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  1. 25 minutes ago, soojsooj said:

    Okay, so I've decided to come onto here cos I need to talk about the drama more than it's being spoken about on my beloved IU forum over at OH. 

     

    I thought the comment, I think by @aisling ...? was really interesting on her public declaration of her feelings towards DH not only being part of a bigger plan for the detective and JY and in part a reveal of her true feelings but also so she can possibly hide behind "ah see it wasn't real it was just a show" to protect herself later down the line when DH finds out ... 

     

    Strange to see so many so fervently rallying behind DH and Jian being together ... more than other forums anyway. 

     

    We debated it on another forum where most people are I wouldn't say "against" it, but don't really pay much heed to that aspect of the drama. We were talking about it the other day and a friend quite insightfully wrote

     

    "Jian doesn't really know what she's feeling and that DH is a moral platform that can show her right from wrong, like a mentor, but like a lover............... that would ruin everything he stands for as a character.

     

    They do have great chemistry , it's just that imo if DH does establish a romantic relationship with Jian, that will make him just as bad as his wife (so it's ok for him to cheat but not ok for the wife?) . Their relationship has been stale for long but they are still married and the 'd' word has not come up in a discussion yet, so while he's still righteous, he's not going to allow himself to see Jian as a woman"

     

    I think this is the crux of it, Jian has "fallen" for Dong Hoon because of his righteous nature. Someone who is selfless and willing to go out of his way to be kind to her, a stranger, or his wife, who cheated on him, or his subordinate who badmouthed him etc. so many examples, but the connecting factor being that she is listening in on him and learning and loving a person who is very moral and kind and for DH to go against his nature and pursue something with Jian would ruin all of that. 

     

    I don't even think Jian wants a relationship, I just think she likes him from afar. I doubt she would ever have revealed her feelings had it not been for being a part of some elaborate plan. 

     

    I think the problem with this aspect of the drama is because of all the antis and the hating on the casting with the age difference, the drama wasn't allowed to play out like any other. We weren't given a chance to suspect romance because they had to clarify that it wasn't. Such a shame because we're looking at them and there's clearly chemistry but I think it's also partly to do with their characters both being quiet and of few words and more intense looks just generally? It feels very noir and alternative film but in k-drama land we're so used to that being "obviously romance". 

     

     

    "Jian doesn't really know what she's feeling and that DH is a moral platform that can show her right from wrong, like a mentor, but like a lover............... that would ruin everything he stands for as a character.”

    I don’t see it ruining his character in any way bc he would not start a relationship with JA unless he has divorced his wife. He is a better person than his wife and he cares deeply for JA, so doing something like committing adultery that would bring shame onto her & himself is not something I see him doing.

    Also, even though the word divorced hasn’t been mentioned by DH it doesn’t mean that it hasn’t been hinted left and right. He and his wife are obviously staying together for their son. They both feel TRAP and it’s obvious that they both recognize there are other people out there who understands them more. I think the show has done a really great job leaving the audiences guessing whether there’s anything between the two leads.

    I think what the writers meant by the show not being a romance drama is that this is not your typical romance drama like PNWBMF. You can have romance but no love. DH and JA definitely love each other bc they seem like they would do anything to protect one another, even if it means sacrificing themselves. 

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  2. 2 hours ago, philosophie said:

    So i have been wondering about LSKs friend that said ‘there wouldn’t be any romance’ when he did script reading with him up to episode 10. Uhmmmm a confession, JY telling JA that DH likes a girl of he takes her out, and then some other subtle scenes didnt seem to count as ‘romantic’? I’m not sure if it’s all a

    conspiracy with PDnim to mislead us, but I’m really starting not to take what any of the crew is saying at face value. 

     

    I am curious about what will happen in the end and I remember during the translations of the press conference, IU had said something of the sort that she hoped the drama would leave us wondering about how the characters are doing. So I don’t know if that was insinuating an open end (if she even knows the end cause I’m not sure if the cast knows that already or they haven’t gotten their script yet?) but I really hope it’s not an open end because I’ve had to deal with that so much already with Black, Misty, Hwayugi, and other recent dramas this year that I need one with closure. That said, I’ll still be okay with whatever happens because I have enjoyed watching this story nonetheless.

