[Drama 2018] Shall We Live Together/ Marry Me Now? 같이 살래요

[newyee]

@ajummapunkinssi  I am sorry about your experience. That is part and parcel of life. Anything can happen to anyone as long as you are a human. At this rate, ET will surely not consider having a second child. The message sent to viewers is a negative one too, consider the already low birth rate in developed countries worldwide. 

 

I would prefer ET to be a courageous and positive-thinking man who can give YH (who is ill-fated in love) a happy future soon. He should tell JJH he won't produce any offspring besides IVF ES. JJH would beg YH to marry ET then. 

[joonminfan]

8 minutes ago, newyee said:

@ajummapunkinssi  I am sorry about your experience. That is part and parcel of life. Anything can happen to anyone as long as you are a human. At this rate, ET will surely not consider having a second child. The message sent to viewers is a negative one too, consider the already low birth rate in developed countries worldwide. 

 

I would prefer ET to be a courageous and positive-thinking man who can give YH (who is ill-fated in love) a happy future soon. He should tell JJH he won't produce any offspring besides IVF ES. JJH would beg YH to marry ET then. 

 

I really do think that we should give ET some time to deal with his emotions. As a parent myself, I can understand his fear and anxiety even when my child is healthy. There is always a first time for anyone, and this “first time” for ET was really huge to deal with. I’m waiting for him to sort out his emotions and be back, mentally and emotionally prepared to stand alongside YH and fight for their happiness together. 

 

And also, I don’t think ET was always this emotional when dealing with patients. YCK himself said that ET always had a good relationship with his patients and their guardians. We were just not shown these scenes in the drama.

[dramaninja]

20 minutes ago, newyee said:

@ajummapunkinssi  I am sorry about your experience. That is part and parcel of life. Anything can happen to anyone as long as you are a human. At this rate, ET will surely not consider having a second child. The message sent to viewers is a negative one too, consider the already low birth rate in developed countries worldwide. 

 

I would prefer ET to be a courageous and positive-thinking man who can give YH (who is ill-fated in love) a happy future soon. He should tell JJH he won't produce any offspring besides IVF ES. JJH would beg YH to marry ET then. 

Ehhh this is an extraordinary situation I am surprise he is having rational thoughts right now.

[celebrianna]

I find it so hilarious how shocked DY was when she connected the dots to finally conclude that she and her uncle are dating siblings. LOL I wonder if we’ll have a scene later just for the sake of amusement where the couples are trying to rationalize away the absurdity of their family entanglements. I think ET/YH have the advantage though. 

 

MY must be loaded because from what I understand, her ex-husband’s debts are exorbitant. She must be a saint to take responsibility for his debts. 

 

CSW is a real piece of work but I guess it shouldn’t surprise me that he tried to blame ET for the whole situation including returning to Korea from abroad. 

 

I really want SH to find out about WAM’s deal with MY.

 

Oh so HH gave MS permission to look at JH’s stuff. Well, it’s better that it’s in the open now so the story can move on.

[Guest]

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Simply because you are my child and I am your FATHER...

 

Forgive me...

I can understand the fears that ET has but I am a bit surprised in his dealing and reflecting on being ES's biological father even with all he has been through.  I know he is in shock and just went through a horrible situation and yet a part of me wonders where is that courageous man who picked up ES brought her there and claimed she was his daughter in front of his sister and others.  Where is that man who whispered in her ear and gave her a renewed hope and faith in being  able to trust in a mans words.  Where is that man whom went into that hotel room and quickly wrapped her up and held her ever so close to his chest and took her away from there....

 

I can understand his confusion and I am thankful he went to YH's Dad for advise and understanding.  I just never really thought his character would ever be one, from everything I had seen thus far who would run away instead of facing it head on.  He always seemed so calm and caring that seeing this side of him and in a way his lack of understanding for YH and ES somehow doesn't feel right to me.  ES asking about where he was and him not seeing her after finding out she would be ok.  Forgive me just didn't fit with the man I thought I knew...

