[Drama 2019] Her Private Life 그녀의 사생활

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2 minutes ago, tinkerbelle2004 said:

I can relate to that because i'm experiencing the same syndrome .  It used to be that i would have some kdrama to keep me busy every day but with HPL, i keep lurking for spoilers, insights, GIFs, artwork, etc of our OTP.  I did try to start on another rom com but i find myself comparing the lead couple with RG-DM every time!  I'd keep hoping for the lion & rabbit's sizzling on-screen chemistry on the other leads.  Any hope for an extension??? 

 

Me too!! I can’t watch another drama especially romcom genre because I keep replaying HPL episodes. 

 

Everytime I saw another romcom couple on Youtube, I’m starting to compare them to Ryan and Deok Mi. Especially the male lead! You will never go past Ryan 

 

No hope for extention I think, because WWW already set its premiere date. But mayyybeee if miracle happens, pdnim could give us like a special episode again. but it’s very very unlikely. 

 

For now, I just hope for bluray release and another project for KJW and PMY.

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23 hours ago, larus said:

Kim Jae Wook And Park Min Young Meet The Mother Of All Questions In “Her Private Life”

by D. S.kim

 

Haha, of course they have to meet in the Elevator of Fate. It's the hippiest, most happening place ever in Seoul where encounters have an extra layer of spice and kinkiness.

 

I guess Shi-an doesn't know his mum goes by (or used to go by) the name Lee Sol?  Although it wouldn't be surprising if he did (he knows!) and was doing all that stuff (about the paintings) as a way to reach out to Ryan. It would be nice to see Shi-an and Deok-mi team up to heal any rifts between Ryan and his mother. Might have the added side-effect of easing her fangirling over Shi-an - I mean, if he's gonna be her brother-in-law in the future...

 

 

22 hours ago, tensaitekikuroneko said:

I agree with you all, this drama has ruined me for all others.

The problem with me is that I have started comparing all male leads to Ryan and I'm so dissatisfied.

1. Wrist grab and dragging the female lead against her will is not romantic, Ryan will never do that. He holds her hands so tenderly.

2. Surprise kiss without acknowledgement of interest? Dude no - look at Ryan, the only time he kissed her was after explicit declarations of love and mutual understanding and consent. The thumb kiss? Amazing save there. He didn't just say, I think she likes me and then proceed. He waited for her to come out and tell him. He's great.

3. Broody male lead because of tragic past who randomly shouts at the female lead? No please, she is not your punching bag, be considerate like Ryan, he apologized for ruining the mood and being grumpy even if he knew DM didn't mind. My woke hero knows she is not at fault for his family issues

4. Lack of apologies for any transgressions or shouting? My lion doesn't lead that life.

5. Treating your girlfriend/wife as someone who needs to be protected and not told stuff, more like a child than a life partner? Heck no, Ryan will tell her everything because she's supposed to know if as a long term romantic partner.

6. Overruling decisions of female lead? No, man, Ryan might have more experience but he respects DM's authority like when she recommended Cindy should handle merchandising (with an ulterior motive yes, but her hunch as a team leader/superior was on point)

7. Causing embarrassment to female lead for being wrong or making mistakes in public? Lion doesn't even know what that means. I remember the staff recalling that DM was once fired but they didn't know the reason, and then during the team dinner guessed it was because DM was too forward with her desires. Clearly, Ryan never publicly humiliated/embarassed her but I can guarantee that all other leads would have screamed all details in public view. Infact, he actively saves her from being outed as SNG.

8. Being grumpy or screaming at female lead for being caught with "another guy" and forbidding her to "smile/laugh/meet" another guy? Lol, lion ain't insecure. He was annoyed, listened to her, and also finally told her that she should not deal with EG rashly because he's important to her and he trusts that she won't be swayed.

9. Violation of privacy? Ryan can never do that. He didn't misuse Latte. His conversations with her weren't to ask for information. He told her his issues and waited for response, but didn't probe if there was someone she liked or anything. Others would have.

10. "We cannot fight in the streets. We are educated people." Enough said.

So whenever I switch to any other drama, it just gets me mad and I just go gaga over how amazing Ryan Gold is once again. Same for DM, to be honest, but really, Ryan just wiped the floor with any kdrama lead I have seen so far.

