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May I say that I genuinely hope that I am the only person here fighting CoVid?    It's miserable, and I've been struggling since mid-April.  Thought I had it licked but I hit a bad relapse a

It might be a good idea if he stops for a sem, because of the pandemic. I don't know how bad is it in your place, but if cases are rising, then perhaps he should stay home for some more months.  

Dear chingu, I am crying reading your story here! It's been a long time since I saw you in Soompi! Hang in there! You have to fight with bad times in order to get a silverline!  Yeah, I believe in it!

5 hours ago, H0ney said:

 

I understand because you are a parent. I think it’s normal that people are a bit afraid to go out in this covid19 pandemic. But if your son takes a break for 1 year, I think it’s okay too. He can continue his study next year. I also took a break for one year in the college because I should do something. And I continue my study again the next year and everything was good. I still got a good job. I hope you will not worry too much :) 

Thanks Honey chingu for comforting me. Yeah u r correct. I'll just trust his decision and trust God that everything will be alright.

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10 hours ago, BogumNoona said:

My eldest son wanted to stop going to college for this sem but I told him not to. But we can't impose what good we want for them. This covid pandemic makes everyone so lazy. I hope he changes his mind. 

 

 

 

Try not to pressure him.  Although you know things from experience  and you want to share that knowledge for his benefit, your son has to be able to make his own decisions and his own mistakes.    Wisdom cannot be given; it must be gathered.

 

When I was in college, I decided to take a break.  It was one of the best things I could have done.  Although I enjoyed college life, I was a terrible student during the first two years in college.  I knew that I was just wasting time and money.  Looking back on it now,  I realize that I needed more time to mature and to focus on what I really wanted from college but back then all I was aware of was that I wanted to step away for awhile.  

 

My parents were Not pleased that I took time off but they tolerated it.  They tried to help me by making some suggestions but they did not try to drive my decisions, and I was grateful that they did not try to force me into a mold.

 

During that year off, I did some part time work.  At my parents' suggestion, I took some classes at a secretarial school.  I spent a lot of time thinking and reading.  As I had these experiences, I began to realize what fields were right for me and what sort of things I did Not want to get stuck doing for the rest of my life.  These were things I needed to figure out.  No one could have told me these things; I had to learn for myself.

 

When I returned to college, I was literally a different person.  I knew what I wanted and I was completely focused on my goal.  I changed my major from the "sensible" one that I had previously to one that was a bit more risky but much more fulfilling.  I went from being a below-average student to becoming a President's List Scholar making straight A's while taking the maximum number of classes my college would allow each semester.  I graduated near the top of my class despite my first two wasted years.  

 

CoVid will change the way all of us see the world.  It will change the way we interact in life.  If your son needs to step away to keep safe and also to think about how he wants his future to be, I hope that you will find the courage to allow him to follow his own path.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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On 8/13/2020 at 8:13 AM, BogumNoona said:

My eldest son wanted to stop going to college for this sem but I told him not to. But we can't impose what good we want for them. This covid pandemic makes everyone so lazy. I hope he changes his mind. 

 

It might be a good idea if he stops for a sem, because of the pandemic. I don't know how bad is it in your place, but if cases are rising, then perhaps he should stay home for some more months.

 

Perhaps, you can bargain with him that if he chooses to stop for this sem, he might want to do some online courses and certificates at his leisure.

 

Back when I was in college, I also wanted some months of hiatus. I was in university at 16, coping with academic requirements and living on my own. The stress can sometimes be just too much.

 

Your son might be stressing over something too, he just wasn't telling you. Trust his views. He might really need the rest, so that he can be much better when he returns next semester.

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Do you know what is even scarier than being ill for nearly five months?  Starting to get better is definitely scarier.  I worry that it won't keep happening and that I'll get ill again.  The relapse that I had already was worse than the first time I had CoVid, so my fear has basis in reality.

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Hi guys, I was hoping to start a new topic in Soompi Hangouts but it seems like I can’t start a new topic at all. Is it because I need a minimum number of posts or something?

 

I was hoping to ask for help because I want to send a care package to a friend in korea. His father just had a heart attack and is recovering in hospital, and I wanted to send the family something that would be suitable (in Korean culture) and also something I can order online to be delivered to their address. Can anyone help?

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I just realized that I cannot remember most of what has happened during the past four months.  Maybe that's a good thing.

 

Still fighting CoVid.  And this is what today has been like:

  • woke up after sleeping nearly 8 hours last night
  • could not be bothered to make breakfast; ate cold leftovers
  • took a shower and washed my hair
  • could not cope after being awake for two hours
  • went back to bed and slept for more than four hours (horrific nightmares)
  • hair still wet because I couldn't deal with the hairdryer and slept on my wet hair
  • had to drive to my mailbox to pick up the mail because I can't walk that far
  • have now been awake for 45 minutes--really very hungry but sitting here staring at a bowl of ramen that I don't care enough to eat because I have no energy
  • it's 3:15 PM and I'm thinking of taking another nap

.....and I won't even bother you with the stuff about how I can hear myself wheeze every time I take a breath or that everything hurts and.....nevermind

 

This is a colossal nuisance.  Take precautions, please--wear the damn mask; wash your hands; social distance; all that sensible stuff.  No one should have to endure CoVid.  I would not wish this on my worst enemy.

 

Wanna know the funny part?  I feel so much better than I did a month ago.  Weird.  Feeling this bad is still better.

 

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1 hour ago, Lawyerh said:

 

It's interesting to read about all the sabbatical advice. Never had a chance myself to took any break and having a sort out for life. In my country its deemed not too approriate if we delayed the graduation. 4 years and thats it. 

 

College years, as I remember mine, was so exhausting the first couple of years. Perhaps I was wishing for some hiatus, given that when I was in uni, most of my peers were mostly two years older. I was having wishful thoughts that I too can have a gap year. I guess anyone would after long tests for the whole day? Ahahaha.

 

Anyhow, it got better when I changed courses. Even if I was very busy, I enjoyed it too since I was at last studying for the degree I wanted. Not something I don't know how I got admitted to, never mind that many were scrambling for that degree program slot I didn't care much about. :lol: 

 

At this time that there's a pandemic, it may be perhaps better for others if they have a break, especially if it's rising exponentially in their respective areas. However, it doesn't mean students can remain idle. They can either self study in advance, or take up online courses. If there's online learning facilities available from school, by all means take up that option.

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To all my beloved chingus, you just don't know how all your words of encouragement lifted up my spirit. Yup,  I keep on praying and trusting God and my son. Things will be alright. God bless you all and may our Lord God answers your prayers in the way He designs your lives. :heartxoxo:

 

 I love this what @thistlesaid: Wisdom cannot be given; it must be gathered. 

 

 

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Broke up with my bf yesterday...I probably should have broken it off a while ago, as things always felt off. But I because of the lockdown and time on my own, I think it helped me realize I am happier by myself. We're just not suitable for each other. It was hard for me to call it quits, as I felt some unexplainable guilt about the whole thing. However, now that I have, my friends and family all seem to support me, which makes me a bit teary, more so than the end of a relationship. My mind was a bit of a mess yesterday... but I think now, I have a better understanding of myself and what I want in life. 

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Super toxic ex/current boyfriend came back into my life to rub into my face he slept with another girl. I was never okay with being in an open relationship. I knew I wouldn't be okay but I said I would try just to give it a go and maybe go back to being in a monogamous relationship.

 

I'm strongly considering calling the cops to check if the no contact order is still on against him.

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