ParappaRappa
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When I think about it now, I guess I'd be most comfortable knowing the guy had a moderate amount of girlfriends in the past. Like, 2-3 long-term relationships. My first boyfriend was completely inexperienced, but so was I. But then my second boyfriend was way more experienced than I probably will ever be, lol. He had 18 or 19 ex-girlfriends before me. We broke up a few months ago and he already has a new girlfriend. So now I'm a bit more wary of guys that have dated many, many girls.
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Hey guys, so I had a question...
Every time my boyfriend and I get into an argument or a fight, I always want to talk it out until it's all solved out and neither of us are mad anymore. But he tends to push it to the side and say things like, "whatever", "never mind", "i'm sick/tired of this". I just really hate leaving things in the middle of a fight. I hate leaving each other when we're still mad. I always want it to be worked out before we leave each other but this is most often not the case because of how I want to keep talking about it but it makes him more angry. But he also disagrees with me when I say that he leaves things in the middle of fights and doesn't like to talk about it.
Would it really be better if I did leave it? I hate it, and I've tried it but I end up caving in later on and text or call him because I can't stand it any longer. I worry that if I leave it, he's only getting angrier and finding more reasons to be angry or regret being with me. I'm extremely paranoid about things, so I worry about these things even if they seem unreasonable...And this is also main reason he gets so angry at me. Anyway, I realize I probably sound unreasonable about all this which is why I came here to ask. Just as reassurance. If I leave it, is it actually making things better than worse? The next time we end up arguing and he says "forget this" should I really just stop talking. let us go home, and it will become better?
I get so worried that the situation becomes worse and worse if I don't try and solve it out immediately and as fast as I can, but I also understand people really want space...I know I tend to be overbearing...Which is why I want to stop it...
He and I got in an argument tonight but mostly solved it out. Honestly, we didn't really talk anything out we just tried to stop acting angry. Nothing got solved or talked about much. I feel he's still irked by me. I'm trying to fight the urge to contact him again because of my worries...
We've both got tempers. Temper's more his problem and mine's my paranoia about things lol. So I get mad too, but when we end up getting in fights I'm quick to say I'm sorry about things except when he's mad, he's mad either way. So my apologies and guilt about what I said or did to contribute to the fight don't end up doing much with solving it out -
I started using a powder foundation when I was about 13 because my mom gave it to me. I complained my face was so oily and what could I do to help it so she gave me that and I began using it everyday. Still, nobody thought I really used makeup
I started to use cover up after I got one just for prom since I had broken out around prom time >_> And it just became a regular thing to use the cover up and then the powder over it.
After high school ended, and I was still having lots of acne issues, the cover up I was using seemed to help with the breakout (the Neutrogena Skin Clearing line of face makeup) so I got the liquid foundation they had and began using that with the cover up and then the powder.
Then I stopped using the cover up because I didn't need it anymore (skin cleared up) And I got more interested in expanding what I use lol
So as of now I use a BB cream, finishing powder, eyeliner, and mascara.
But the eyeliner is always very thin (tightline) and the mascara is very light
So...from 13 to 18, used the powder, and then after 18 I began to expand out to other things haha -
My boyfriend said it first, and it was pretty early on like two weeks into the relationship. Our relationship moved super quickly through everything and then finally having a cooling down time right now to just stay at the same stage...That probably makes no sense ahaha but that's how I see it
He didn't actually say "I love you" straight away though. He would type "srh" to me randomly but I didn't know what it meant. Later he told me it was "saranghae" and then he would say "saranghae" to me over phone or something. I started to say it back (like the srh and saranghae and such but not specifically "I love you" Lol even though it means the same...hahah) But once we were talking on the phone at night and he said randomly, "...I know for sure now.." And I was like huh? Know what? And he wouldn't tell me for awhile but then eventually went like this
Him: I know for sure that I love you..
Me: I think I do too...
Him: Really? You really do?
Me: ...It's just I'm not sure because I haven't been in love...I don't know for sure and I feel like I shouldn't say it until I know for sure...
And then he got really upset because I shouldn't have ever said "saranghae" back to him if I really didn't mean it. He said that there was no need for me to reciprocate the feelings but now he felt actually hurt because he believed it and I didn't really mean it. He hung up and was angry till the next day. I understood why though and I felt really bad. We made up by the end of the next day and I explained to him that the reason I don't want to say "I love you" is because there's a lot he still doesn't know about me and just, I'm just still being guarded because of all that, etc. He told me to trust him, that he wants to know, and he wants to be there for me. He told me to rely on him, depend on him, expect him to always be there for me. It took me the longest time though, and he opened up about a lot of things to me. And then I finally did too. And we got really close ever since that. Because we knew the darkest things there was to know about each other that reflect on the reason we're the people we are now. And then we started to kiss and all and he whispered, "Say what I want to hear..." And I said, "I love you."