     

    last random thing I wanna put out there that has stayed on my mind is when DH told JY he wouldn’t let JY be the person/reason that his life is ruined. What if that was a foreshadowing that DH will ‘let’ his life be ruined for JA in the sense that he’ll get divorced, quit job, etc? Like cause it’s JA he’s content with his life going wrong instead of it being because of  yucky JY.

    I don’t think she would let him ruin his life, she would remove herself from him before it gets to that point. However, I do believe it would not get to that point bc he’s a very smart person. 

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  3. 1 hour ago, tiger457_stv said:

    As a director in a shark infested company, he will be so immerse in problems that he won't even have time to seriously think about romance.  With his character, if his wife confess and shows repentant he would probably take her back and try to have some kind of a relation.   Having a safe platonic relationship with Ji-an would be better (for now....). 

     

    As MsMinnieFran said, the only plausible ending beside the two parting ways and each carries on with his-her own life, is..... 15 years has passed and Ji-an & Ajusshi happen to meet by accident.  He is now CEO or near the top of the company and is divorced, his son all grown up, his life perfect but empty, and she with a modest career, a mature single woman who still yearn for her Ajusshi....both now free to form a formal relation that has stood the test of time...Unreproachable! 

    I think he’s near his breaking point living for others, therefore, I do not see him knowingly continue this slow burning misery that he calls life by being a director. I think he will most likely leave the company unless JY is out of the picture for good. He loves his job! minus the politics therefore, I do see him just continuing to do what he loves at his own firm. I do believe that a relationship is more than plausible between him & JA  bc he has a very good support system.

     

    Also, it is hinted all through out the drama that his family feels bad shifting all the pressure on to him and he never complains so...I think it is slowly brewing inside lol he will eventually burst bc he’s like a pressure cooker right now. He will ask his family if it’s ok to be selfish just for once, because we only live once, to be allowed to love and be happy! :)

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  4. 1 hour ago, timidjock0819 said:

     

    I will reserve my full judgment on YH:) I think she has more of a backstory that is yet to be revealed in upcoming episodes. She is such a B** for the affair and I'm not giving her excuses. But she also tried her best to support DH's mother and his brothers. She is not that selfish but likely just burned out from the familial responsibilities & always giving support to her husband's family. Despite the endless support, still nothing changes about their situation because the brothers are really immature and so dependent on DH to carry the weight of the responsibilities. The older brother and Ki Hoon are a little better with their cleaning business but the years of dependence made YH bitter towards her husband's family. I can relate to YH in that way coz I experienced the same set of heavy responsibilities. DH needs to realize that you cannot fully be responsible for your brothers, they need to start taking responsibility of their own lives and not live their dreams through him.  

     

    I think JYD loved YH but not enough to lose his ambition and power. He is not ready to throw that away over her. She just fell in love with the wrong man but I think it does not diminish her determination to cut ties with DH eventually. YH is such a sad character in my opinion.

     

     

    I know what you mean, she’s not a horrible person but just bc “nothing seemed to work” after trying in her marriage doesn’t give her the right to cheat. She should’ve ended things with her husband if she wasn’t happy but instead she cheated on him for over a year with someone who would never put his ambition before her. That isn’t love I’m sorry, love isn’t built on selfishness, which they both were!  