 

I know his past and his fathers lack of love for him and his sister left scars that are still not all the way healed if ever.  But what's happened isn't about his past but more about his future and I guess I was hoping that he would be in a way happy about being ES real father even in knowing it wasn't his choice.  Still it gives him rights he didn't know he had and a real chance at giving her the love that she never received from the man she thought was her father.  I always saw ET as her Daddy even before I knew who he really was.  It's not just about blood it's even more about love...

 

I hope he doesn't take long to find his way back the them because YH is struggling and hurting and ES needs his love, comfort and strong arms to hold her too...

[dramaninja]

Their are a million reasons why ET should be upset he missed 5 years of his daughter life all those special moments like first word or first step he cant get back

 

But he is more worry about his daughter accepting him since like I mention this situation is very complex no would know how to react its not possible.

 

I mean this was rapid fire for him he found out that  she was his little girl and at that time believe she was sick because of him.

 

I am looking forward to everyone finding out that is going to be amazing.

[chasen8888]

2 hours ago, celebrianna said:

I really want SH to find out about WAM’s deal with MY.

 The person I want to know this truth is not SH because she is a bit too soft but KS.  The one thing WAM fears most is losing control of her son, should KS find out about this nature of her and what she did, he will and should take action.  To me that would be more effective in restraining WAM.  HS will find out and get upset about it but will he take action?  SH should know last and side with KS in restraining WAM and not letting her off with said action.  MY does this for SH's/HS's sake but would they be happy about this?  Not sure, but they would be touched because it shows how much MY has embraced the Park family.

 

I swear MY is a multi-millionaire/billionaire she is that financially stable with her varied investments, to help with the ex debts is too much especially with loan sharks who are scum and over inflate the interest rate per second.

 

My language interpretation of the make up scene for DY/JH was wrong but, I guess I got the feeling between them  right.  We all said that JH should have been told from DY in order for him not to misread anything and JH clearly told her that. So now they have 1 secret between them i.e. ET/YH connection to HS/MY as DY connected those dots.  DY is right to be worried because she knows if her parents know they will not allow JH and her to see each other with the family dynamics, its also why ET kept this info a secret, its selfish but understandable.  All's fair in love and family dynamics.  DY is now given the boost from JH to be her true self around him, its not surprising that she lacked confidence especially with the past her, aspects of that is bound to carry over with the new person especially if its around the person that she liked for 10 years.

 

In the case of MS/JH, they need to have a talk like what JH did with ET earlier outside of the house.  One thing for sure is that MS knows that JH did not look down nor mocked him for liking someone or that it was DY.  JH for the most part was civil about it, so a talk scene is more suited for this.  

 

Gone for now.

[newyee]

2 hours ago, celebrianna said:

I find it so hilarious how shocked DY was when she connected the dots to finally conclude that she and her uncle are dating siblings. LOL I wonder if we’ll have a scene later just for the sake of amusement where the couples are trying to rationalize away the absurdity of their family entanglements. I think ET/YH have the advantage though. 

 

 

Wonder if DY will keep it as a secret from JH just like what JH has done? Hope she is opened about it this time so they can unite to find a solution. Poor couple. Not just have to face one but two big obstacles ahead. ET/YH/MY/MS might have to come to their rescue towards the end of the drama. It's about a family sharing one another's burden afterall.

 

I particularly like the ending music of ep 39 which belongs to the 1960/70s. Match MY/HS couple perfectly. Please change that 'aegyo' song at DY/JH moments. Still get goosebumps with it. 

[shamrockmom]

1 hour ago, newyee said:

@ajummapunkinssi  I am sorry about your experience. That is part and parcel of life. Anything can happen to anyone as long as you are a human. At this rate, ET will surely not consider having a second child. The message sent to viewers is a negative one too, consider the already low birth rate in developed countries worldwide. 

 

I would prefer ET to be a courageous and positive-thinking man who can give YH (who is ill-fated in love) a happy future soon. He should tell JJH he won't produce any offspring besides IVF ES. JJH would beg YH to marry ET then. 

