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13 minutes ago, Dhakra said:

@SejabinTrust me, it's not. No guys are like that, you have no idea what you are talking about. It's just random, confusing stuff.

More opinions are good, if they would be any good and yours are far, far, FAR away from that. 

But this isn't about you here, luckily. 

 

Nah mochalate love our sharing advice too.. oh gosh you are sometimes too traditional :sweatingbullets: 

btw my opinion is good too. Don’t give too much attention to a guy. They will act too much. Short and to the point.

Heiiii.. I rarely share about me in here because it will be you who will give the advice hahahahaha. But I still remember your views about a ahjussi. It takes pages in here ^_* wkwkwkwkwk

 

how I wish we have more fellas in here. Our option is only traditional dhakra :wub: sighhhh.. 

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@SejabinIf you truly think, anyone with an IQ above room temperature will take your "advices", then please, be my guest and continue to think it.

 

 

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8 minutes ago, Dhakra said:

@SejabinIf you truly think, anyone with an IQ above room temperature will take your "advices", then please, be my guest and continue to think it.

 

 

 

Mmm.. nah this is what different between me and you:

1. You want your advice to be taken, while me I just share. 

2. Our sex of course

3. Dhakra loves attention while me I just type

4. He loves to insist that other opinions are wrong and seems he is always right. While me I don’t care. Oh perhaps because I am a girl. Ughhhh.. 

okey then you own this thread based on your sex sighhhhhh (though sometimes I think your advice is too traditional) :dissapointed:

 

 

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@Mochalatte8 I guess because you meet him everyday, he started to take you for granted. So he enjoyed meeting his buddies more and spent until late 3am and have fun a lot. I think this is pretty normal in long term relationship. 

 

Since this only happened only once a week, i suggest you to have other way having good time with yourself or girlfriend bff without think much of him. Perhaps you also can enjoy yourself more, and he will see a change in you too. Unless deep down, you really feel you can't trust him enough. 

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1. Your "advises get ignored.... ALL THE TIME. 

2. glad you figured that one out 

3. You do realize that this is a thread that is TARGETED at guys and I am the only one around. 

4. No, mouse advices are very, very good. But surprise, people actually think I am right a lot of times, because....Look at 2...I am a guy and know what I am talking about. 

 

Seja, I will ignore you from now on, you didn't understand back then and you still don't. Luckily all people here always ignored your advices, the only one who didn't realize that, was you. 

 

Stay here, it doesn't matter anyway. 

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3 minutes ago, Dhakra said:

1. Your "advises get ignored.... ALL THE TIME. 

2. glad you figured that one out 

3. You do realize that this is a thread that is TARGETED at guys and I am the only one around. 

4. No, mouse advices are very, very good. But surprise, people actually think I am right a lot of times, because....Look at 2...I am a guy and know what I am talking about. 

 

Seja, I will ignore you from now on, you didn't understand back then and you still don't. Luckily all people here always ignored your advices, the only one who didn't realize that, was you. 

 

Stay here, it doesn't matter anyway. 

 

Seems you have a problem with being ignored. That is why you don’t like when I give opinion about as long as he left enough cash and paid my cc bills I will let him..

 

while me I never care about being ignored or not that is why I can give opinion about go shopping.. you have see me in this forum for almost 2 years and you see that I never care about being ignored :heart: 

 

truly.. dhakra.. sometimes you are too sentimental of being ignored. :kiss_wink:

 

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@SejabinThat's doesn't even make sense... soo yeah... Whatever.

Keep talking 

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On 3/12/2019 at 4:23 PM, Mochalatte8 said:

@Lawyerh you're right. Since it's just once a week on Friday nights, I should use that time to do something for myself.  

 

 


think of it as that. he is mostly giving you 6 days a week, and only 1 day for his friends. if you want to experience his nightly/early morning crawls then setup date nights that would be just that.

as for your insecurities, that is on you alone. from the sounds of it, his track record proves otherwise. your neurotic thoughts towards his level of committment can only change if you make the change. reflecting on sejabins advice, why give him this much attention? apart from being a bore, he hasnt done anything that should be of concern.

from the scope of it all, should both of you really be in a relationship? on one side, you have a guy close to hitting 40s still hanging onto his youth. and on the other side, you have a girl who has trust issues. that to me, is incompatibility.

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Why do some guys get really close w/ you on snapchat but ghost you in person?

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On 3/20/2019 at 6:05 AM, Rihyun said:

Why do some guys get really close w/ you on snapchat but ghost you in person?

 

Maybe they/he is shy in rl ;) 

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Me and my boyfriend who is my friend for a year started dating last week.

At first, he said he will work in Taiwan for a year until I finished my master degree and after that we can study for phD together. But today he mentioned about phD program from his home university. I did not want to see like forcing him to stay with me So I did not ask about his plan in detail. Should I ask him ? Will he think like I am trying to tie him down ?

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No, well, depends how you ask him. He is your boyfriend, so it's just normal to know about his future, so just ask him freely and tell him that you just want to understand in detail. Don't mention your previous plans, because this could sound like you want to tie him down.

