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PROBLEM FIX
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nvm I dont want to ask anything
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nowadays my guy friend told me stories of their dates and whatsno. So basically physical attraction is the start, that what makes them wanting to get to know you. But it isn't everthing. However some guys only cares about the physical then the personality and you can get away with. Some care fo both. Gotta see what you can wing with
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@ninshark
I know I have no excuses of the way I acted. However at the first few initiate day of being "dumped" I also cannot help but feel sad too. Thinking all of the things that I had done, we had done, things we share now is meaningless. We are just friends. That "just friends" hurts more than just 3 words and when we lasted talk he said alot of things that made me mad too.
I guess things just don't work out for us at all ..
what you're trying to say btw the line is to let him go right?? lol don't be friends or nothing haha
my plan was to wait for things to cool down then talk to him again. He is a good person and I do want to be friend
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Guys, if the relationship that you had with the girl that you dated for months did not go well. And you suggested on being friends. After all the nice things you told her, yet a few days she dumped on you saying that she cannot even be friends with you because it will be difficult for her to forget the things you both shared. (At that moment she was really thinking for herself. She threw away her pride to beg for a second chance to make things work yet you refused, and said stuff to riled her up. However, now she think clearly and realize that she was wrong. She should have said for now, lets just not be friends or anything for a months or so) even when you suggested on letting things cool down before hanging out.how would you feel?will you check up on her after a few months?will you talk to her again if she texted you?will you be friends with her again?Also i notice that most of the guys/girls they dated the first time has gotten better after time flew by. They actually get together and now have been with each other for more than a year.
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guys, how do you feel about having different perspectives/ level of experiences as far as sex, ethic, belief with the girl that you are dating? The guy that I'm dating said I'm emotionalless, not expressive and Def no sex hungry enough for him (aka not willing to have sex or go as far as doing stuff without the actual sex) but I feel that slightly over 6 mos you can barely knows who they are, and how the two of you will be like. he told me he likes me at month 3 and I kinda did nothing because I didn't really feel it then. Surely I am interested but I don't feel like I like him yet. Told him before that benefit of a doubt is earned but given. I also said that I'm pretty closed off, not very good at talking or expressing myself until later on down the line. So don't just break my wall down and suddenly flee out of my life. He said no then, but now he blamed it on perspective difference. everything was fine in the beginning, but at the 5 months frame we argue alot more. And it's about the same issue (difference in perspective - ethnic, belief)
@writerstalenot bf/gf. We tried to compromised many times but not getting anywhere because both does not want to stick to it. I am 28 and still a virgin. he was okay with it; up until when I am uncomfortable with being physically expressive (he would touches me at private areas and when we kisses he would get really physical) I told him that I would be if we are in a relationship because we only known/dated for 6+ months (close to 7). His excuses was i cannot help being physically and emotionally attracted to you. and this is one of my way to express myself. Few months ago, when I suggested to meet his friends, he told me hes not ready, and from then we are having even more arguments. Now we ended things but still remains as friends. It hurts! but he is a good guy, though I am not ready to see him with anyone or dated anyone yet. and dont know what to do with all the sticky photos we took.
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thank you for the input
ninsharks
we did communicated, and he told me his definition of the two. I'm just trying to see if it's just him or guys in general
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writers tale
I see. I thought that seeing each other is the higher level to just dating. Thanks for the clarifying
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Guy
what is the different between seeing each other and dating??
are we still allow to see other person? the need to communicate daily?? Does it mean the other person is more serious about you
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NinsharksI guess all of these come down to having lower expectation for the other person. He is not my boyfriend yet, just someone that I am seeing for 6 months now. The fact that in the beginning I was being really chill aka not caring at all versus now caring a bit more has proven to him that my feelings has escalated to something more than just "dates" at our previous hangout he reminds me of the amount of times that we have been seeing each other for, i did sneakily tried to ask him if time really help him knowing what he wants for us and he said he has been knowing what he wants for us. It is just me not knowing what I want (&& i feel that he is always using it as an excuses to get out of answering more questions from me)lately I am very confused with his actions/words. And do think that he is talking to someone else. sometimes I feel like hes drawing back for me to do a bit of a chase. I had already told him that I dont chase after anyone. If they want to leave, then I will let them no holding back !! (I think that is a mistake too but that was from the beginning where I did not REALLY care for him) meezu I'm in the same situation as you too.. so just find something to do, to keep yourself busy because the more you're coming closer the farther apart he will be from you. Go hangout with your friends, clean the house, your room, find a hobby... anything that keeps you occupy
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ninSharks
The first and last time we talked about it he told me that he's not ready yet. My respond was "ok but I'm not going to wait for you to makeup your mind though", he responded back with "yeah I know" ...recently he said he want to invite me to his co-ownership with his friend...