 

Sorry to partially disagree here. Why couldn't they have another child if they both wanted to? Since they are both doctors, they could easily have a consultation with a genetics specialist and get the information to make a decision one way or the other. ET didn't give ES the graft vs. host disease. Yes, he has a rare blood type, but there's no guarantee the next child would not have a different combination of genes and get a different blood type, right? (I'm not a geneticist or a doctor. But I am a parent to 3 children who have the same father: 2 of whom have the same blood type as dad and 1 who has my blood type.) They need to find out what the odds are and make an informed decision. I agree that if the genetic specialist red-lights the 2nd baby idea, then they should forget about it. But if it's 50-50 or better that they wouldn't have another child with the same issues, I'd say go for it. (JMHO)

However, I fully agree that this sends a bad message about having children, especially in a culture like SK.

I would also prefer that ET gets over his shock ASAP and gets down to the business of how to break the news to ES and protect her and YH from CSW and CHK. I understand he's got a million conflicting feelings, but he needs to take the lead here. YH is struggling too, yunno! ET needs to break this news to his noona too, and he's gonna have to deal with all of her "what will everyone think" mentality. He better be ready for a fight. Sadly, I can't imagine JJH begging YH to marry ET. She's too prideful.  

[zenya22]

ET may have taken his time composing himself to meet with his daughter but as a father and a prospective husband he never hesitated to take action to protect his family. He told CSW to give up on his demands and met up with CSW's sister and made it clear that he knows and will not hesitate to use information about an illegal transgression done by CSW that could destroy Heah Group. He then made a counter demand that CSW give up his parental rights on ES. Sister confirmed with CSW who told sister to give in to all the demands of ET. CSW will move and live to another country but he only asks to go to the amusement park one last time with ES as promised for ES to remember him by. 

 

ET's emotions maybe conflicted after the revelation that he is ES biological parent which made him face realities and the immense responsibilities of parenthood. He had long ago decided that he will not be a parent and have a family because he was afraid of passing the inherited blood disorder and because he was afraid to be a parent like his father who was well respected in his profession but terrible as a father. His sister JJH reaction from  their father's upbringing was to be controlling, selfish and narrow minded that ET and her own family can't have a reasonable discussion with her without an argument ensuing. ET met YH and ES, fell in love with both of them and changed his mind about having a family. He was determined then to be a good parent but may have thought of not having an offspring from his own bloodline. The fact that a child of his own blood was born and now inherited the disorder he never wanted to pass on because of circumstances that were not of his doing, not of his own decision or control frayed on his emotions. He needed to take a break to re establish his priorities. He may have thought and acted tough as ES stepfather before but he is now very scared. He is allowed to be. It understandable that when PSH reached out to him, he responded with a meet and a father/son talk. Beautiful, I had tears in my eyes. Next episodes will be ET/ES meeting and for ET to legally claim ES as his daughter. This will be emotional. Hopefully this will happen next episode.

 

It is a relief that MS/JJH secrets about DY finally divulged. This will test the degree of MS maturity and the strength of their newly founded brotherhood and sisterhood. Surely, HH will be in the middle of it all. MY and PSH were so excited to go home when they learned that MS was at home not on his visit day that they closed up shop and were going home to prepare dinner. I wonder what they will find at home. Will they find a melee involving all three kids? I am thinking this will be funny. I hope it will add to HH story line. I hope that MY will re think bringing back MS irresponsible father and let him stay where he is. 

[newyee]

@shamrockmomOh, I didn't mean they can't have a second child due to medical problem. From what I deduce from ET's fear, he's psychologically unable to cope with having his own kid after the recent scare and his childhood scar from his father. ES is born not by ET's choice. Given an option, it seems that he won't want any more kid. 

 

@dramaninja "I am looking forward to everyone finding out that is going to be amazing."

This is what I have been eagerly anticipating well before the ES-ET bloodline is established. Disappointed with ET's 'averse' reaction to it even after ES is confirmed as not having that fatal disease. What a wet blanket.

