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4 minutes ago, sushilicious said:

Trying to download basic english?

 

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You don't know sextuplet meh??? :huh:

 

Sextuplet is six children born at one birth

 

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38 minutes ago, cenching said:

 

You don't know sextuplet meh??? :huh:

 

Sextuplet is six children born at one birth

 

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Told you im at the level of basics english. Did you not wonder why i would sometimes get my tenses wrong? Haha

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Alright. In regards to @cenchingrequest:

 

A question that i would like everyone to give insight too 

 

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Question to all. Why is it so typical for the guy to be the one to blame?is it possible to have the girl as the instigator?

 

Let's discus this :)

 

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40 minutes ago, sushilicious said:

Question to all. Why is it so typical for the guy to be the one to blame?is it possible to have the girl as the instigator?

 

It's a common misconception that in a divorce the one who will suffers more is the female as a weaker gender (financially, physically and emotionally)so it's impossible for the female to instigates a divorce....Hell, yeah!!! :skull: Beside how a weak female can bully a big bad boy in a marriage life, isn't it?? :skull:

 

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Marriage life is a complicated relationship between 2 people from different background. I usually don't take side, but one thing for sure whatever happens in the marriage life it should be keeps privately.....So many factors can contributes to a divorce because again human behaviors is complicated....But one thing for sure, no excuse for cheating.

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37 minutes ago, sushilicious said:

Question to all. Why is it so typical for the guy to be the one to blame?is it possible to have the girl as the instigator?

 

Let's discus this :)

 

u know it doesnt matter whether is it a male or female.....both can always be the instigator...

 

you can have a B**** that started it or a B****** that started it....

 

dont forget both also start with 'B' :P 

 

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37 minutes ago, sushilicious said:

Question to all. Why is it so typical for the guy to be the one to blame?is it possible to have the girl as the instigator?

 

Let's discus this :)

 

 

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I don't know.. perhaps based on many cases usually who begins to messed up the relationship is the guy/hubby/male ... based on experiences. but because it's already messy everywhere, then the girl/wife/female will become messy too. and situation will be chaos. I think if this is happened, it is better to sit together and talk, what do you want now because we both already become too messy. if want to continue the relationship then the couple must make new commitmen and follow it. if not, then up to them if they want to split.

 

in bram and rika case, I still blame Bram. because he is the one who flirts with her first. even tough he had a wife and a son. Rika is at fault too but she won't be like that if Bram did not flirting with her for 2 weeks (in one of our training session program) 

bram's wife, butet, is at fault too. like she is a stoneheaded who can not left her comfortable life with baby sitter and house helper, to leave it and start to live together with her civil servant husband. she choosed to stay with her mom and dad even after the marriage. Bram who is stupid and will always be stupid, can not live with in laws even tough their house is as big as a football field. it is still not his house. 

but even tough like this, this can not be a reason for Bram to start an affair with Rika. he is a married man with a son. so I still blame him more than blame butet or rika 

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46 minutes ago, cenching said:

 

It's a common misconception that in a divorce the one who will suffers more is the female as a weaker gender (financially, physically and emotionally)so it's impossible for the female to instigates a divorce....Hell, yeah!!! :skull: Beside how a weak female can bully a big bad boy in a marriage life, isn't it?? :skull:

 

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Marriage life is a complicated relationship between 2 people from different background. I usually don't take side, but one thing for sure whatever happens in the marriage life it should be keeps privately.....So many factors can contributes to a divorce because again human behaviors is complicated....But one thing for sure, no excuse for cheating.

 

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same....

 

my great-grandma always told us, whatever happen between husband and wife should happen behind a close door

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4 minutes ago, angelangie said:

 

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same....

 

my great-grandma always told us, whatever happen between husband and wife should happen behind a close door

 

Whatever happened in Vegas, stays in Vegas....:thumbsup:

 

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1 hour ago, sushilicious said:

Question to all. Why is it so typical for the guy to be the one to blame?is it possible to have the girl as the instigator?

PART 1:

so I want to answer this question in a slightly different way -- so basically the reason many think the guy is to blame is there is some historical bias in terms of divorce laws. so before divorce laws, basically the man would take another wife and kick the old one out. there was no money or settlement and the family suffered. now it is not like women didn't have affairs or find another husband but the number of women being stranded without financials was higher. so even after divorce laws came in, it was difficult to get a divorce. it didn't mean people stayed married. many separated and simply had a live in with someone else. this is what happened in history. the initial divorce laws were in favour of men and so women and children may lose in terms of financial settlements. so after lot of legal wrangle, the laws have changed within the last 50-100 years in many countries where the settlements are more fair. since it hasn't been that long, people are still aware of times when women and children didn't get their fair due and the guy married someone else and the previous children were left out of their inheritance.