sometimes I fee like he's saying all the stuff I want to string me along
ps: anyone mind me pm inbox them for advice
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I have been talking to this guy for around 5-6 months. He told me a lot of personal past/recent experience/things, treats me really well and has put in a lot of effort to communicate/ making whatever we have now progress into something more (I think according to him) However we only see each other religiously once a week sometimes slightly over a week but he always make it up to me. so how should I suggested him to hangout with me twice a week? alsomonths ago, he suggested on doing double dates with my friend after I told him that I have been a third wheel for the past few weeks now. My respond was "okay, we'll see" months after I took his advice and suggested to him to do a double date TWICE with his friends but his respond was "you will" yet recently when I sneakily asked him to bring me around his friends he told me "it is a big step, I am not ready. Please give me more time" after that incident I havnt "suggested" it anymore but our previous hangout he brought up a conversation in regard to his family and said "i want you to meet my family. They will like you" I dont think I am ready to meet his family. Friends yes! but family! I am nervous and confused !! what is it that he wants? one day he told me hes not ready then the next he just gives me hope every time we hungout he always either hold my hands, bring my hands to his and hold it or just rest his hand on my lap while driving. he always hold my hands or just make sure that people know we are a couple. ..however his actions and words really confused me !! there are times where we would bumped into his friends when we hungout, but i did not tag along with him when he go to say hello to him because I respect his boundary and unreadiness to bring me into his world. what should I do? Did I do the right thing by just sitting there while he went to say hi to his friend or should I tag along to be polite??
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I have been talking to this guy for 5-6 months now
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belle_kd1413 said: Before I got with my boyfriend, he was totally in love with this other girl for a good 2-3 years. The thing is, they still hang out and all because they're really close. He told me not to be jealous once when he told me they were hanging out and just talking and that I'm the one he loves. Before we got together, he was saying things like "I don't know if I still love her or just the idea of her...*" They work at the same place, btw. Now, even if we're together, he still does the things he did for her before - like seeing that she gets home properly and hanging out a lot. The girl has a boyfriend and doesn't like him that way. Whenever we're together, I know he's still texting her and he constantly checks his phone if she's replied. That makes me sad because when I text him, I don't get a reply instantly. I mean... he tells me I'm the one he loves and all but I always feel like he still likes/loves her and it just kills me. Also, whenever we're together, our conversation always leads to some little thing about the girl. *He's a lot older than I am and has had a number of relationships. He usually "gets the girl" that he likes because they have the same interests and things. (Hehe. Like in our case.) The girl (his Robin, he once told me) doesn't have the same interests. I think he still really likes her because he can't have her? Idk, that's what people tell me. When we got together, I asked him if he just likes me because I'm a bit like the girl. He said no, and that he likes me and being with me more. He tells me all these things but still shows signs that he likes the girl... I never wanted to compete with someone's Robin... Is it possible that he's gotten over her when he still does the same things for her? Is it possible that it's just because they're reallllly close? What do I do?!
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writerstale I didn't even bring the subject up when we hungout but he did. He asked me why I always reject his attempts and was making analogy when when you're physically and emotionally attracted to someone you would try to get close and make physical contacts. . when a guy is easily distracted does it means he's still weighin out his dating options ?? (Like he's looking at other girls) my ex was the best when it comes to shown me that he's really interested in me. Never did I catch him looking around
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I am going out on a few dates (6) with this guy, and he always suggested on us kissing goodbye and/or hello. I am interested in this guy, and also dont mind it !! But the fact that he suggested it more than a few times making me think that he is only hooking up instead of actually wanting to get to know me. he sent me a text yesterday saying "I dont want to make you do anything you dont feel comfortable doing so just kiss me when youre ready" my respond was "your action shown otherwise"
Alsoat the begining, I told him that I dont care what he is doing or wanting to do when not talking to me. Just dont leave me hanging ..at least saying ttyl or something but he did it once and back to his bad habits ... I dont want to keep bugging him about it all the time but it bothers mehow can I kindly remind him without making him feel like I am nagging?
is all of this because my feeling is still stuck on my ex? -
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when I start a new relationship, everything that we do would consider the first despite of how many ex that I have had
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babybug82age is nothing but a number. My ex was 20 when I was 25 ..if both has the same mentality, connection, and etc then dont worry about those things and let things go with the flow.
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currypopsicle_1168
Going to insert my staND even tho you're asking from the guys. Girls don't like subtle hints, and we don't like over the top aggressive ones either.
what is the relationship with the girl? (classmate, coworker, friend of a friend, friend, a stranger) there's a different approach for these
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ive been talking to this guy for a few weeks in terms of getting to know each other. And I notice that my conversation with him is rather on a friendly terms. Like we would tell each other about our day/ life event, any vent that we have against coworker, family, friends and etc.I feel like i am friendzone this guy or am I just overanalyze?
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Rip Tideyou can always dress nice, smell nice but if theres no communication then nothing will work. All of that have been said, go talk to her !!! since you have a class with her that should be easy to create a constant & stable conversation ..Girls like guys that takes initiative
writerstalefamily oriented, respect of my decision/choices and "us", put me first before anyone else even his friends, willing to communicate even when we fought, resolved any issue/misunderstanding between us
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depends on the situation. these couldve been the reason1/ she doesnt seen you in that way2/ she had her heartbroken recently and she wants to take time for it to heal 3/ she doesnt want to be in a relationship or tie down
~~~ladiesso! my bf has always been texting me good morning/ night messages, but recently (this week and especially today) he have, and he havnt even respond back either. I know warriors game is today but he couldve at least text me back at least something!im planning to wait it out til the end of today/ tmr morning and if he doesnt then I am call him askingits getting weird because he always listen to me. His texts sometimes come in slow but never not texting me for the whole day