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^ It may just be me...But it doesn't even make much of a difference if the stranger is good looking or not, that approach comes on too strong for me and I personally wouldn't give away my number. I'd be more likely to give my number to someone if we were just talking casually, got along very well, and then they asked for my number.
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It's funny once in a while but I'd probably get pretty annoyed if he did it constantly especially if I told him I was starting to really get annoyed or if I was already in a bad mood to start with >_>
Like the second and third would be funny hahah but the first one would actually make me mad D:
But my boyfriend definitely loves to troll me sometimes
He trolled me constantly on Valentine's day hahaha
Him: (gives me Tiffany & Co bag) Happy Valentine's day! I love you!
Me: Awww you're so sweet! Thank you! (opens bag and inside is a ring pop. LOL) ....
Him: What, you don't like it?!
Me: Nooo, I love it! Thank you so much
Him: Hehehe I'm just kidding, here's your real present (hands me a second TIffany & Co bag)
Me: (opens bag...this time in the bag is the actual TIffany & Co box...and inside the box is a candy necklace ahaha)
Him: (literally bursts out laughing)
Me: These are the sweetest gifts ever, thank you babe lololol
Then a few hours later he gave me another TIffany & Co bag and this time I thought it'd really be another candy...But then it was a ring hahah
I didn't mind him trolling me like this though...I found it funny and made me really surprised for the final gift ahaha
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Today I was late visiting bf at his work break because I tried to make grilled cheese for lunch for him...but somehow I totally failed and it all ripped apart...
So I was just going to buy him something but then I left my card in my jacket pocket at home and had no cash...
When I told him this and said "I suck." He said "It's okay, I just wanted to be with you" and hugged me haha I just felt so happy
Also once after a mutual friend called him when she was drunk and said she had always thought he was really cute, I started being all paranoid and being like "What if she tries to get in between us???" He said: "Who cares what she thinks. It'll never happen. I've never met a girl so perfect for me like you. I want to marry you. Believe in me."
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Though I don't personally like the look very much, I still think the girls tend to be very pretty anyway (like the ones in those pictures)
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If I call a girl adorable, it's because I think she is a very cute kind of pretty or has a very cute personality that makes you smile
When I call my boyfriend adorable, it's because I think he looks/acts so cute I just wanna snuggle with him and kiss him over and over
I like being called adorable hahah I find it equivalent as being called cute or pretty even if I guess it doesn't usually mean that...Adorable in general is a pretty positive word
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I can never really say Red Ribbon Week unless I say it slow haha
It always comes out Red Wibbon Week :[
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So, recently I went to a hair salon to get my hair re-layered but no length cut off. I would have still understood if the lady trimmed off an inch or two (and I was expecting it too, since they always cut off more than they say lol), but she actually ended up cutting off about 5 inches...And she also did a horrible job...I did try to stay positive on it. I didn't show any shock/anger at the new cut and I thanked her. I figured, hey, maybe when I go home and straighten it properly it'll look a lot better! But, nope. It was the most terrible haircut I've ever gotten. After a bit of raging around and then just complaining to people in general, I decided I would just re-cut it myself, lol. So, I cut off about another inch off just to fix it up and cut off the parts that she cut all...shaggy-ish? It looked a lot better afterwards so I stopped with my spoiled attitude hahah, but I'm so sad...-sigh- I had just reached my goal point! My hair had reached my waist easily and was on its way to my hips. Now it reaches around the middle of my chest. T_T 6 inches of hair off...I'm officially pretty terrified of hairstylists now hahah
So, anyway
Hair now: Around middle of my chest
Goal point: Waist
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1. What kind of fashion appeals most to you? What would be your ideal outfit on a guy?
Casual, well put together but doesn't have to be majorly fashionable
Nice jeans and a t-shirt always looks nice to me. Maybe a collared shirt here and there haha
2. What aspect of a guy do you place the most importance on (hair, physique, ect.)?
Face in general, personality (horrible personality will ruin the entire image), fit body (doesn't have to be crazy muscular, but looks like you put effort into keeping fit)
3. What is your opinion on men who occasionally swear, drink, party?
That's fine, it's normal
4. What hobbies do you like men to do?
Guitar, hahah
Generally I don't really mind what hobbies they have as long as it's not something questionable and creepy o_o
5. Is creating physical contact (like playfully shoving) more a friend thing or flirting thing?
I think it can be both, but maybe the way they do it or any other aspects of it can differentiate if it's a friend thing or a flirting thing
6. Do more effeminate characteristics attract you more or more masculine ones? Specifically things like a deep voice vs. higher one, rugged look vs. beautified one, confidence vs. shyness.
