TheBlackRaven
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I'd like to start off by saying I am a complete noob at relationships. I have only been in a relationship once--five years ago--when I was 14.
And so, what in the world is going on here?
I have a good looking guy friend (2 years older than me) who i have a few things in common with--such as weight lifting--which leads to the paradox that: he is a mechanical engineer major (super shy guy/nerdy, practically) but he has a VERY nice physique (which he knows)--so he's pretty confident (with his body, at least) but he's super shy at the same time... If that makes any sense.
However, we're pretty casual with each other--I mean, c'mon, we work out together (which means heavy breathing together). Hahahha. Like I said, pretty casual. We're comfortable around each other. We joke. We flirt. Sometimes I don't know when the jokes stop and the flirting begins.
I'll offer a few instances/examples:
** i take every chance I get to touch his neck because he is extremely ticklish there and he flinches like nothing else
****when sitting at a study table with our group of mutual friends (if he sits across from me and if he chances to encounter my foot with his foot) he would slide his feet under mine and lift my leg as high as possible to stretch my hamstrings--because I am, more often than not, sore from my leg day workout
***had a small hangout a few weeks ago at my place (first time drinking) for our close, mutual, friends. We all got rather buzzed and, apparently, I'm a hungry/sleepy buzz so I was eating a slice of pizza and he was sprawled out on his back on the couch behind me and so I leaned back--not intending to encounter his chest behind my head (because c'mon, he was laying down and I wasn't leaning THAT far back)--but I did encounter his chest. And so I decided, 'what the hey' and then his arm came around me and he just kinda...held on to my wrist. Until he realized I was still eating my slice of pizza and then lowered his forearm to my hip. (Which didn't last long because my friend caught us, reached for his camera, at which point He and I flew apart)
****went bowling, he was occupying my seat while I went to bowl my turn and when I returned, he refused to move, so I said, "have it your way" and sat on his lap. Again, didn't last more than a few seconds because a friend decided it was so cute she pulled out her cellphone to snap a photo and, naturally, we flew apart.
****went out to eat with our group of mutual friends. I asked everyone what they were ordering and when I got to Him, he gives me the middle finger (with his completely serious expression that neither I nor anyone takes seriously) because prior to dinner, our group was at the park playing football which somehow ended up in a water fight where he was delivered the last blow of water to the face--from me. So anyway, he flips me the middle finger and I ask, "What time?" (Yes, I know, it's completely immature)
"Right now," he replies. And then I prompt, "where?"
And then, too late we realize our entire table of friends is listening to this completely appropriate dinner conversation... (Haha) and so he just smiles and holds in his reply. Later when everyone gets up to pay for their meal, he comes to my side and delivers his suppressed reply of, "right here. On the table. With all the plates of food on it."
To which I laughed at.
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Also, he knows I think he's goodlooking. In fact, I've told him he's "very good looking. And has a very nice body." (In those exact words)
And he blushes and says, "thanks."
But I check out other men (quite blatantly). And it's the sort where I simply go, "he's goodlooking." And our group of mutual friends never fails to look and either confirms it or denies it. (Group of friends consists of 9 guys, 3 girls) but its a thing our entire group does: when we see someone good looking, we point it out to the group.
***anyway, there was this instance where my older sister (who is part of the group) asked everyone in the group if men and women could be friends without developing feelings for one another and there were mixed responses but His was, "Yes, it is possible." His example was, "I don't have feelings for either of you."
Which makes me completely confused.
So yes. there you have it. I've written quite a lot.
frankly, I've found someone who shares my wicked sense of humor, someone I have incredibly geeky jokes with, someone who helps me with calculus problems, someone who spots me and works out with me, someone who I can carry an incredibly long conversation with. More than that, though, I've found someone who accepts me for me. The first day my cousin introduced me to him, I told him I had a minor case of scoliosis (crooked spine) amongst our discussion of working out and instead of saying 'ew' like another friend had, He leaned across the table and said, "you should try deadlifting. I heard it strengthens the spine." And so I did.
And it has.
Also, from this hour-long conversation we had the first day we met, I learned he has never been in a relationship and has never been on a date because he was 'too shy' to ask out anyone he's had a crush on. Also managed to learn about his most heartbreaking moment ever--which he made me swear to never tell anyone and he still cannot believe I managed to pry that information out of him.
So this man is terrific. And I have commitment issues, but for this guy I'm willing to try.
I just need to know whether or not this flirtation/joking can go anywhere because if it doesn't, I'd be okay with that. I'd still have him as a friend.
But if it does, I'd be one damned happy camper.
I just don't want to muck up our friendship by doing anything I'd regret--get any emotions in places they're not suppose to be. Actually, they're already there. Making it known, however, may complicate things.
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I see this incredibly handsome asian guy at the gym every morning. Apparently our workout schedules are the same--not that I'm complaining, or stalking. And if he so happens to be in front of me doing some deadlifts, who's to say I can't enjoy the view from my position, eh?
This man...-sigh-
Tall (5"7, maybe), very nice build (mmhmm, yes. Compliments on the arms, please), light-skinned, and--oh sweet Jesus--his smile when we make eye-contact. It is just the most...
Frankly, had I any less self-restraint, i would throw myself at him.
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Shirt-less photo on networking sites.
This applies to both genders. -
I don't believe I've ever been confessed to. Nor have I ever confessed.
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This is depressing.
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This is why we unicorns are a dying breed. -
Love life = Nonexistent
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1)Imagine a large white room
2)In that large room, imagine a cube.
Is the cube clear or does it have colors?
Clear
Is the cube floating or is it on the ground?
Ground
Is the cube small,medium,or large?
Medium
3)Then imagine flowers.
Where are they inside the white room?
Inside the cube
Are there alot or a little?
Many. A field of em'.
4)Imagine a ladder inside the white room
Where is the ladder inside the white room?
Against the right wall
Is the ladder small,medium,or large?
Medium
5)Imagine a horse inside the white room
Where is the horse located at?
Inside the cube
Name three characteristics about the hourse(ex.fun,crazy,mean)
Loyal, sturdy, brave
6)Lastly...imagine a thunderstorm inside the white room.
Where it is?
Inside the cube
How big is it?
Huge
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They say only when you lose yourself, do you truly find yourself.
Perhaps I should lose myself for a bit.
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An elderly man--with a cane--held a door open for me.
Heart-warming to the fullest.
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Gentlemen.
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Want some food?
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Where to start?
When does flirtation evolve into...more? (My situation)
in soompi hangout
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I will go for it.
YOLO!
Hahahahah. Joking. No YOLO. But I will go for it. Not anytime soon, however, what with finals and projects and papers in the way and everything--because the end of the school year is fast approaching and we both have a lot on our plates and I'd rather not add on to that (his plate OR mine).
I would be increasingly proud of myself if he had had a boner in any of those intense situations. However, I think I took care of that quite well this past Friday when I hit him rather square in that area with a volleyball--in a game of dodgeball.
I then told him I would offer to 'kiss the boo-boo' if it were in any other area but that.