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[endlessxlove]

what is "anti-richard simmons defense" 
yes I would distance myself because the guy is a snob because it interpret as him not being interestedtbh I find guys who are shy at first but eventually open up very attractive

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[Guest UnicornGummi]

o__oI don't understand what youre trying to say?

Find a girl who's not a richard simmons ? 

[raymondc27]

And?

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[KoreaDarling]

Okay. I'm sure that has happened before, but what about it?

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[Guest princessofroses]

It's funny that you made this post because it pretty much sums up a situation I am encountering at work. There is a coworker that is cute who works in the department next to mine. I wouldn't say he's shy, but he's a little socially awkward and a bit introverted as well. However, we work in a commissioned sales business so it is practically a necessity to be extroverted at work. I started off by just glancing at him a lot, and after awhile, we began to make frequent eye contact. Now, I don't know if he thinks I'm a creeper or that he has figured out that I'm interested, but at some point, he actually talked to me. It was small talk, but we managed to finally introduce ourselves to each other. After the initial introduction, he said hello to me on two separate occasions. For some reason, it is REALLY awkward between the two of us, and one night I had to make up a question to ask him just so I could start a simple conversation. I thought it was going somewhere when he asked me details on my work shift the next day, but he ended the conversation pretty quickly and walked away. After that, it just got more awkward. He hasn't said hi to me since, and we even sat in the break room right next to each other, and he only acknowledged my presence when someone asked if we were watching what was on the television. Now to be honest, this situation would only apply to your question if he was interested in me. That, I don't know because he could be taken or simply not interested in me. However, for your sake, if he was interested, he is not doing a good job of showing it. In fact, his actions are making me lose interest, and I actually interpret them as him not being interested. I don't think he's stuck up, but it's not fun putting so much effort into talking with someone who barely says anything and is weak in a conversation. I would advise that shy, good looking guys put in the effort into talking and opening up because the worst that's going to happen is that the girl will lose interest. Hope this helps.

[KoreaDarling]

I once had a crush on a really cute shy guy. I wasn't intimidated, more like didn't feel like I had any excuse to try to talk to him since we had no mutual friends or classes together. Oh, high school crushes, silllyyyyy things~

[radiocat]

It's funny that you made this post because it pretty much sums up a situation I am encountering at work. There is a coworker that is cute who works in the department next to mine. I wouldn't say he's shy' date=' but he's a little socially awkward and a bit introverted as well. However, we work in a commissioned sales business so it is practically a necessity to be extroverted at work. I started off by just glancing at him a lot, and after awhile, we began to make frequent eye contact. Now, I don't know if he thinks I'm a creeper or that he has figured out that I'm interested, but at some point, he actually talked to me. It was small talk, but we managed to finally introduce ourselves to each other. After the initial introduction, he said hello to me on two separate occasions. For some reason, it is REALLY awkward between the two of us, and one night I had to make up a question to ask him just so I could start a simple conversation. I thought it was going somewhere when he asked me details on my work shift the next day, but he ended the conversation pretty quickly and walked away. After that, it just got more awkward. He hasn't said hi to me since, and we even sat in the break room right next to each other, and he only acknowledged my presence when someone asked if we were watching what was on the television. Now to be honest, this situation would only apply to your question if he was interested in me. That, I don't know because he could be taken or simply not interested in me. However, for your sake, if he was interested, he is not doing a good job of showing it. In fact, his actions are making me lose interest, and I actually interpret them as him not being interested. I don't think he's stuck up, but it's not fun putting so much effort into talking with someone who barely says anything and is weak in a conversation. I would advise that shy, good looking guys put in the effort into talking and opening up because the worst that's going to happen is that the girl will lose interest. Hope this helps.[/quote']

Is he naturally weak in conversations or only towards you cause he is shy?? sometime i think shy and pride has some relations, you should be patient and a tip to you is maybe to chat with him online first. message from tablet

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I once had a crush on a really cute shy guy. I wasn't intimidated' date=' more like didn't feel like I had any excuse to try to talk to him since we had no mutual friends or classes together. Oh, high school crushes, silllyyyyy things~[/quote']

yeah you were more "consious" around him right?? lol message from tablet

[Guest UnicornGummi]

Oh... well. Idk as long as he's not rude or anything I don't really see any reason to be more conscious around him. Plus it's not like I have a crush on him or anything so there's really nothing to be nervous about. 

[Guest HERMIT]

radiocat said: sorry for not making it clear, basically good looks are a burden to shy kind of character. so has any of you with this prob overcame this social problem. sorry message from my tablet.

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once u get older you realize its not a big deal to just talk to someone. and i dont think anyone is very welcoming to complete strangers. most of the people i dont know/ care about are simply invisible to me until they either peak my interest or get in my way. its kind of always been that way.

[Guest NitsujN_RN]

HERMIT said: radiocat said: sorry for not making it clear, basically good looks are a burden to shy kind of character. so has any of you with this prob overcame this social problem. sorry message from my tablet.

[Guest NitsujN_RN]

I think I kinda fall under the category the OP mentioned, and I do open up after awhile. Except I only consider myself average looking. There's alot of good looking guys out there and I know one when I see one LOL..But I think girls will normally fall for the attractive personalities even if they aren't too sexy or good looking. Take my friend, for example. A shy type who looks like a mix between Kim Jong Un, Jaycee Chan, and PSY LOL.....but became assertive and confident with a bubbly personality...and now has a girlfriend who looks like mini-HyunA minus the occasional annoying voice.
So for shy types, it really just helps to be yourself but at the same time be a little assertive and confident. I know I changed a bit because my work demands that I be extroverted. If I talk to a girl that I like more and more, I see it as what I can offer to her that makes her attracted in my qualities. And if both parties see potential, we can hit it off.

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[Guest neofiona]

that reminds of my past crush lol. i met him in a camp and i was attracted to him because he's quiet and cool (i know my taste is kind of weird haha) later we exchanged contacts and afterwards i went back to my city (we were in different cities) We kept chatting with each other and gradually we got closer and i understood he wasnt really cold as his appearance suggested. He's just socially awkward. We had that chemistry between us. I knew it because he initiated convos with me every night and our convos were kind of lovey dovey. So one Christmas came. He came to my city to celebrate xmas eve with me. I donno if it's the same for you guys but for me i think hanging out one on one on xmas eve is a couple thing. We had a nice time and he told me he missed me. But the thing is he never confessed to me and given the distance, this intimate frdship eventually faded when we found our SOs. If we were in the same city, maybe we would have got together coz i know he's a very practical person. .

Coincidentally, my current bf and this past crush are both Virgos. They have similar personalities - very loyal to their SO, very caring and ambitious. But my current bf is not as realistic as my past crush coz we were from two different countries but he moved to my country for me. I think i'm quite compatible with Virgo. They have a slow-to-warm-up temperament and they are not romantic, but they can be very true friends and good husbands.

For me, a shy and good-looking guy is very very attractive because I dont feel secure with overly sociable and flirtatious guys.