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Hi everyone!

i used to be this shy asian guy that felt love was amazing and magic (just like k-drama).

Then i met this girl (caucasian) and well basicly we have amazing sex and everytime we see eachother we are doing it.

The problem is that my feelings for love are slowly fading away, before i didnt think about sex (i was virgin) but now im actually trying to have sex with other people by being something i used to detest (not lying of course, but looking past the personality).

The other problem is that i really like her, but after going home to her for 5 days and basicly having sex all the time non stop. First day 18 hours non stop sex except eating and sleeping 2 hours, the others is basicly the same but not non stop, I dont get turned on by porn anymore.

She gave me everything that i used to be some what "mysterious/naughty" in porn movies, the sensation of porn doesnt turn me on anymore cause its not special.

Im afraid that im really losing it and might stop loving people because i have noticed i have become less tolerant as a person and before i would like people based on personality but now i look at other things like a persons body and thinking pleasure when i do.

I find porn boring now and I really think i will stop finding love and that she gave me such thrilling experience i will never settle with a person that gives me boring sex. The thing is that i dont think many asian girls are like this and i still think the best kind of wife for me is an asian.......

P.S: its based on stability, income, culture etc etc.

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Uh, you definitely have a problem. You need to...stop having sex lol. The way you talk about it, it sounds like you're a heroine addict. Have you been sheltered your whole life or something? Stop having sex for a while and just freaking chill and set your priorities straight.

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You had sex for 18 hours non-stop? STOP! It's for your best interest to stop now or else you'll end up one of those sex addicts. Just take a break from her for awhile, and see how you feel in a week. Goodness gracious...

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Let's take these problems one at a time, in ascending order of importance/scum-baggy behavior, shall we?

1. An 18 hour coitus marathon may be hot, but best leave those for extremely special occasions. Doing it too often and rushed can cause microscopic tearing and pain in your partner. It also increases their risks for UTIs (ladies, urination after sex can reduce the chance of UTIs, cranberry juice does not). During your marathon, I hope both of you practiced good judgment, safe sex techniques, and were unselfish partners.

2.  Porn losing its forbidden aura is something that comes with growing up and being responsible for your own choices (and mostly just living away from mom and dad). What you have done, instead of growing up, is try to shift the blame onto her for "changing" you. "It was her fault that she's turned me into such a dirty creature that the most depraved acts caught on video tape do nothing to stoke my fancy anymore!".....'Fraid that's not true, buddy. Nothing changed, you were still in possession of all of your wits, vocal cords, and ability to judge at every point in this partnership with this girl. If you disliked any of these things, what you could have done and still can do is speak up. At any point if someone pushes you into an uncomfortable situation during the relationship, you are entitled to say "Hey, sweetie, that's a little too hardcore for me, can we do something a little tamer?"

3. The fact you are completely attempting to shift the blame for your changing attitude, one which your friends have noticed, onto this girl. I haven't even yet brought up how you brought up her race like that should be something relevant in how we are suppose to perceive your story. No, you are on the road to being judgmental person no one wants to hang around, if you're not already there, but I highly doubt it's this girl's fault. But for everyone's sake, I suggest you try being alone for a while and start developing yourself into a better person. Lay off the horizontal tango for a while. Perhaps your lack of patience with others is due to lack of sleep (2 hours only out of 18 can do that), poor food choices, or some other more likely factor that causes irritability.

4. Wow, so you want to marry a kinky virginal girl who's also Asian? I want my future wife to be an innocent sweet lotus blossom type, but if she's not wild in bed, then she's also no good and will never satisfy me. Why don't you take a look at some of those double standards and racial stereotypes that you've set up and think really hard about them.

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Wow dude. You need to caaaaalllllmmmmmm down. 18 hours?! That's crazy?! How many red bulls did you have LOL?!

Like many others have said, you definitely need to stop. Go watch some Korean dramas are something. The cutsey-ness of them might help tone down your hormones.

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you should just be happy with the experience, you live once and once only. plus your with a white girl as an asian man i think a lot of people would love to be in your place. just enjoy the experience your having.