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  5. 4 hours ago, maryofbethany said:

    had watched thru the scene at least 3 times. just wanted to defend DH a little.
    lets understand the turmoil hidden behind DH's serene facade.  hangin on  a thread.

    thru out the scenes of ep9 to 10, DH was trying to savage his marriage, he did what most husband couldnt. he forgave what most unpardonable even to a religious couple. infidelity was always that final line that any one in a martial bond shouldnt ever crossed that thresdhold... esp a husband, that's always that unpardonable sin to most hot bloodied man.

    be mindful that DH was all forgiving, while he was showing tremondous changes towards his protection over JA, so was his ever tiredless forbearing towards wife, porriage, patting of her legs while she slept broken heart (not for him but that jerk), asking her what she wants, asking her is she home, asking her.... and answering.. gone was his mule reaction and cold indifference demeanour when she once asked and he remain mule and stoic...
    but here, he quietly do the house chores, slump by the laundry, then continue on to strive on...
    he was not living, he was just soul wandering thru day in day out...
    now its worst, when he was forced into this political fighting which he very much want not to be involved, but head on because it will made his family proud, (uh.. his mother's funeral so depend on it...... wang2 was dead Wrong! His so called hatred for JY wasnt that solid enough to make him buried himself into the polictical fights.
    to cut short, his situation was much worst than when he was merely breathing air at ep1... now its tortuous;
    but thank God there is this girl that oft time he can breathe a little while stand beside her at the train,... short sweet moment of relief, he didnt ask for more than that... i guess he bluff himself that he wont be asking for more.
    then, there are also moment that he will treasure ... yes, those walking night strolling... wasnt he once someone that was so self righteous that he will not allowed himself to be found in states of courting rumours... and there he goes , nights after nights, walking back together.. did he not also drink with her... oh, how dare he brought her to his buddy's eatery... will his buddy-chef think other wise?
    SHALT not mentioned the very 'extra-non-platonic" thing that he did for her, carry harmoni down the stair to watch moon,
    fetched harmoni to Nursing Home, with every ep, even while i do not often engaging with chatting with everyone, i am very solid believed that he has stirred affectionately for her.

    but now he started to fight against his raw feels, he started to resist wanting to eat with her, obediently played his role as he sensed she tried to redeem by going to his brother's company and his mom's place for dinner... he tried to relax strike a simple convo in the car... he tried and tried and tried.. then... knew of his colleague's new found likeing for JA, ok, he played his card by asking her to join them, acting 'normal' and 'indifference'...... then,
    he broke down again... he went to his buddy's eatery... it was then, he faced back his Dark inner struggles which he suppressed, surfaced again his hidden hurts that he never forgive, the imaginery images of what transpired between the adultress n her lover... brought to mind, what his friend said about what a man truly felt about facing their adultress-wife.. that its just a matter of time that you snap and throw in the towel to your marriage. his friend said finally he signed his paper... he was at his most vulnerable state, when he was crumbling down his defensive wall that he actually thought he was strong in upholding the fail marriage.. its seems he started to waver...
    then,

    DH glanced towards the doorway, which means after all, he desires her to pop up again, just like that day, at his weakest moment that he barely hanging on... just lets drink, and just let him tell her :let's be happy.  but she was no show.

    then out of no where, she appeared beside him after the no show... what did she just mindlessly said? he was not prepared to face his inner desires for her, to ready to address his building up feelings for her... oh he was stunned that she was much in conflicted over him, whereforth come all this sudden outburst of this girl that he has grew to be so fond of, the sole quiet suports that he so accustomed to defend on.... she liked him was the last time he ever expected, to know he gave her such pains and dilemmas was dumbfounding to him.

    that look on DH's face with his ajar opened mouth, that stupefied face, that unblinking gaze... then he tried to escape by pushing her away again... ok, yes, go home...  you should not be wandering around late night... rather than scolding her crazy, to him the whole thing is CRAZY!
    his self defense barrier immediatley walled up.
    hit her? and then what? how dare she stirred up something he wanted to suppress.... what? did she just confess?
    no way.. .. he definitely do not know whether should he chose to feel grateful or feel absurb that the revelation of her confession of love come at such an untimely moment, when he was so vulnerable over unable to hid his distaste, and hurt over his wife infidelity any longer...
    and she JUST couldnt let go.!!!!.. she wants to stop everything. she want a 'Stop"? he secretly actually thought she enjoyed all these, but was she stressed and agonised by feeling for him.. ..

    then she also hit that impossible note. boy was he hurt that she want a stop.