 

 

[newyee]

-sorry pls delete-

[zenya22]

4 hours ago, newyee said:

Disappointed with ET's 'averse' reaction to it even after ES is confirmed as not having that fatal disease. What a wet blanket.

@newyeeIt was confirmed that ES did not have the blood transfusion reaction (not disease but an adverse transfusion reaction) that occurs when any family donates blood to family members who need it and can be 90% fatal, and not that she did not have the inherited disease because ES does have the inherited anemia which was confirmed by YH during a discussion with Dr Park episodes ago. Dr Park the pediatrician never said that the inherited anemia was a fatal condition since ES can get blood transfusions when the anemia worsens and she was prescribed anemia medicine. However her blood type is rare and that makes it more difficult but thanks to ET who has her blood type she has a blood pipeline. The inherited anemia does compromise and weaken her immune system and makes her prone to infection. It was the blood transfusion reaction YH was worried about because of the fatality count and ES was showing some symptoms that was possibly caused by blood transfusion reaction. However the ending diagnosis by YH is CMV or generalized infection. ES is getting better, taking her medicines and going home in 2 weeks. 

 

The fear of the graft blood transfusion reaction as the diagnosis because it was an emergency transfusion was what all the run around was all about because no one knew except for CSW that the donor of the blood was the father of the recipient. It is the drama plot chosen by the writers to expose CSW's misconduct and ET as the biological father. It was never explained in the drama why ES did not have the dreaded transfusion reaction. But I will rationalize it  that ES from the beginning was prescribed irradiated blood by her pediatrician to make all donated blood safe for her because of her compromised health.

 

I would not say that ET had an averse reaction but rather a normal one for him given all his history and what he had expected of himself. He just needed time to adjust his mindset. My opinion, it is better for him to get over his anxieties to make better and more rational decisions not effected by pre conceptions and emotions. He is human after all and imperfect

[sal2]

guys remember how ET did take a break to think after finding himself falling for YH. after having his time out to figure out what to do he was all in convincing her to give him a change. so i think now we gonna see a determined ET after having his time out to settled his feelings and thought. we know when he have made up his mind he is very clear about what he want! Just let him have his time to cope with everything, so he can be 100% there for his two girls  

[newyee]

@zenya22 Apologise for my poor english and usage of vocab  . My 'averse reaction' means ET is not responding excitedly to being ES bio dad (so far in ep 39) even after knowing that ES is not poisoned by him. I am not referring to the medical adverse or averse reaction.

I should have written ' unexpected/not so happy response'.  . Sorry for the confusion....

 

I was responding to dramaninja about everyone will be amazed by the news that ET is ES bio dad but I feel that it's disappointing that ET himself is not even excited about it yet so it's quite the opposite to what I've expected. 

[zenya22]

On 7/30/2018 at 5:16 AM, newyee said:

@zenya22 Apologise for my poor english and usage of vocab  . My 'averse reaction' means ET is not responding excitedly to being ES bio dad (so far in ep 39) even after knowing that ES is not poisoned by him. I am not referring to the medical adverse or averse reaction.

I should have written ' unexpected/not so happy response'.  . Sorry for the confusion....

@newyeeI understand what you are saying and my clarification is that ES does have the inherited anemia from ET.... which is the "poisoned" blood if you will. The possible fatal diagnosis that YH and CSW were afraid of was the blood transfusion adverse reaction  which did not happen and but she has the inherited anemia since (don't remember) many many beginning episodes ago and it is not fatal. 

[newyee]

16 minutes ago, zenya22 said:

@newyeeI understand what you are saying and my clarification is that ES does have the inherited anemia from ET.... that is what is making him guilty, emotional and doubtful of himself. The diagnosis that YH and CSW were afraid of was the blood transfusion adverse reaction which did not happen but she has the inherited anemia the "poisoned" blood inherited and it is not fatal. 

Ah-ha! I got what you mean. I will wait for a little longer for ET to get over with it and accept the facts. Can't wait for the Park and Yeon family's reaction to the news. The Parks will be very happy for ES. DY will have a new cousin. JJH?? 