 

the other factor is plain economics. so even though divorce was an option, it is only the last 100 years women have opted for it but that has happened only with financial freedom. before, women were dependent on the men and family for money and so would opt to stay in the marriage even if unhappy due to lack of financial options. more women joined the workforce during WII as many men went to fight. this changed the financial picture of many women. so after the war ended, there was a spike in divorces because these women found it hard to adjust to the men who came back but they also had the financial power to manage on their own. in fact, research indicates that financial stresses is one of the main reasons for divorce all over the world. after every recession, there is a spike in divorce. so only with money power and ability to work, women have opted for divorce. so again these changes have only happened within the last 50-100 years and so people are still aware of this.

 

so based on history, many assume that most women would never choose to leave a marriage and therefore, it is the man's fault and he did something so bad. have more thoughts but it is already long on.. will write more a bit later.

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so part II to your question @sushilicious:

 

like @Sarang21 was saying yesterday, what on earth is this argument that if you are a women, you should automatically support the woman? the truth is until we have the facts, we cannot be sure who is in the right or wrong or there is a right and wrong. in some relationships, both are clearly at fault. in some instances, cheating is merely a symptom but there were other issues. in others, cheating is the cause for the relationship breakdown. so basically there are all sorts of varied dynamics.

 

also, this is my personal take but it feels like an insult to assume that all men are bad. why? because we are born from a father, have brothers, relatives, friends, colleagues and even strangers who have showed themselves with honour. to assume automatically that men are etc etc etc is indirectly insulting all the good men there are around. it is forgetting that women can also be bad and vindictive and cruel and just as capable of devious acts. and yes, there are women who lie and accuse to get their way.

 

so when it comes to relationships breaking down, we need to hear everything before we decide someone is at fault. the truth is often more complicated and not that simple.

 

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That is why it is better for woman to work. I mean if woman does not too depending on a man financially, I think it will be the advantage. If man want to leaves then leaves. Please.. the door already open. HAHAHAHAHA :joy:

 

I would not ever beg a man to stay. No. 

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Since Adam & Eve, the blame game between the 2 genders still continue going strong. He or she wrong? Or the snake or the apple? Lol. 

 

I took a moment, to think about your question @sushilicious, marriage dissolvement actually not easy to figured out the root cause, the he/she who cause it. 24 hours together, hormones of love wear off and all things can start to happen. 

 

In my opinion, its not always the role of woman the weaker side & always on the lose. Many women are smart one and can make the guy side lost a lot. Vice versa with the gender reversed. 

 

I'm curious to see how this impending divorce will turn out. To me, the more u airing personal problems in public, will speak a lot of volume about one person character. Its not like its a corruption case, which public need to know all details isnt it? :lol:

 

Let's see. 

 

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I am at the cinema now and watching 47 meters down uncaged. It is scary. I am choosing to open soompi now Wkwkwkwk :joy:

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13 hours ago, Sarang21 said:

I live in Germany and has never heard anything about him until now :joy:. What´s his name?

@Sarang21  His name is Gerhard Shroeder. Tried copying the link but can't-I'm pretty bad at computers. He's 73 years old I think. He met his 5th South Korean wife when he was working there and she was the translator. Now apparently her ex husband is trying to get him for adultery because it happened b4 the adultery laws changed. The SK wife claimed that she and her ex were already living apart for some time so she said it wasn't adultery.:phew: They were still legally married,Hello !That's why it made the news cos the ex wants her punished for committing adultery. You can google "ex German ambassador marries South Korean wife" and everything's there. 

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13 hours ago, sushilicious said:

Then do you have any sisters who have a family that have triple M?

No ler . I chose triple M cuz it’s the initials of my name , hubs & kiddo . Lol! Yes all start with M . :joy:

 

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I am not recomending 47 meters dow uncaged. the movie is too boring. it is just about trapped under the sea and being chase by 4 sharks. setting is just in the sea. and that's the main conflict. and nothing more... 

tomorrow I will try to watch fallen angel. my friends regretting this movie. I told them "told you.. it is better to watch fallen angel. we will watching handsome man and not watching 4 sharks. " :unsure:

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8 hours ago, sushilicious said:

Question to all. Why is it so typical for the guy to be the one to blame?is it possible to have the girl as the instigator?

 

Let's discus this :)

 

Actually it's possible. I have seen some nasty girls but they get away with it. Maybe boys don't take those matter seriously like girls, it didn't become big deal or maybe those girls are good are setting shield. It's not men are bad or women are bad. Bad people exists in both genders.

 

I don't know how Western think on this. In most Asian countries, many women still have the mindset of portraying men as bad creatures. Some are so against every actions of the men. This maybe because of suppressing women in the history. Current society is changing, but there are people still trapped in those thinking. After all, men and women have different style of thinking and handling the problems. We just need to respect each other. Biasing and blaming gender won't solve the problem.

 

I love @Lmangla 's analysis.

 

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