    she dare him to help her to stop, else she will tell on her to neighorhood...
    his last wall of pride, was himself being the pillar of justice, the pillar of respect, the pillar of strength, the pillar of pride, among his brethrens in the village, that was when he broke his wall and lost it, when she used that to threaten him.


    i think i can understand why that blow, and just like whatever many so said well. it was a calculated move on JA's part. it was her most brave sacrifice for DH. its definitely not the kind of love confession that she desire to offer and expecting a much desired returns. in fact what she calculated was a most painful backfire. and so did she received what she expected and not deserved. my poor JA and her DH. i dont know whether the writer will succumb to pressure and truly write these 2 be subtly seperately. but i truly believed, when both went such selfless extra miles to do something so great for each other, again and again, even without the other's knowledge. DH gotten beaten up and exposed his feelings to GI, and JA fake her own demand for a breaking up when they have NOT even truly started anything concrete yet. its break her to her core,  what broken Thur's act made her, we shall see how wasted she shalt become on next Wed,... again, she will not allow DH to witness how much she agonised over him, by letting him go. telling him she want him out of her life, she has 'enough'. forcing herself to tell him that ws utterly cruelty towards herself.
    selfless love. is when, the great selfless things you did for him, you never expect him to ever know, what's worst, he will never get to know how devastating you forced yourself to say cruel things to him, and allowed him to go thru self guilt on his own, to heal on his own. you just cannot be there to comfort him for his own good.
    because you felt that, he has chosen his wife.  you submissively, surrender to that, whatever he wish.

    lets be no harsh to DH. DH next ep will show you how hellish he descend in self guilt, that he allowed himself to do that to her, that he did the most despicable thing of hitting a woman. whatever he deems himself proud of, that he is better than others. he was proud that he will not be like unto the scum of YJ, but in spirit, he did desires JA. (lets be honest). he was proud that he wasnt like GI, and boldy say dont let anyone strike JA, he will bring a village of a hundred abled men to her defense. Now he descend to such. he hated politic, and now he was used as the front line warrior, he the poster boy of righteousness, was now the main Banner bearer of the war at the workplace. everything he hated, he slowly become. 
    so try to understand the crumbling world around him..... and see, as he hit JA, he hit himself harder ...............

    (personal note: i used to cry buckets for all kind of dramas, but this, this drama is weird. every ep, scene after scene, i felt suffocated, felt my tears just welled up but never found itself able to break thru and out. and flow backward, struck inside me, cant breathe, cant cry, cant feel. this show just tied up all my tension every week. felt so handicap week after week. so i seldom write anything, since everyone wrote so profoundly, and expressed to minute details what ever i felt.
    dad asked me a question, will these 2 be together, he strongly disagreed that a couple should divorce.
    i dont know what to feel, what's the end be like. but one thing i know, the way JA loves, moved me to my core, shakened me .

    i said they deserved each other.  whatever endings so be it.)

    DH and JA’s relationship is such a contrast  to JY and YH’s. First, the latter is built on trust and unselfishness. It’s amazing bc they barely know each other for that long yet they already have this trust between them to “pretend they don’t know about the other person's grievances”. They are both very thoughtful, protective and understanding of one another. I just wish JA would tell DH the truth so that their relationship would not be built on lies. I think he would understand what she had to do for survival’s sake. 

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  6. 1 hour ago, tiger457_stv said:

    Ajusshi is a (civil) engineer.   Engineer as a breed tends to be analytical, conservative in their belief, risk averse and down right....boring!  That is why you never see a KDrama with engineer (there are architect, waitress, actors, police, judges, lawyers, sales people, advertisement people, food industry people etc....but no engineer).

      

    Ji-an is a down to earth girl (she may be a teenager, but her life experience has turn her into a 30++ years old woman in her thought process).  She realize that her life by the side of Ajusshi would be drag on his career.  She is too strong mentally to harm him by falling for him.  she would realize that it is best for "HER Ajusshi" to stay with his confused, but repenting lawyer wife.   Ji-an is strong enough to live without him.