 

Some very good points, and Ryan is really setting the bar high. He's proof that we don't need toxic masculinity to shape a compelling male lead in k-dramas. But perhaps ratings aren't bursting through the roof because in part people can't quite deal with a man who actually openly communicates with, respects and trusts his other half. We are so used to seeing k-drama male leads turn explosive at the slightest bit of provocation, but Ryan has been surprising people at every turn with his maturity in dealing with things. Even if he feels twinges of jealousy, he is not insecure, and he trusts Deok-mi will handle things if she says she will. I don't expect k-drama male leads to morph into Ryan clones from now, but hopefully this is a start to people realising that toxic masculinity has no place anywhere, in dramas or in society.

 

Read a comment somewhere else that Ryan "tends to be a bit weepy" (paraphrasing here, but same sentiment). That got me kind of annoyed. I'd rather Ryan come clean with his feelings than keep Deok-mi guessing - like she said, they don't keep secrets from each other and he's being honest about his vulnerable moments. He's been holding in his hurt for many years, and it was only after Deok-mi reassured him it was okay to cry that he gave into his sorrow. I don't see how that's being weepy. Not everyone can be stoic all the time, and Ryan is obviously going through a difficult time. He is allowed to get in touch with his emotions, and no one should be giving him stick for feeling what he is feeling.

 

(sorry mod about the quoting! Posting one of my favourite photos instead of our lovebirds)

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43 minutes ago, tensaitekikuroneko said:

I agree with you all, this drama has ruined me for all others.

The problem with me is that I have started comparing all male leads to Ryan and I'm so dissatisfied.

1. Wrist grab and dragging the female lead against her will is not romantic, Ryan will never do that. He holds her hands so tenderly.

2. Surprise kiss without acknowledgement of interest? Dude no - look at Ryan, the only time he kissed her was after explicit declarations of love and mutual understanding and consent. The thumb kiss? Amazing save there. He didn't just say, I think she likes me and then proceed. He waited for her to come out and tell him. He's great.

3. Broody male lead because of tragic past who randomly shouts at the female lead? No please, she is not your punching bag, be considerate like Ryan, he apologized for ruining the mood and being grumpy even if he knew DM didn't mind. My woke hero knows she is not at fault for his family issues

4. Lack of apologies for any transgressions or shouting? My lion doesn't lead that life.

5. Treating your girlfriend/wife as someone who needs to be protected and not told stuff, more like a child than a life partner? Heck no, Ryan will tell her everything because she's supposed to know if as a long term romantic partner.

6. Overruling decisions of female lead? No, man, Ryan might have more experience but he respects DM's authority like when she recommended Cindy should handle merchandising (with an ulterior motive yes, but her hunch as a team leader/superior was on point)

7. Causing embarrassment to female lead for being wrong or making mistakes in public? Lion doesn't even know what that means. I remember the staff recalling that DM was once fired but they didn't know the reason, and then during the team dinner guessed it was because DM was too forward with her desires. Clearly, Ryan never publicly humiliated/embarassed her but I can guarantee that all other leads would have screamed all details in public view. Infact, he actively saves her from being outed as SNG.

8. Being grumpy or screaming at female lead for being caught with "another guy" and forbidding her to "smile/laugh/meet" another guy? Lol, lion ain't insecure. He was annoyed, listened to her, and also finally told her that she should not deal with EG rashly because he's important to her and he trusts that she won't be swayed.

9. Violation of privacy? Ryan can never do that. He didn't misuse Latte. His conversations with her weren't to ask for information. He told her his issues and waited for response, but didn't probe if there was someone she liked or anything. Others would have.

10. "We cannot fight in the streets. We are educated people." Enough said.

So whenever I switch to any other drama, it just gets me mad and I just go gaga over how amazing Ryan Gold is once again. Same for DM, to be honest, but really, Ryan just wiped the floor with any kdrama lead I have seen so far.

 

YES!  100% agree.  I couldn't have said it much better than you did.  RG-DM are not your stereotypical kdrama characters in spite of this drama being your standard rom com.  They blew away my expectations!  I'm so not looking forward to next week when this drama ends.  

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New stills!

 

 

 

 

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NEW STILLS

 

 

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@tensaitekikuroneko Love your post about Ryan vs typical K-drama male leads! I would like to add another point, although this might be more of a comparison to real life. I love that he doesn't belittle Deokmi's passion for fangirling. He may not share it, but he respects that it's important to her and he tries to learn more about it, and he pays attention when Deokmi talks about it (like a recapper commented, his eyes didn't even glaze over once! ).

