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Why do some guys get really close w/ you on snapchat but ghost you in person?

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On 3/20/2019 at 6:05 AM, Rihyun said:

Why do some guys get really close w/ you on snapchat but ghost you in person?

 

Maybe they/he is shy in rl ;) 

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Me and my boyfriend who is my friend for a year started dating last week.

At first, he said he will work in Taiwan for a year until I finished my master degree and after that we can study for phD together. But today he mentioned about phD program from his home university. I did not want to see like forcing him to stay with me So I did not ask about his plan in detail. Should I ask him ? Will he think like I am trying to tie him down ?

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No, well, depends how you ask him. He is your boyfriend, so it's just normal to know about his future, so just ask him freely and tell him that you just want to understand in detail. Don't mention your previous plans, because this could sound like you want to tie him down.

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59 minutes ago, Dhakra said:

No, well, depends how you ask him. He is your boyfriend, so it's just normal to know about his future, so just ask him freely and tell him that you just want to understand in detail. Don't mention your previous plans, because this could sound like you want to tie him down.

Actually, pursuing phD together is his plan. My plan is not to fall in love too much xD but I already did.

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Is a gay guy will sways when walking? Is there any differences if gay walk and guy walk? 

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On 5/16/2019 at 9:34 AM, Sejabin said:

Is a gay guy will sways when walking? Is there any differences if gay walk and guy walk? 

 

I live in a gay village for almost 5 years so I'll try to answer. Some gay people will be obvious in the way they talk, walk, etc... But some others talk, walk, move just like straight guys so it's hard to tell until they let you know... But then again, there are some straight guys that seem gay as hell so everything is confusing in my town. There are guys that had surgery to have boobs, butt, and everything to look like girls but they're straight and kept their shlong because they're still into girls while wanting to look like a girl. They're like incompleted straight transsexuals but they don't want to be called transsexuals (or tranny), they wanna be called straight men. Some are normal straight guys by day and drag queen by night. I have so many stories here that are gonna seem weird to you but at the end of the day, it's just better to not think too much into it... The obvious ones (like famous Youtuber James Charles) have the stereotypical way of gay people that you can spot a mile away but there are a lot of very discreet ones out there we can never spot until they say so.

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Please help me with this problem, it was on my mind for quite a while and I can’t put it off until I figure it out. 

 

So the story is I met a guy for the second time on a friends’s Trip. I picked him up because his house near mine and we were carpool, during the trip it seem that we are more closed. I enjoy his company and vice versa. Then a week after the trip, he texted me happy birthday and then we start to text from then on. At first we were just friend, no feelings or whatsoever. Then he start to ask me when I start school, and what school I go to. So I answered and also joked about that if he want me to stalk anybody there at my school because he was specific on the school that I goes to so I thought he was interest in a girl at the school so I was being nice to say yes I would. And then I asked him who it is and he told me that Him and I need to have food, drink and he needs to look at me in the eyes in order to tell me who.” So I reply to him that sound scary because he could just tell me and no need to do those. He told me it is not scary, and it is like going on a roller coaster. (So I got lost here when he said roller coaster, like how it is related to that ). Then I told him that I don’t like roller coaster and then he said how about when we were younger and we get balloon from a clown and we get so happy. (Then I got more confused). Then I joked around about the clown “it” and how scary was it. Then he goes on and said jokingly that he has an “it” doll in his closet that he kiss goodnight everyday. Then I told him if he does that then i’ll Give him a thumb ups, and he reply:” only a thumb ups? How about buy me dinner”. So then I was like more more confused, so I told him isn’t he suppose to buy me dinner since my reward that I will help him stalk, and he said :” bargained huh? Me like” . Then later he promise to bring me out to sushi because he didn’t make it to my birthday. (our conversation continue to be confused and joking after a month) then when he on an overseas trip my friends got very curious so they texted his closed friend and ask what he thinks of me. Then the day after my friend told me that his friend said he see me as friend. Then after that when he come back from his trip, he has to study for  board exam so our conversation start to die down as time goes. I invited him to group hangout but he doesn’t show up to any. But if I texted him to ask what he been up to he would tell me detail, even when his Father passed away he told me too. My friends think he is shady because I asked him to join us for a group hangout and he never comes. Doesn’t seem like he wants to hangout with us. 

 

So overall is this guy sound shady? Is he just joking from the beginning/ Maybe I’m just too dumb to figure out the clue or am I thinking too much. (Also he promise to bring me out to dinner couple of times but never did)

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@melody2016wrapzOkay, okay.