     

    So at the end, even though they both feel great affection (love?) for each other, they will keep it inside, pretend to smile, and go their separate way.... one to protect the other, the other for expediency...because that is how it has to be...so that no one (else) is hurt in this Non-Romantic Romance!!!

     

    NOTE:  the title of this drama is MY AJUSSHI,  and not   MY LOVE.....

    Dear,  “Because this is my first love” with JSM and LMK had a bunch of engineers in the show lol it was very good and quirky!

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  7. 34 minutes ago, timidjock0819 said:

     

    Aside from falling for each other, love is not just about feelings but equally important is the TIMING.  I love DH and JA to fall in love but now is not the right time for them. And I don't want both to go into a relationship prematurely for all the wrong reasons. This is why JYD and YH didn't worked out in the first place because they started it the wrong way. Nothing good will come out of it except resentment and regrets. 

    I think JY and YH would never have worked out bc they both did it the wrong way! YH being an inconsiderate, cheating b** lol and JY was never going to marry a divorced woman with a kid! It’s not that it wouldn’t work out bc the love was genuine between them, they were both selfish beings who wanted to satisfy their own needs at the expense of hurting others. This type of relationship is doom to begin with bc it was built on lies and selfishness. 

     

    I actially think PDnim and TVN will ultimately tell their story the way it was intended to be told. I think the story will continue to progresss in a very natural way  for the leads and so I will just trust that they would not disappoint me!

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  8. 1 hour ago, tiger457_stv said:

    Ajusshi is a (civil) engineer.   Engineer as a breed tends to be analytical, conservative in their belief, risk averse and down right....boring!  That is why you never see a KDrama with engineer (there are architect, waitress, actors, police, judges, lawyers, sales people, advertisement people, food industry people etc....but no engineer).

      

    Ji-an is a down to earth girl (she may be a teenager, but her life experience has turn her into a 30++ years old woman in her thought process).  She realize that her life by the side of Ajusshi would be drag on his career.  She is too strong mentally to harm him by falling for him.  she would realize that it is best for "HER Ajusshi" to stay with his confused, but repenting lawyer wife.   Ji-an is strong enough to live without him.

     

    So at the end, even though they both feel great affection (love?) for each other, they will keep it inside, pretend to smile, and go their separate way.... one to protect the other, the other for expediency...because that is how it has to be...so that no one (else) is hurt in this Non-Romantic Romance!!!

     

    NOTE:  the title of this drama is MY AJUSSHI,  and not   MY LOVE.....

    Actually, one can also argue that staying in a broken relationship not built on trust and understanding could hurt everyone around them, esp their son. Kids instinctively know when their parents no longer love each other. I think it’s more than obvious he will let his wife go bc they both want different things.

    It would be unrealistic to ask a man whom is already done with this relationship to take back his wife who have been cheating on him for over a year. 

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  9. On 4/21/2018 at 3:31 AM, dvdwyn said:

    oh well, celine dion is 26 years younger than her now - deceased - husband

    they managed to stay romantic together for 22 years before his death.. 

    who knows.. maybe DH and JA will end up together after all for those rooting for them... ?

     

    i myself hoping for a different ending where DH and his wife finally divorce or get stronger as a couple.. 

    JA finally living a normal life with DH as his step brother who watches over her.. 

     

    if DH get divorce, the son is the tricky part, will he stay with DH or his wife...

    probably DH as the grandmother can help look after him.. 

    how about DH wife parents? never seen them in this drama or has i miss it.. ? 

     

    I don’t think JA and DH can have a sibling kind of relationship since she has feelings for him that is way passed just being friends. I don’t think at this point DH & YH’s marriage can be selvaged. This is due to the duration of her cheating and their lack of communication and true understanding of one another. If they divorced, I think the son would stay with YH. I believe YH and DH would have an amicable breakup that would not leave their son feeling unloved by any of his parent.

