Bride Uninvites 'Narcissistic' Parents to Wedding: 'F You'

For a bride-to-be, it’s not uncommon to worry about family drama tarnishing the big day. What is rare is launching a massive, pre-emptive strike about it — but that’s exactly what Alyssa Pearce of Australia did when she sent her parents a fancy wedding “de-invitation,” as payback for years of alleged abusive and narcissistic behavior.
“Together with our friends and family, Alex and Alyssa would like to invite you to suck it and bask in our happiness, your bitterness and our mutual irritation at each other’s existence as we completely ignore yours and celebrate our marriage without you. There will be a lovely ceremony, followed by cake, food and general merriment. And you’re not invited to any of it. Because f—k you that’s why,” reads the parchment-paper invitation, printed in calligraphy by the bride herself before she mailed it to her estranged parents.

Pearce, 23, posted an image of the angry non-invitation several months ago on Reddit in a special “raised by narcissists” forum, using the anonymous screen name SkitzoCat. “So my narcissistic parents abused me for 16 years before I ran away from home,” she wrote. “Now they’re trying to bully their way (via family, they haven’t bothered to speak to me personally) into getting an invitation to my wedding. There was really only one way to respond.” Her post, which is going viral now, drew more than 200 comments, with supporters deeming her everything from “badass” to “my hero.”


The non-invitation, as posted on Reddit. Photo by Imgur.
This week Pearce spoke with BuzzFeed about her motivation, saying she suffered “physical, emotional, and sexual abuse at the hands of two people who were supposed to love and cherish me,” and that she was then being “bullied” to invite them to her upcoming wedding. Pearce, who is working toward a PhD in applied linguistics, according to BuzzFeed, added that she “snapped” after a family member pressured her to invite her parents, which prompted her to create the fancy announcement. “I mean, if you’re going to send someone a memorable ‘stuff you,’ you’ve really got to put in some effort,” she said. “You may as well go all-out.”
In an update she posted on Reddit, Pearce wrote that her grandfather had passed on a message to her from her father: “It went something like ‘Our relationship is now irreconcilable. If you keep harassing my family I will take out a court order to protect them. I don’t want to see you again near my business/house/family.’ I love how I’m not included in that ‘his family.’ Oh well.”
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