for what you have done. Cheating is generally frowned upon in society, but the emotions you are going through are completely understandable.
For those who say they will never cheat-- try being in a 10 year relationship and tell me if your chemistry was the way it was before. The others are probably saying, "Yeah, but I would never cheat!" Then we can go into the topic of what is considered "cheating"? Some classify it as a physical act. Some classify it as "if you're thinking about someone else, then you're cheating."
There are always the exceptional couples, where they can live and be happy for 20+ years and stay faithful. However, that kind of couple is about 1 in a million. Never think that your relationship is the exception. There were some things that you could have done differently, but it would be pointless to tell you about it since what's done, is already done.
It seems to me that you can't figure out what to do now after everything that has happened. My philosophy in love is "Never leave someone you love for someone you like." People usually interpret that saying as "if you're going to cheat, don't do it." However, I have a different interpretation on it. The question here is: Who do you love?
I can't help you figure this question out because well, I wouldn't know what you're feeling. I will however, warn you of some things while you're contemplating on the subject. Do not mistake attraction for love. I know you were attracted to Ellie in the beginning but has that developed into love? Or is it still "attraction"? Also, please keep an open mind while thinking about it, because in your OP, your writing strongly suggests that you're on Eliza's side.
For your wife, after the ten years you've been together, yes I know you've lost the attraction, but were you two happy together? Who could you see a future with, realistically? Given that Ellie is 9 years younger than you, is her mentality the same as yours? Searching for that one love? Or is she merely enjoying the role play, aka she works as your assistant, you're her boss... etc. etc. You know what happens there.
These are some questions for you and only you to think about. And I hope you find out what you're really after. Good luck!
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How would you guys feel if your girlfriend, who cannot cook at all for the world, cooked dinner for two on your two year anniversary date?
Would you guys prefer to go out and eat?
Also, imagine this dinner decorated with christmas lights in the dining room.
Would you guys expect more for a two year anniversary?
Feedback is encouraged.
Thanks in advance!
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Hi guys.
So I'm wondering if any of you know how to do this hairstyle?
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The most annoying thing girls do is CREATE DRAMA.
Gossip, talk thrash, act fake, talk in the most CHILDISH voice in history of CHILDISH to get attention.
Yes honey you're DEFINITELY getting ENOUGH attention.
Oh and did I mention that some girls are a lot more IMMATURE than guys?
Psh. Yes they are.
Yes I'm a girl too but I'm not like ^ that kind of girl.
I totally agree. That's why I prefer guy company sometimes. Or just plain avoid those type of girls..
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Me: The Doctors Show. LOL.
Boyfriend: Iron Man
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Omg, he cut his hair!
Thanks for the link to his concert pictures 80slitenite!
I've gotta say, even after five years of my obsession with him, he is still so darn irresistible.
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Fellas, how would you like to be asked to prom?
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What the heck? How are people getting so high numbers?
Murder Quiz
Saint!
Your murder score is 139 points
You barely have a spine
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Well... My dad and my stepmom are 17 years apart. o_o
My mom and my stepdad however, were born on the same month, day, and year. Weird.
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[X] You have screamed at an inanimate object for 'hurting you.'
[X] You have ran into a glass/screen door
[] You have jumped out of a moving vehicle.
[X] You have thought of something funny and laughed, and then people gave you weird looks.
[X] You have run into a tree/bush.
[X] You have been called a blond.
TOTAL: 5
[X] You know that it IS possible to lick your elbow.
[] You just tried to lick your elbow.
[] You never knew that the Alphabet and Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star had the same melody.
[] You just sang them to make sure.
[X] You have tripped on your own feet and fallen.
[X] You have choked on your own spit.
TOTAL: 8
[X] You have seen the Matrix and still don't get it.
[] You type with three fingers or less.
[X] You have accidentally caught something on fire.
[X] You tried to drink out of a straw, but it went into your nose.
[X] You have caught yourself drooling.
TOTAL:12
[X] You have fallen asleep in class.
[X] Sometimes you just can't stop thinking.
[X] Sometimes when you are telling a story you forget what you are talking about.
[X] People often shake their heads and walk away from you.
[X]You are often told to use your 'inside voice.'
TOTAL: 17
[] You use your fingers to do simple math.
[] You have eaten a bug accidentally.
[X] You are taking this test when you should be doing something more important.
[X] You have put your clothes on backwards or inside out, and didn't realize it.
[X] You've looked all over for something and realized it was in your hand/pocket the whole time.
e.g. picks, cards, pens, phones, money, keys etc.
TOTAL: 20
[X] You have posted bulletins because you are scared that what they say will happen if you don't.
[X] You break a lot of things.
[] You tilt your head when you're confused.
[X] You have fallen out of your chair before.
[X] When you're lying in bed, you try to find pictures in the texture on the ceiling.
[] The word "um" is used frequently.
[X] You don't know what "um" means.
[X] You say "what" and "huh" a lot.
[] You plan to use a calculator to multiply your score for this bulletin.
TOTAL: 26
Damn... 104%...
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First name Lima.
Last name Bean.
Poor kid.
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Sometimes I just get my Chinese and English mixed up, so it's like I'm trying to say something , but then I want to say another thing in Chinese. And then it's just a .. mess from there.
Once, I even like totally just spoke Chinese to my boyfriend without realizing it. He was just like, . Hahaha. Oops!
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I'm more of a Math person. I suck at essays.