     

    If this drama stays true to its realistic approach to life,  people do not just forget about their spouse’s infidelities and it would be cruel to both the parents and their kids if they stayed together just for their sake. Ep 10 alluded to the invitable divorce when DH’s friend pointed out that adultery is not something that is easy for forget and start over for a couple. I think the drama will most likely go the open-ended approach to their relationship, which breaks my heart.  

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  10. 15 minutes ago, timidjock0819 said:

     

    Why is that girl always get knocked down every time she says those words "you like me, right?" First with GI and now DH. I mean DH could have just handled the situation a little better, he tried to walk away though unlike GI that really wanted to hurt Jian. 

    I think it’s one of those situations where he’s damn if he did and damn if he didn’t. If he didn’t knock her in the head like she had requested, it would mean he liked her. If he did, it would still show that she’s able to stir his emotions very easily and once again proves that when it comes to JA, he doesn’t have control over himself :lol: 

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  11. 32 minutes ago, aisling said:

     

    That’s a really good point. Why act so serious if she was only a kid in his eyes? He tried at first to play it off lightly - Why is she wandering around this late? Go home!

     

    But when she persisted and demanded his answer he couldn’t take iy anymore. I’d say that hitting her was like hitting himself, the moment she said this sentence aloud “Park Dong Hoon likes Lee Ji Ah” it’s like something inside him broke and he needed to quiet her, he couldn’t listen to it any longer because the truth was too much to take. I think at this point he didn’t even admit to himself what it is that he keeps going to her. The moment she said it aloud was too much for him, he’s nit ready to confront himself. He’s too principled so he thinks he would become someone disgusting if he liked her as a woman.

     

    But there’s certainly something. If he didn’t feel anything he would joke about it but he was dead serious and unsettled.

    Yes, I replayed that scene several times and couldn’t understand why he had to be so ofended by her confession. He could’ve handled the situation a lot better if he thought of her as a pitiful child. He should’ve been more gentle and told her “I only think of you as a precious sister” but no he had to call her a crazy b** and tell her to scram lol 

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  12. 13 minutes ago, berny said:

    About DH hitting JA. i was also surprised, since it's DH himself who told JA not to be hit anymore (by anyone, and in particular that KI guy).

    She provoking him, can't be an excuse right? Maybe DH who's been stressed out for days, and JA was shouting .. i don't know if there'll be excuses for that.. i just hope nobody hits JA ever again. :(

    Will DH apologize next episode? maybe.

     

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    Cause if he was able to hit JA, he should also be able to kick his wife at the face for what she did ( just kidding) though i would love to do it for him. -_-

    I think the circumstances are a bit different. DH didn’t hit her out of no where, it was a very calculating move on her part. She deliberately cornered him bc she wanted the investigator to see that she was not on good terms with DH. Also, JA knew exactly what to say to get DH fired up, she left him with no other options bc she was going to shout out that they were in a relationship. I don’t think he meant to push her that hard. I thought she was playing up the push bc the investigator was tailing them. It didn’t seem like he hit her in the head. 

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  13. 2 hours ago, dvdwyn said:

     

    i mentioned it though... at first i cant believe he really hit a woman, that angel zombie hubby with no emotion...

    i replayed back trying to justify his action from hitting to pushing really hard... 

     

    i was also thinking why the director make JA fell to the floor? (is this supposed to prove the push theory instead of hitting? when u hit someone really hard, ur body wont fall down like that, instead only the head will move then the body follows after, if that person lose consciousness) i think this scene need to be dissected and analyzed even further.. 

     

    She could also be exaggerating the fall bc someone was tailing DH. Also, JA was very very adamant about DH hitting her to prove that he doesn’t like her. Let’s say he doesn’t have feelings for her, it wouldve been more normal to lightly hit her head and tell her that he sees her as a kid only.  Instead he looked really agitated and serious.  

     

    Which led me to believe that he was torn bc up until now, DH seemed like the kind of person who would avoid confrontations like he plague.