 

So did you actually meet and did he tell you which girl he likes at your scholl? Because over here it really sounds like he threw hints at you like darts, but you somehow managed to masterfully dodge them with exceptional precision. He clearly meant you. He wanted to tell you in person, that the girl he likes at your school, is you. 

But somehow it sounds like you never really got the idea and he gave up. I mean he isn't going to tell any mutual friends first that he likes you, good friends wouldn't also just tell you without his knowledge. 

Basically, don't trust third opinions unless you hear it from himself face to face, guys are bad and telling third parties about their feelings. (Some aren't even good at telling their own partners).

But it seems like he still likes you, if he doesn't want to join any group hangouts, it could be due to being just busy, but it could also be because he tries to get over you and forget you, because he still likes you. 

If we want to forget a girl, we try to blend her out and avoid any contact, which never works, because the more we try to, the more we think about it. Only time helps. 

 

I honestly don't think he is shady, he seems more like a guy whose interest wasn't answered and now he tries to move on. He was looking for an opportunity to tell you his feelings, but you didn't get his hints and continued surfing on the wave of friendship, while he was trying to set sail on the (relation)ship.

 

Spoiler

(omg that pun, I'm a little proud. I hope some people see it)

 

But it could be also him just being busy due to exams, but for me it reads like he is or was into you.

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@Dhakra thank you so much for your input, it actually helps a lot with different perspective. No we haven’t met to talk about it, when we were about to then something always come up. I guess I really didn’t get the clues that he gave, I just thought he was just joking around. So what advise would you recommend that I should do now?

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@melody2016wrapzHow much times has passed since this all happened? Well, at first you should try to get regular contact with him again, no need to bomb him with messages, just put yourself back on his radar and get in touch with him. Try to get him into a state where he begins to talk to you again. 

This will be significantly more difficult, if a lot of time passed already. 

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:blush: want to ask something but too shy xixixixixix :relaxed:

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@Dhakrait happened couple of months ago. Sorry for the late reply it’s because I finally get to meet him up with couple of friends to play tennis today. During tennis it seem that he picks on me on a lot of things. I’m not a pro of tennis and I am still trying to learn how to play, while I was in the game and he was just waiting for his turn, instead of throwing me a ball for me to surf but he throw a bunch of them at me. And if I was on his team he would say that he doesn’t rest enough for this round. I don’t know if he being mean because I was on his team because I don’t know how to play tennis or because he just hate me in general. We both argue throughout the time we play.

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@SejabinYou could also just ask me directly. :D 

 

@melody2016wrapzWell, his behavior suggests that he definitely has still some kind of interest in you. Now you just have to find out which kind it is. If guys have an interest in a girl, we tease her to get attention and make her interact with us. 

It's kinda hard for me see which way it went, was it more bantering between friends or serious argueing. Body language is also something important to take into account. 

 

If we like a girl, the first thing we do, is not showing that we like her. 

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Why a person, a guy, or a person, send you this ~~~> :heart: and red lips emo ?

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@SejabinBecause he/the person likes you? :huh: And the red lips...maybe he wants to kiss you?

 

Maybe he doesn't know you. ^_^ Kidding.

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We know each other :rolleyes: well..

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@Dhakra  it was more of a bantering,, how do I figure it out what kind, it hard to tell since everybody was just playing tennis.He’s a very mysterious person, up until now his message is still kind of like beating around the bush. For example if I ask what year he born, he would not tell me but instead he would ask me to tell him his birth year instead. For guys, do you guys like to do the mind game also? If you were to interest in a girl would you do beating around the bush conversation? I noticed that during the tennis game  he was introduce one his guy friend to us but when it come to introduce me to that friend, both of them start to giggling. 

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I recently fell in love with lot of Thai BL. And mainly 2moons2

But I wonder a lot about Thai boyfriend. In 2moons2 their life looks so cool and they look so much fun to hang out with.

How are the guy in the serie versus real life? Also how to actually try to contact them to get closer? I tried send messages on instagram but they never reply. Can they date online? Are they are sweet as they look like? I am very into one of them and I would like to know him better. But idk how. I also do not live in Thailand but Europe. And it is not a fan kind of though. I am never the one going to even and screaming like crazy. I am so lost :/

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@melody2016wrapzThat's not a question that you can answer in general. People, and so are men, are all different. Some do, some don't. I personally wouldn't do that, or at least I think I wouldn't, but if that is his way, then I guess you have to either endure it or straight tell him what's up. Someone has to make the first move.

 

@PocketPoutouSo, you fell for a guy from a variety/TV Show? I think there is nothing I can really help you with. 

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