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woah...

first off, how old r u? if ur in ur 20's then....i guess its normal to be really sexually active.

but if u think being this way is ruining ur personality, then there might be a problem.

actually, its good that u met someone whom u are sexually compatible, (coz some people can be emotionally compatible but not sexually) and u said u like her.

but u seem to be confuse, u dont know if this is bad or good ryt?

it depends, are u happy being like this?

if not, then maybe u should take time to reflect to urself...

maybe it will be helpful to make a list of good and bad outcome of being this way...

and if u made more list on the good one versus the bad, then its ok, ur normal.

but if u made a list on the bad more than the good, then its time to change and maybe spend more time doing ur hobbies, other than sex.

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Haha, to me it just sounds like you're inexperienced and are still flipping out at the novelty of sticking your Richard in places its never been before. Like a little kid on an airplane when the captain lets him "fly" the plane; he gets all excited because he feels like he's grown up, doing badass things now. Maybe I'm just being totally condescending in saying that (lol, probably) but it seems like you just need to freaking grow up and get over the fact that sex isn't even that big of a deal. If you REALLY think that this girl who took your virginity is the be-all end-all in the world of intercourse, then you're really just proving my point further.

I could go on and on about how everyone does sex differently, and how when you DO find someone you love, you'll grow together not just on a mental/emotional level, but sexually as well (thus making your "boo hoo, I can't ever have boring sex ever!" statements kind of moot, yeah?). But I feel like these are just life experiences you need to figure out on your own.

And seriously, the thing that REALLY makes you a jerk in all this is this:

The thing is that i dont think many asian girls are like this and i still think the best kind of wife for me is an asian.......
See Veggilante's post for further elaboration, because they said it all.
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well, you're basically turning into charlie sheen.. going into sex binging..

you're over indulging, which is causing you to turn evil. and you're not over-indulging in love.. or caring..

it's for just sexual gratification.

so in a sense you are turning bad. you're viewing women as objects.. not people.

and some women actually encourage this, which is sad.

overall, don't turn out like charlie sheen.

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18 hours?! DA F?! To me, long sex is 3 hours straight LOL 'cause like 1-2 hours sounds regular but the extra hour would tire most people out. 18 hours is insane buddy x_x sex addict.

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Nice try guy... but after 4hrs of having an erection your penis will start to disfunction and you will need to go to the hospital to drain it. Funny story though.

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Nice try guy... but after 4hrs of having an erection your penis will start to disfunction and you will need to go to the hospital to drain it. Funny story though.

Come to think of it, you're right, OP is probably a troll LOL

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Again, some men (and women) have very short refractory periods. You get sore and you're exhausted but you can def. keep going.

Priapism is a persistent, usually painful, erection that lasts for more than four hours and occurs without sexual stimulation. The condition develops when blood in the penis becomes trapped and unable to drain. If the condition is not treated immediately, it can lead to scarring and permanent erectile dysfunction.

I will be the 1st to admit... I spelled dysfunction wrong ): Other than that, you cannot sit here and say you can have sexual stimulation for 18hrs straight, that's madness.

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Priapism is a persistent, usually painful, erection that lasts for more than four hours and occurs without sexual stimulation. The condition develops when blood in the penis becomes trapped and unable to drain. If the condition is not treated immediately, it can lead to scarring and permanent erectile dysfunction.

I will be the 1st to admit... I spelled dysfunction wrong ):  Other than that, you cannot sit here and say you can have sexual stimulation for 18hrs straight, that's madness.

Hey, hey....woosah, okay? The OP is on the lane to d-baggery, however having intercourse for 18 hours is feasible, albeit, a little disturbing to think about, thank you for the mental images.

"Having sex" is not really restricted to intercourse with penetration only, it can be a large encompassing term. Which may include, but is not limited to touching and oral stimulation as well, for the more vanilla ones. Those that engage in a little more kinky stuff like BDSM, well then that theoretically, the sex play can last days. Since soompi's a family friendly site and there are minors on the site, I won't go into details. I'm afraid you're just going to have to trust me on this one. ;)

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