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new post by soop on naver regarding our leading man~ 

 

https://m.post.naver.com/viewer/postView.nhn?volumeNo=20340694&memberNo=22903361

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Kim Jae Wook is My Life 

 

You guys can look at HERE ..soop management upload lots of KJW latest gorgeous photos on naver

 

 

 

 

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Has anyone wondered why they are in the lift at Ryan's home in the same outfit (ending of episode 12)? Wasn't it late at work already then?? They didnt go home? Heh

 

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Kim Jae Wook in that suit is  If I were Deok Mi, I probably will drag him to my house instead gallery  

 

And Deok Mi outfit looking great too

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4 hours ago, annie1234 said:

 

Kim Jae Wook in that suit is  If I were Deok Mi, I probably will drag him to my house instead gallery  

 

And Deok Mi outfit looking great too

 

I knowww...KJW in a three-piece suit...something I foolishly never thought I needed in my life but now I know I do!  Of course I also love seeing them all affectionate in the stills, like you would expect from a couple in love.  (That was one of the things that I found weird in WWWSK, like even after they'd already slept together I felt like they lacked physical affection in their daily interactions. I'm glad it's not like that this time.)

 

@mmac80 Aww, I love that YJS sent her that truck! Busted castmates FTW. 

Edited May 22 by triplem
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Another Busted co-star sent an ice cream truck to PMY and HPL. Awww...

 

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I realy hope that HPL will do Ryan adoption issues justice. Korean International Adoption is a real issue, and emotional struggle faced by korean international adoptees are also real. I have watched few documentaries about korean international adoptee, and the stories really tug at my heartstring. So I really hope Ryan as a fictional character can be potrayed with respect to them. Since the beginning, there are no birth secret, the similarity between Ryan and Sian is hinted since Episode 1, his adopted step mom of Korean Descent and him being adopted abroad also mentioned in ep 2. The possibility that Lee Sol his bio mom also hinted in earlier episodes. So i have high hope that the story won't go into the makjang route.

 

I find the timing of Ryan Adoption was interesting. If he was born in 1987, and adopted at 7 (i assume he refer to International age, he is US citizen), that means he was adopted in 1994. If I refer to this link https://www.kadoption.or.kr/en/info/info_history.jsp, in 1994 overseas adoption ban was cancelled. From korean ministry of healt and welfare data, in the same year there are 2.262 children adopted overseas. Overseas adoption background from 1990-2000, from 22.129 cases, 20.460 cases was unwed mother.

 

So I think the childhood story can be utilized more than just an old drama trope. I think the writer intend to create contrast, between Ryan and Eun Gi.  Albeit the same background, both born from unwed single mother, both in artistic field, lived in the same neighboorhood, Ryan and Eun gi having different path in life. Nam Editor chose to put his son into her family registry and let foster parents raised him (open adoption), so she was not separated with her son. Bravely took risk that her name registered as an unwed mother and let go of her chance to marry (due to social stigma). While Lee Sol chose to let go of her son for overseas adoption, maybe hoping for better future for him, coz she was a struggling artist and single mom. Letting go of her son made her be able to start over and had another child, but always regretting the separation. Both kids turn out allright, they become sucessful in their own path. But for Ryan, as korean overseas adoptee, no matter how good their adopted parents are, the scar in his heart still remain. To understand the struggle of an international adoptee, this is a good read https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/18/magazine/why-a-generation-of-adoptees-is-returning-to-south-korea.html.

 

So I think the childhood story if done right, can be a nod to overseas korean adoptee. How to deal meeting the biological family after being estranged for so long. How to come to term with dual identity as a korean descent raised in western culture, etc.

 

 

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So sweet of KJW's hoobae colleague to send him coffee truck but look at the banner. They cheered on Park Minyoung as well.

Usually it's just one's name.

3 hours ago, Hueee said:

 

Her dress here looks really nice.

Look at the 2nd slide :""
The full body shot.

Edited May 22 by triplem
Pls don’t quote images including IG. Thanks.

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I'm going to find and get this doll in Seoul next month!! i wish i can get the owner of the shoulder too 

but i guess that shoulder belongs to Miss Bunny Bunny 

 

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43 minutes ago, bliss1004 said:

I'm going to find and get this doll in Seoul next month!! i wish i can get the owner of the shoulder too 

but i guess that shoulder belongs to Miss Bunny Bunny 

 

Is that doll become official merchandise for HPL? I think the doll that Si An gave to SiNaGil-nim during fanmeeting become a merchandise too.

 

 no need merchandise, I just need the owner of that shoulder! Do I need to fight with Deok Mi to get that? 

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51 minutes ago, cheesethatnotsocheesey said:

So sweet of KJW's hoobae colleague to send him coffee truck but look at the banner. They cheered on Park Minyoung as well.

Usually it's just one's name.

 

Oohh really? Can you help translate what is written on the banner?