Masculine characteristics attract me much more
7. If it's okay to ask, what is something or some activities you do during your free time?
Either on computer or hanging out with friends
8. What is your biggest pet peeve when it comes to men (dirty room, unshaved face, ect.)?
Hmm...I think really long fingernails. It looks so gross...
9. What's the best way a guy should let you know he wants to be a friend and not necessarily anything more? I hear alot about how girls want gay friends because it ensures that they can have conversations freely with a man, without potentially starting a relationship. In alot of cases, i just want to be a good friend with a girl because i enjoy her company, but i don't know how to do so naturally or casually.
I think that if a guy is noticing a friend of theirs (a girl) is starting to become interested in him in that way, he can continue to be a friend but maybe cut off pretty much all means of physical contact. No more touching, because I feel like the girl may interpret that as some type of flirt. She may not, but either way, if she likes you she will feel very flustered whenever you touch her. And do not direct too much attention towards her. Give your attention to everyone around equally. Maybe then she'll feel like she's being treated like everyone else. And if she's becoming too much for you, then you should just flat out tell her that you really love her as a friend, but you don't see her as anymore than that.
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Ethnicity: Korean
Was born and grew up in: America
Currently living in: America
Eat rice as your staple food?: Yeah, generally
If you don't eat rice, what's your staple food?: Anything at all, I guess
I think my diet is of a lot of different stuff
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Does his parents even refuse to meet with you? Maybe it could turn out like HavenInMuse's situation where they see how good of a person you are and hopefully learn to look past your heritage.
I can somewhat relate, but just barely. One of my friends is Japanese and her grandma hates me because of the war between Korea and Japan a long time ago. She generally hates anyone who isn't Japanese, but hates Koreans the most. It's just uncomfortable going over to her house. o_o
I agree that it's just so unfair to be hated for your heritage...It doesn't make sense. x_x
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This was almost all the girls in my group
I'm the orange one in the middle, hahah
Prom was fun
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that dress is SO CUTE if you don't mind me asking, where's it from?
you could totally do some giant glittery pumps with that and it would look STUNNING hehe or if you wanna go simpler, i think some tall black pumps would look really great as well but try to keep the shoes simple because of the dress design..
as for nails, since it's a really bright red color, you could totally go for dark or cool colors and it would provide a really nice contrast.. or again, if you wanna go simple, a french goes with everything!!
it's a really fun dress overall, and you can do a lott with it aha good luckk
Thank you for the reply!
I got it from Arden B. It's on their site too
I was so stumped on what color nails to do, but I badly wanted to do like a dark blue LOL
I think my friends thought it was way too opposite hahaha since the dress is very orange-ish coral
But maybe the contrast could make it work out
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Hey, I posted here a while ago with the dress I got for prom
But I found a new one and I think I'm gonna go with this one instead
What color shoes should I wear?
Also, what color should I do for nails?
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I got this dress for prom, but I think I'm still going to shop around more to see if I see something I like more
I got it on a whim because every single dress looked terrible on me, this was the only one that was okay hahah
Do you guys think black is okay for prom?
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gender: Female
Height: 5'1-5'2
Weight: usually around 100
Bra Size: 34A
Age: 17
I'm okay with it but I wouldn't mind if I suddenly went up a size...hahaha
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-Shaking my legs
-Cracking my knuckles
-Clapping when laughing
-Smoothing out pieces of my hair when bored
-I tend to start running my fingers through my hair when I get nervous...I also touch the tip of my nose, like I'm rubbing my nose o_o Wish I could stop this lol
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Wow, that was really mean...
I barely even see what your girlfriend did wrong in this situation, maybe because what you did wrong was much worse. o_o She just annoyed you a bit with it, never commanded it from you. She just tried to hint at it because she wanted it. Yeah, it's irritating but she didn't get angry or whiny with you, did she? All she had was a sad face. And you blew up with her with that kind of comment? Wtf?
I think you should only go and apologize if you feel truly sorry for what you did. Because if you go and apologize but while still thinking that what you said/did was completely justifiable, then I really don't think your relationship with her (or with most people) will work out too well.
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^ Oh my gosh, xiao*jing I just want to say your eyes look SO beautiful!!
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raymondc27 said: I have a question, i've done wrong to my ex when i was still in highschool it's been about 3 years now and i really want to say sorry out of my heart. How would you feel if someone did that to you?