[Ask The Fellas]

Have you ever let games take up a disproportionate amount of your time or priorities at any point in your life? How did it affect you? 

My guy friend used to spend hours playing everyday in high school, he planned his daily activities around it and looked forward to it every evening. At the time, he never saw it as an 'addiction' or even a mild problem, despite declining invitations from friends to hang out multiple times and having a 'cbs' attitude to doing anything other than gaming and things he had to do like work and study. Now in uni, after realising how mundane his life was without socialising much, he's left gaming behind him and is much happier and sociable. He acknowledges now how much gaming affected him and values socialising over gaming. 

I observed the change in behaviour over months as my ex-bf starting getting into gaming again, and the ever increasingly 'cbs' attitude to things. He did not see a problem with having the time to play 3 rounds of Dota a day, but not having the time to talk to me for 10 minutes and stopped spontaneously inviting me to spend time with him. As I tried to put in more effort with our increasingly busy schedules, I become more disappointed and disillusioned because I felt I was losing him more week by week. He heard my problems, but instead of trying to rectify it, for him it was easier to break up with me. 

[Ask The Fellas]

Guys: has your girlfriend ever complained about you taking her for granted or not putting in enough effort?
If so, how have you responded? Did you agree with her or think she's overreacting/clingy?

It's often said that men enjoy a chase, but once they obtain what they want, they get comfortable. When pursuing a girl, you frequently think about her, make plans with her, compliment her and basically try to make her fall for you too. As soon as she says 'Yes' to being your girlfriend, gradually the compliments disappear, and proper dates are few. You think you don't need to compliment her because she already knows you think she's beautiful and you consider your date 3 months ago recent. (I've heard even the most attractive girls with plenty to offer complain about this too). 
Do you notice this difference or are you oblivious? If you do notice, why do you think it happens? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Ask The Fellas]

You ask start a conversation with a girl you happened to pass by, and manage to get her number. 
1) What are your intentions?
2) You text her but are unaware she has a boyfriend or is not interested in a relationship. Ideally, how would you like her to respond or let you know? 
3) You ask how her day was. She responds with, 'Not too bad! My boyfriend and I went to see a movie. How was your day?'How do you respond with this new info in mind? 
If girls reject them straight off the bat when guys ask for their number, some guys complain that they are arrogant for jumping to the conclusion that the guy wants to go beyond friends. If girls think the guy is nice and the convo goes well, and gives the guy their number anyway for potential friendship purposes, some guys complain that girls should not lead them on. 

[Ask The Fellas]

Mka14 said: So I'd kinda like to know what the richard simmons happened here
So, about mid-May this guy who I had a crush on a year before stated to chat me up. He was across the country doing work and he made a point that he'd like to meet up with me after he got home from his job which would only last the summer. Things went pretty well, we'd chat everyday until bedtime, there would sometimes be days we'd go without talking because he was that busy, but he's always come back and things would be like they were before. Anyways, 2 weeks ago, i woke up with a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach (In the past i got this feeling before breakups, idk how to explain but its like a feeling of impending doom) and since a week went by i finally texted him to see if he was ok..nothing..next day i texted him again, told me he couldn't be on his cell this upcoming week. Still saw him on facebook liking other girls photos and such. Anyways, he;'s back home now, hasn't contacted me. IDK wtf happened, i literally did nothing. I suppose i should just move on and stop wasting my time over it? 

[Ask The Ladies - Read First Post]

Do you give people second chances?

Say that you were plain looking/overweight/not rich and a guy you liked rejected you/showed no interest in you/looked down on you, and then you work hard to improve yourself by using makeup/losing weight/getting a well paying job (for yourself, not for him), and then all of a sudden, he is interested in you and starts talking to you heaps. Would you turn him down the way he turned you down or would you forgive him and go out with him? (This is assuming that your relationship level with him stays the same)

I often see this story line in Asian dramas/K-Pop videos/manga and anime, and 9 out of 10 times the girl will reject him at first thinking revenge is sweet, but then gets together with him in the end. I'm sitting on the bench with this because I can't decide which option is more reasonable. 

[What do you spend most of your money on?]

Gym membership and cosplay ><
ALL MY MONEY </3 

[Your Ideal Guy]

Looks:

• Solid frame with firm muscles, doesn't have to be muscular, just not slender like K-Pop stars 
• Decent skin and healthy body - shows that he takes care of himself 

Personality:

• Smart, hardworking, calm and rational. Able to think, question and argue logically 
• Open-minded and shows a willingness to discuss, debate and learn 
• Spontaneous, empathetic and has good social skills 
• Can make me laugh!
• Bonus if he actively keeps up with current world issues and has an appreciation for science and the natural world 
  
  Turn offs: lazy, clingy, possessive, apathetic (saying cbs to everything), shallow, conceited, indecisive and always the sheep in the group - basically, he has no personality. 

[What Does Your Name Mean?]

My real name means 'pure, clean maiden'

[Ask The Ladies - Read First Post]

a) No, I wouldn't mind Girls who are more outgoing and are used to guys asking them out probably wouldn't mind getting to know a stranger better, but for more introverted girls, it can be a bit confronting since the guy could have a violent or stalker history. For girls who don't get asked out much, 'Why?' could simply be a question of confusion.Would you give your contact details to a stranger you barely know anything about with the sole reason being they think you're attractive?

If it isn't a question of confusion, maybe she just isn't interested. If you can ask a girl out judging SOLEY by her looks, then why can't she do the same to you? You pick cute girls to ask out and girls will pick cute guys to accept and give their numbers to: it's a fair situation. You could be attractive to one girl, but not attractive to another.