    He is more than content staying in the grey area with JA. Therefore, JA asking him to dispelled all those feelings by hiting her head, it forces him to have to think about their relationship & now that it’s in the open, he no longer has a reason to see her anymore :(

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  14. I love reading all of your comments esp for eps 9 & 10. I did not expect the confession at the end of ep 10. Even if it was done half under the disguised of protecting DH, it did not stop my heart from hurting for JA and DH. Like someone had mentioned in the forum, they are like star-crossed lovers, in the sense that their relationship is riddled in taboo-middle aged divorcee with a much younger girl of lower social-economic class w/ a dark pass.  

     

    Despite showing this brutality honest reality for our OTP, I love the writer’s juxtaposition on a number of these same taboos:

     

    1).  By showing that physical age is just merely a number. The fact that even though JA is 21, her soul is actually a lot older. Or how the eldest of the three brothers act like the youngest with his childish behavior. 

     

    2). Sometimes a divorce is better than staying in a relationship that has already died just for the sake of “saving face”. You can see this sucking the life out of DH & YH’s marriage. They do not seem to understand what the other person truly wants or needs and this speaks to how open & comfortable with one another. For example, YH stupidly suggesting DH will be fine not working at a place that he has laid his roots down along with the people and clients he has worked with through out the years. DH making his own family more of a priority than his wife and kids. 

     

    I think the show is leading to DH breaking free from his responsibilities and following his own heart. He’s currently “living” like a zombie and finding very little enjoyment in life bc if the restriction he has placed on himself. I love how the writers highlights this by showing DH’s struggle with what society/social norms dictates vs following his own heart. We see him as a man who is morally upright, putting others first, & seemingly always wanting to do the “right thing” to not bring shame onto his family and friends. But JA is slowly unraveling DH, he is seen walking that thin line of wanting to just do what his heart pleases.

     

    We see this with DH first being careful to not start any rumors by not wanting to eat alone, or texting/calling JA and even flat out telling her that she makes him uncomfortable. I just want to make it clear that seeing her as a “friend or family” member would not roused him to say that she makes him uncomfortable. He feels this way bc for the first time, someone sees right into his soul!!! she is someone who understands him and it scares the hell out of him bc he finds himself wanting to wait for her (at the station), & longing to see her (at the bar). 

     

    He seems to pay very little attention to his wife, to the point where it infuriates her bc he seems to only care about his work/family/friends, yet he takes a notice to everything relating to JA, her lack of socks, her bruises, and her indifference towards him at times. He thinks about her very often, he even jeopardized his potential directorship in beating up KI for her.

     

    Lastly, I do not believe being with her means that he has to throw everything away. I think it is hinted through out the show that pl who know PDH, even pl who hated him knows the kind of guy he is, he is careful with whom he chooses to be close to, I think this was why it was even more significant that JY said “if he eats and drinks with you, he likes you”. Besides, DH has a great supportive sys at home and at work. Therefore, even though it may seem taboo, all of these things set up for a greater chance of acceptance of JA. 

     

    **side note: Can you someone please  clarify whether he was waiting for her at the station, JH’s bar, and the divorce friend’s bar lol I want to make sure I’m not delusional and seeing things. 

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  15. 11 hours ago, lyserose said:

    I doubt that he ever did anything to his face. He looked bloated a bit during the press con of LUTYN but by the time filming ended and during his FM, his face sharpened due weight loss. I remember reading somewhere that he did intended to get a PS after QSD but called off the idea for an unknown reason. Lol

     

    I find KNG has the sexiest look when he made appearance for tvN's Lifebar. Just the right hairstyle and the perfect amount of mustache. Lol. And tipsy KNG even sexier. 

     

    @yanki My Mister is highly recommendable. It's gloomy yet healing and somekind of project that I hope KNG will do someday. In fact I find it wayyyy better than the popular Pretty Noona. I wouldn't want KNG to do something like Pretty Noona too. That drama has too much kissing and skinship. 

    Yes, I agree! I love the writer of MA, he’s a genius and it’s exactly the kind of character I would like KNG to portray. I also couldn’t bring myself to watch PN bc of the saccharine love story! I find MA to be very realistic with a slight touch of meloncholy. 