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59 minutes ago, Dhakra said:

No, well, depends how you ask him. He is your boyfriend, so it's just normal to know about his future, so just ask him freely and tell him that you just want to understand in detail. Don't mention your previous plans, because this could sound like you want to tie him down.

Actually, pursuing phD together is his plan. My plan is not to fall in love too much xD but I already did.

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Is a gay guy will sways when walking? Is there any differences if gay walk and guy walk? 

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On 5/16/2019 at 9:34 AM, Sejabin said:

Is a gay guy will sways when walking? Is there any differences if gay walk and guy walk? 

 

I live in a gay village for almost 5 years so I'll try to answer. Some gay people will be obvious in the way they talk, walk, etc... But some others talk, walk, move just like straight guys so it's hard to tell until they let you know... But then again, there are some straight guys that seem gay as hell so everything is confusing in my town. There are guys that had surgery to have boobs, butt, and everything to look like girls but they're straight and kept their shlong because they're still into girls while wanting to look like a girl. They're like incompleted straight transsexuals but they don't want to be called transsexuals (or tranny), they wanna be called straight men. Some are normal straight guys by day and drag queen by night. I have so many stories here that are gonna seem weird to you but at the end of the day, it's just better to not think too much into it... The obvious ones (like famous Youtuber James Charles) have the stereotypical way of gay people that you can spot a mile away but there are a lot of very discreet ones out there we can never spot until they say so.

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Please help me with this problem, it was on my mind for quite a while and I can’t put it off until I figure it out. 

 

So the story is I met a guy for the second time on a friends’s Trip. I picked him up because his house near mine and we were carpool, during the trip it seem that we are more closed. I enjoy his company and vice versa. Then a week after the trip, he texted me happy birthday and then we start to text from then on. At first we were just friend, no feelings or whatsoever. Then he start to ask me when I start school, and what school I go to. So I answered and also joked about that if he want me to stalk anybody there at my school because he was specific on the school that I goes to so I thought he was interest in a girl at the school so I was being nice to say yes I would. And then I asked him who it is and he told me that Him and I need to have food, drink and he needs to look at me in the eyes in order to tell me who.” So I reply to him that sound scary because he could just tell me and no need to do those. He told me it is not scary, and it is like going on a roller coaster. (So I got lost here when he said roller coaster, like how it is related to that ). Then I told him that I don’t like roller coaster and then he said how about when we were younger and we get balloon from a clown and we get so happy. (Then I got more confused). Then I joked around about the clown “it” and how scary was it. Then he goes on and said jokingly that he has an “it” doll in his closet that he kiss goodnight everyday. Then I told him if he does that then i’ll Give him a thumb ups, and he reply:” only a thumb ups? How about buy me dinner”. So then I was like more more confused, so I told him isn’t he suppose to buy me dinner since my reward that I will help him stalk, and he said :” bargained huh? Me like” . Then later he promise to bring me out to sushi because he didn’t make it to my birthday. (our conversation continue to be confused and joking after a month) then when he on an overseas trip my friends got very curious so they texted his closed friend and ask what he thinks of me. Then the day after my friend told me that his friend said he see me as friend. Then after that when he come back from his trip, he has to study for  board exam so our conversation start to die down as time goes. I invited him to group hangout but he doesn’t show up to any. But if I texted him to ask what he been up to he would tell me detail, even when his Father passed away he told me too. My friends think he is shady because I asked him to join us for a group hangout and he never comes. Doesn’t seem like he wants to hangout with us. 

 

So overall is this guy sound shady? Is he just joking from the beginning/ Maybe I’m just too dumb to figure out the clue or am I thinking too much. (Also he promise to bring me out to dinner couple of times but never did)

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@melody2016wrapzOkay, okay.

 

So did you actually meet and did he tell you which girl he likes at your scholl? Because over here it really sounds like he threw hints at you like darts, but you somehow managed to masterfully dodge them with exceptional precision. He clearly meant you. He wanted to tell you in person, that the girl he likes at your school, is you. 

But somehow it sounds like you never really got the idea and he gave up. I mean he isn't going to tell any mutual friends first that he likes you, good friends wouldn't also just tell you without his knowledge. 

Basically, don't trust third opinions unless you hear it from himself face to face, guys are bad and telling third parties about their feelings. (Some aren't even good at telling their own partners).

But it seems like he still likes you, if he doesn't want to join any group hangouts, it could be due to being just busy, but it could also be because he tries to get over you and forget you, because he still likes you. 

If we want to forget a girl, we try to blend her out and avoid any contact, which never works, because the more we try to, the more we think about it. Only time helps. 

 

I honestly don't think he is shady, he seems more like a guy whose interest wasn't answered and now he tries to move on. He was looking for an opportunity to tell you his feelings, but you didn't get his hints and continued surfing on the wave of friendship, while he was trying to set sail on the (relation)ship.

 

Spoiler

(omg that pun, I'm a little proud. I hope some people see it)

 

But it could be also him just being busy due to exams, but for me it reads like he is or was into you.

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@Dhakra thank you so much for your input, it actually helps a lot with different perspective. No we haven’t met to talk about it, when we were about to then something always come up. I guess I really didn’t get the clues that he gave, I just thought he was just joking around. So what advise would you recommend that I should do now?

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