Just give me numbers. Kthanks.
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asdfghjkl
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Ugh. You frustrate me.
You also give me a lot of headaches.
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Dear boyfriend,
You are too wonderful to me. Even though I know you're busy right now and probably won't read this! I want to say I love you.
Thank you for accepting me as your girlfriend.
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If I am trying to sleep while listening to music, it'd have to be Yiruma.
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I get very annoyed. It's not just style either. It's like, when you first suggest something, the person like, never even thought about it. Then steals that suggestion as theirs. And everybody believes it was theirs to begin with.
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STOP STALKING ME.
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IF SOMEONE SAYS "IS THIS OKAY" YOU SAY?
I don't Want to Miss a Thing.
WHAT WOULD BEST DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONALITY?
Your Guardian Angel.
WHAT DO YOU LIKE IN A GUY/GIRL?
Untitled (by Simple Plan)
WHAT IS YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE?
Bed. Hahahahha.
WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO?
Everybody Knows.
WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS THINK OF YOU?
Same mistakes.
WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT VERY OFTEN?
New Slang.
WHAT IS 2+2?
Nothing Left to Lose
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR BEST FRIEND?
Center of Attention.
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
Just So You Know.
WHAT IS YOUR LIFE STORY?
Just be Simple.
WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU GROW UP?
Breathe Me.
WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU SEE THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
Learning To Fall
WHAT DO YOUR PARENTS THINK OF YOU?
Orange County
WHAT WILL YOU DANCE TO AT YOUR WEDDING?
Miss Independent. Hahahha. How Ironic.
WHAT WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL?
Hit That
WHAT IS YOUR HOBBY/INTEREST?
Like A Star
WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST SECRET?
This is me.
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS?
Five Minutes Till Midnight.
WHAT'S THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN?
Hear Me Cry.
HOW WILL YOU DIE?
Christmas In Love
WHAT MAKES YOU LAUGH?
Broken Heart.
WHAT MAKES YOU CRY?
Umbrella
WILL YOU EVER GET MARRIED?
Un Homme et Une femme
WHAT SCARES YOU THE MOST?
Straightjacket Feeling.
DOES ANYONE LIKE YOU?
Dream Girl.
IF YOU COULD GO BACK IN TIME, WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE?
Tell Me (remix)
WHAT HURTS RIGHT NOW?
Dancing.
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Mozilla Google? Hahaha. It used to be soompi till I got annoyed of having to type google in the browser all the time.
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I just cleaned my room yesterday.
But uhm yeah.. I usually clean it like... once.. every... 2 months? Hahaha.
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Uhm. iPod when I had one.
Book to study (Vocabulary)
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Oh my goodness. Speaking of iPods..
First iPod; blue mini iPod; broke due to damage.
Second iPod; black nano iPod; first generation -- put it in my locker; someone stole it.
Third iPod; Black video iPod -- just one day, it magically disappeared, and I have no idea how.
Fourth iPod; White nano iPod, first generation. lost when running on the track. Put it down and was stolen.
Fifth iPod; Silver iPod nano, second generation, fell in the toilet accidentally when I was changing in the restroom.
Sixth iPod; Recently at the family Christmas party, I put it down on a sofa, and it disappeared.
I'm still hoping that someone finds it. It was a family party for goodness sakes!
But if they don't find it, it might be the end of my iPod spree.... (I don't think so. )
But yeah.. Careful where you put your iPod's~! x_x" I was too careless.
Staying With a Cheating Ex
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Wow, I don't know what to say. I mean, first off, I'm sorry that you are in this situation right now. I can only imagine the emotional turmoil you are feeling. In my opinion, this relationship is really... volatile. I understand the logic behind "getting even" or "playing on equal levels" or whatever, but that is not the right course of action to take. Imagine scenario 1, say you do go out and cheat .. twice. You come back, "hey honey, I finished cheating on you; we are now even. Let's get back together." Of course not like that, but something along those lines... Say you are happy together again. How long will that last for? Knowing that the both of you have been unfaithful towards each other. Getting even does not take away the impact of the action done unto you.
You want to keep him because he makes you "happy." It doesn't really sound like a "happy" relationship. To me, I think it might stem from the fear of being alone. But again, I don't know you well enough to determine that. It just sounds like it, because you talk about all these good memories. and how you want to hold onto it. I don't want to end up preaching about life or anything, but there's a point when you know you should hold on or let go. That lack of anger or grief signifies something. Give it time. See how you feel in about.. one week's time.. maybe even longer. Until the reality of him cheating on you sets in. My professor lectured in class one time, speaking of how individuals in Western societies always have the tendency to find the core of the problem and fix it, instead of feeling the pain or grief in the process. So that's maybe one thing you want to think about.
Hopefully, you understand what position I am taking on this topic. If not, to sum alllll this up, l don't think you two should stay together.
However, if you do end up staying with him, my recommendation would be to ... not get even, because revenge/"equal playing field" doesn't really get you anywhere in the long run... Perhaps, finding a different approach for your relationship? Change up the dynamics? I don't know the two of you so I couldn't possibly suggest any methods... but one thing my boyfriend and I do, is debate about heavy topics in the world, such as genetic modification, stem cell research, abortion, death, etc. Our relationship wasn't like this before, but ever since entering college, long-distance relationship, we could not really physically be there for each other, so we had to find something mentally stimulating. And well, we found our niche.
Best of luck to you!