[Guest]

 

Let me clarify I think ET is amazing and still my favorite character in this drama well that is beside ES of course LOL.  All I am really saying is that shutting YH out every time she tries to comfort him instead of embracing her knowing she is hurting too was a little off character to me.  Yet @dramaninja & @zenya22 reminded me of why he should and could act that way.  Still everyone sees people and characters in a different and unique way.  I guess I might come across as being to hard on him or not understanding his position or feelings...

 

Or just maybe it's because I had him placed among the stars and his response or should I say Super Hero status to ES who is still waiting for him made me a bit sad.  dramaninja is right I don't know how I would act if I were in his shoes or lived his life so painful he is still hurting from it.  Yet there is a little girl and not just any little girl.  One that is in every way a part of him who has been really sick and feels the void in him not being there or coming to see her...

 

Grownups can rationalize and reason the whys and why nots.  And maybe it is my love for children that is showing but all she knows  is that he isn't there and she doesn't understand why.  I guess that was my point.  Children don't care about the big picture their hearts and minds are simply focused on the here and now...

 

Let me also say, oh I have no doubts and know he will not only come back, but he will come back stronger than ever.  He isn't going to give up on the best two people to ever come into his life.  Not to mention he may have given ES his inherited blood but he is about to give her more love than she and her sweet little mind and heart could have ever imagined. And as she grows that love and bond will  grow with her and be sweeter and stronger and that's all she will see, know or feel.  Much more important than that of his tainted blood...

 

My last thought can't wait for ET's sister to find out and finally shut her up and stop her selfish thoughts & actions!!!

 

PS...  There is an event going on right now on Soompi that could use your support that you may or may not have heard about called The Tollagate it's found in the upper right hand corner under announcements.  They are taking nominations for Characters and such for dramas this year.  Please add your nominations and support to this event.  I know everyone is busy this time of year but with so much talent about dramas here I just wanted to give you a shout out and hope you will check it out too

[Cestbon]

Hey Chingu @USAFarmgirl you are a little harsh on our handsome EunTae ahhh. Why am I saying this...

1. EunSu isn't exactly waiting for him. But, I would agree that YuHa needs his support. The first people that EunSun said she misses are her aunt HH and uncle JH. She started to ask for EunTae only after seeing everyone else in the family and have spoken to CSW. EunTae is her nice ahjussi. To her CSW is her appa and person she misses. EunTae is aware of EunSu's sentiment in this regard.

2. Before EunTae went away, he knew EunSu is in good hands. The family is there for her. Remember... he was at the hospital room door overhearing the family with EunSu? Dr Kang is taking good care of her medical needs. YuHa covered all grounds to ensure the best for her precious girl. Infact I felt bad for EunTae when he was exploring alternative solutions for EunSu... YuHa told him all his suggestions and efforts will come to nothing... as she has already explored what he had thought off. If I were EunTae, I would feel small and useless that there isn't anything that I could do when there is high possibility that my blood could have "poisoned" my daughter.

3. What was the first thing that EunTae did when he overheard conversation between YuHa and PHS that he is EunSu's biological dad? How would one feel about overhearing something like this across the corridor?  Don't you think he would feel hurt?    He did not confront YuHa. Instead, he went to take care of alternative solutions for EunSu. He put his feelings aside. (Remember.. prior to this, he asked YuHa on several occasions if there is something he needs to know?)

4. For someone who never had the intention of starting a family (until he met YuHa), to find out that someone has stolen his sperm (that is meant for research) to bring a child into this world - not out of love, but just to show to the world that he has a perfect life and for inheritance purpose. All for the wrong reasons. More importantly, wouldn't he feel violated? You would think you are the author of your own life. But, NO... someone else has already decided for you. Not God, but CSW. I would feel violated and a shock to my system.

5. Despite EunTae's feelings, anger, vulnerability... confronted CSW only after knowing EunSu's liver biopsy results. He held it in till then. If he had not cared and prepared to take EunSu as his daughter, he would not have gone to CHK to warn them to give up their legal rights and custody for EunSu.