  16. 19 hours ago, nearsea said:

    Lol I agree! Man and woman only get friend zoned when there is no possibility of any romance happening...or when they don't feel the spark.

    Yes, lol my philosophy professor once said that man and woman behave very differently in this situation bc when a woman’s mind is made up the guy becomes a non-sexual entity like a lamp lol but a man can always change his mind 

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  17. 23 hours ago, sadiesmith said:

    Were you talking about Gong Yoo and Goblin by any chance?  So popularity matters.  Do you also think that Kim Go Eun, not being an idol, just did not bring out the antis/overprotective immature fans the way IU's idol status did?

    Lol yes I am, I really think it got blown up soo much more due to these factors: 1) the actors popularity( no disrespect to LSK btw bc he’s an excellent actor!! And a sexy one at that), 2) metoo movement, 3) IUs crazy antis 

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  18. 1 hour ago, lyserose said:

    Arghhh... Seeing the photo of Bidam standing side by side with Yum Jong really made me angry. He should have killed him way back in episode 38.

     

    @joowonie I am watching "My Mister" too. Kim Nam Gil obviously too sexy to play Park Dong Hoon. If he was the one, Lee Ji An would definitely fell in love immediately instead of bonding with him emotionally. Brooding KNG is the sexiest (after all, Choi Yeon Kyung started to fall for Heo Im once he started becoming broody). 

    Yes! He’s sadly too sexy for this role bc if I were JA, I would jump him lol and brooding KNG is so sexy indeed! I really want to see him now :wub:

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  19. 9 hours ago, timidjock0819 said:

     

    I don't think it would have made a difference whichever leading man. This show will still receive hate because of IU's mass popularity  and her haters will spread endless lies no matter what. As much as IU is well loved in Korea, many antis also wants to take her down. Price of fame I guess. 

     

    I am sure My Ajusshi viewers are enjoying and are giggly too. The show was able to retain the core audience and ratings are increasing so far. It broke the 6% according to news portals. I guess Koreans don't mind the ambiguous relationship of DH and Jian:).  In terms of the backlash, it looks like TVN and the production is already expecting it since last year and prepared well for it. Just my two cents but devoted IU fans should start defending this show from haters as if there is already a possible love line written despite the news conference. Unless if they have a copy of the entire script until episode 16, the story could turn and have a different ending. I mean what are they going to do if writer Park and PD Kim will decide to join the shipper delulu island on later episodes? This is still a Kim Won Suk drama and he is no push over in terms of his artistry. He wouldn't care about backlash from haters. Why absolutely deny something if you are not 100% sure about how the ending will be written? 

    I completely agree that KWS isn’t some push over and I’ve realized all of the backlash stems from knetz’s double standards and biases towards certain actors. Another popular actor ( my other hot ajusshi) was in a drama that had a love line with a much younger girl but it didn’t seem to garner any backlash due to that fact that the story was done in a tasteful way and the actor was very beloved by knetz.

     

     MA is a perfect example of why you shouldn’t judge a book by its covers! Honestly, it’s so hard not to look at the romantic/relationship aspect between the two leads bc they have this quiet understanding of one another that is imho more romantic than any back hugs in any dramas bc it’s more realistic and endearing. 

     Also, imo there is no such thing as a platonic relationship between a man and a women. There’s either attraction or no attraction, that’s what I’ve learned a long time ago.

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  20. If she wants to do a drama, I would prefer it to be on a cable channel. I feel the quality of writing/ directing is generally a lot better these days. I would love to see her work with someone like screenwriter  noh hee-kyung bc she is known for her realistic, cerebral and in-depth portrayals of the lives and relationships of ordinary people in her dramas. I think her characters would be a great fit for hjw’s strongest acting point, her ability to portray deep emotional scenes. I would also be floored if she collaborated with writer Kim Eun Hee for a thriller bc this writer is so good at incorporating twists and turns in her stories. 

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