Ladies, your "perfect" guy?

[radiocat]

@UnicornGummi thats fast lol, i agree with you but let me just make another point. I can see that you're concerned with the wellbeing and health of your s/o which is perfectly logical, but dont we all have weaknesses(regardless of whether you're a guy or girl or it lies in one of the bad habits listed) and if the guy weakness is one of the them. If your doing it for him, shouldnt you just accept him as a whole and back on what he wants since love concern feelings and feelings are irrational because a relationship is also about embracing each other weaknesses and accepting their misgivings. :D

[Guest UnicornGummi]

@radiocat yeah not if his weakness can potentially kill him LOL.

[Guest brokenmachine]

I think 'weakness' that can be compromised are more of a personality traits, like some people can tolerate other half being picky, quick temper, impulsive etc and relationship dynamics balances these traits out.
People who compromise to gambling, drug use etc, is only putting themselves in danger, no doubt there will be people who like to throw themselves at fire. And girls who are like that are usually overly romantic and sentimental about love. 
Especially if you are looking to settle down, you would also want to ask yourself the question, do I want my kids growing up in a family of alcohol/drug abuse/gambling issues which all leads to huge health and financial risks.
edit: And if there ever was the scenario where every guy around me had a huge problem with the things on the list, I'd be very happy to stay single than to go into a relationship trying to change him. 

[radiocat]

@UnicornGummi Dont worry, the guy isnt stupid if not you wouldnt love him in the first place

[radiocat]

besides being only physical things, those bad habits are too exaggerated, how often do they occur? a lot? is it as much as very common problems such as: clingyness, jealousy, stupidity, dishonesty, lack of contribution, immaturity, financial instability, sexism, insecurity, megalomania, irresponsibility, selfishness, arrogance, bad parents, and of course no love? you should worry about the problems that are actually there, your list is too extreme. These personality traits are things every guy could fall for, and not even realize, until the girl hates him so much it's too late. this is what you should be watching out for instead.

^those are the common flaws. I could add one to your list that you didn't though: fighting/violence.

Lets just say this guy does not believe in mediocrity, he is a highly functioning person who have high standards and indulges in high risk behaviours which justify the extremeness you see.

Also fighting/violence does not benefit anyone in anyway, you could say this guy is a gentleman.

[woahitssandy]

My vision of a "perfect" guy would be someone who knows who they are and what they want in life. They should have some motivation and dreams as well.

[Guest NONE.LIKEYOU]

Most tolerable would be swearing. Smoking comes in second, then laziness and womanizing, followed by alcoholism, gambling addiction, and drug abuse.
Last three can be serious addictions that would eventually break down the relationship. The only tolerable thing would probably be swearing and maybe smoking? I'm lazy myself so I definitely need a partner who discourages that, and who would want to date a womanizer, no matter how charming he can be...

[Guest watwatindabutt]

Gambling: I like smart guys so that includes guys who knows their limits. Not something I would like in a guy, but I wouldn't mind unless the situation is way out of control.
Smoking: Huge turn off personally.Alcoholic: Drinking is fine, but alcoholism no.Womanizing: Ain't nobody want a cheater o_oSwearing: I don't really mind. I swear quite a bit. Just hopefully not swearing in every single sentence.Laziness: ...I'm pretty lazy myself, but I wouldn't want to be around a majorly lethargic neet.Drug abuse: Same as smoking, no.

[Guest hearthealer]

Dad always told me to stay away from drug addicts, gamblers, womanizers and alcoholics.
All of the above, can destroy families easily...drug addicts can cause financial and emotional devastation, gamblers can lose their fortunes in an instant, womanizers cause cheating should never be tolerated in a relationship and alcoholics cause that leads to financial woes and often abusive relationships.
Swearing/laziness to the point of sloth/smoking - those are more personal preference...i can't tolerate any...except well maybe the odd swear word or two (cause well I know I do that...when you stub your toe...an OWWWWW doesn't really suffice), laziness because I'm driven and I can't tolerate a lazy a$$ and smoking cause smokers smell horrible...there's tht underlying scent that no amt of cologne can cover up. 

[Guest TheJVS]

radiocat said: TheJVS said: We all have the right to our own choices... and I choose not to tolerate ANY of the flaws you've listed. Ladies, we DON'T have to settle for any of these. 
@unicorngummi as long as the swearing isn't directing towards you i hope

[Guest seoxxoxo]

Personally, I'd put gambling, alcoholic, womanizing, drugs, & abuse all in first place. If a guy has any of those characteristics, they have no chance. Period. I wouldn't even get close to them. Smoking... Maybe? I can't so impossible cuz who knows what will happen in the future. I don't like it personally & right now, I would not let myself have a boyfriend who smokes, nor would I want one. I don't really mind swearing & laziness as long as they're not a swearing machine & if they can get what needs to be done done. I'm a lazya$$ myself personally so I can't really say anything about laziness.

I think a perfect guy would be someone who can make you a better person; in the sense that they call bring out the best in you & support you to reach your goals, even when you feel like giving up. Plus a good temper.

[Guest seoxxoxo]

@speedredefined if the dude knew what he was doing , go ahead. I walk talking about those go and lose all their money and go in debt & borrow money from others for their addiction. :3