6. EunTae knew he has lost it.... especially after his brawl with patient's dad. I like that EunTae listens to himself too... he knows his priorities and limits. He knew he had to step away before he start on the wrong footing as EunSu's dad. He was afraid he would be just like his own dad. He didn't want his little girl to go through what he went through. He needed to sort out his feelings, conflicts and next steps.

 

It is also all about timing. Everything happened in a span of a short time... PLUS his irritating sister harrassing him and Yu Ha!! 

7. Inside him he had his fears. He is human. He is not some robot. He is real. What is important, he knows and confronts his flaw/weakness.

 

Edit: I missed one key point.

8. Experiencing the whole trauma of possibly losing EunSu because of his blood donation.  

 

After what he had gone through, don't you think he is granted to address his feelings too? Can't he have feelings? Can't he feel vulnerable? Can't he have fears?

I like the fact that he recognises his need to step away sort out his feelings and next steps.

Sometimes you need to step away for the better of everyone. In this case, to start on right footing.

I really like the conversation EunTae had with PHS. Deep down, he is afraid that EunSu will reject him as appa too.

EunSu doesn't even know that YuHa and CSW are divorced (neither does she know what it means). EunTae is right, how are they going to explain to EunSu?

I think it is unrealistic for EunTae to be jumping for joy infront of EunSu to announce "hey i am your appa". Will sound more like a crazy ahjussi ahhh.

I remembered Sang Woo's comment after he acted in All About My Mom. Sang Woo is known for wholesome characters in his dramas (except when his role requires him to be something else, eg in One Warm Word he was named Angry Sang Woo. And, as a complex character in Life Is Beautiful). But, he found his character as Hoon Jae in AAMM to be too perfect. He said is unrealistic. That was his criticism. Therefore, even if you are to say that EunTae's action in E39 is "flawed", it would be a good flaw to make his character real.

No one is perfect. What we do will not be seen as perfect through the lense of everyone around us. You cannot please everyone. As long as you know you have done your level best. EunTae has tried his level best.  Sorry.... if he has crushed your dream man 

Peace to chingus who has issues with EunTae in E39.

To all... enjoy your week, enjoy the few episodes that is left for Marry Me Now.

I love this drama and the cast.  And, looking for more sweet moments of EunTae with his girls YuHa n EunSu 

(Not sure if you noted in end of e38.. Lighting Director for Marry Me Now passed away, he was fighting with cancer but he work through till the very end.)

[watchumlots]

Ep 38 & 39 w/Eng subs:

 

Really?  After EVERYTHING, HotDr is conflicted?  This entire episode was a waste of film and actors' time.    There is only one reason for Episode 39:  Lameness.  The writer went LAME.  Maybe sitting directly under the air cooling vents and the brain went numb? 

 

HotDr was going to marry a woman WITH a Kiddo, he was going to be a father to the Kiddo.  He LOVED that little Kiddo.  But NOW that he knows she is his bio-daughter, he is conflicted?  Remember one of those earlier episodes, when he returned from Africa because he WANTED to marry DrDaughter and have a family of his own? Actually, HotDr HAS to marry DrDaughter, he wants his bio-daughter, right?  AND, betting that HotDr will not let WorthlessEx take CuteKiddo to the amusement park.  

 

Plus, I'm disappointed in RichLady for giving in to DweebMom by promising her a 'Cap-pay.'  (Apparently there is no F sound in Korean - so COFFEE is 'cop-pee' and cafe is 'cap-pay.' )  When EldestDaughter learns that the 'cap-pay' came from her not-yet-stepmother, she will be steaming at her mother-in-law for taking advantage and her manipulation.  

 

NastyNoona and her EvilDo-er hubby will object to TryingSon's attentions toward their daughter. They want RichPlayer, although both are equally (not) RichLady's sons.  And there is that pesky double-in-law problem with either son and their daughter if HotDr marries DrDaughter (and we know he will).   

 

This could be wrapped-up well in just two episodes, but the contract was for 50, so we have 11 more to go.  Just hope they aren't as lame as Ep 39.