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  1. @Dhakra We got into an argument and he said we should take some time to think about it. He thinks he's in the right and that I'm in the wrong because I'm the one who's not understanding him. We left it at that and then he text a day after wanting to talk about it but I didn't answer him because I got really sick after our argument. Then he text again the next day and we talked about it. He seemed very persistent on wanting to know what I thought and when I told him everything that was upsetting me he didn't have much to say and still insist I'm at fault. But then he'll text me like everything is okay and like our argument never happened.


    At this point I'm just laying low, not initiating contact or giving him attention and letting him have all the time he wants to himself since I know for sure he won't admit that he's at fault too. Or is what I'm doing an aggressive behavior?

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  2. how much have you gals cried about your bf or ex-bf because of how they treated you and the relationship you have or had? when was the breaking point that finally made you have enough?


    Mine was the second time I had questioned him about our feelings and what the relationship meant. It was rocky then already. He would never want to talk about it and so avoid it at any means possible. I finally had enough and ended it. I cried afterwards because a lot of different feelings hit me but then a smiled came knowing it wasn't me but him and that I had finally let go of what was holding me down. It felt awesome.

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  3. How dare you come up to me and tell me that I'm going to die because I didn't get the flu shot? Then you have the nerves to tell me that I'm not doing my job and you're always having to do it for me. I know what I'm suppose to be to doing. Did I asked you to do it for me, no. Do I need your help, no. You choose to disregard my presence and answer over me because you like hearing yourself and getting the attention. I appreciate an extra hand when you help but when I offer mine you get mad at me? Just because you've got years ahead of me with the company doesn't make you mightier. We're both in the same position level with the same pay rate.

  4. Wow, so I was shown text messages from a friend between her and her boyfriend. My intuition from reading the conversation tells me he's cheating but then she starts going off about me not knowing anything because I've never been in a relationship and blah, blah, blah. Anyways, it seemed to me like he just gave himself up while he was trying to defend himself at one point.


    So the coversation kinda goes like this... he thought she was going on a date (automatically assuming it was with a man) because she was looking nice (from a pic she sent him). Then he was all like...


    Bf: if you want to be with another man just tell me. don't go messing around behind my back and playing me. I really care about you and I need to know you feel the same way.


    Gf: i do feel the same way.


    (and then this is where i start suspecting him from how he just kept talking)


    Bf: good like i dont talk to other females that way at all. I dont send pics or anything to anyone except you just so you know.


    Gf: dont talk to girls in what way?


    Bf: like trying to get them. You dont talk to guys like that do you?


    Gf: no i don't. Since you asked I'm going to ask you, Are you seeing another woman behind my back?


    Bf: no like i said i care about you a lot and would never put you through something like that.


    Gf: ok so how do you feel about me?


    Bf: i care about you you're always on my mind. I always call you babe or baby and ask for your photos. That should point out how much i care about you.


    (me: wow that's caring? dang!)


    So what do you guys think? Was i thinking too much into it? Or is he seeing another woman? I don't know what to ask specifically but I need some inputs so i can have something to argue about with my friend from a guys point.


    Other things to factor in are that he never wants to see her on the weekends. When he does want to see her it's when he decides to take a day off from work. They only see each other once about every two months (they live 40 minutes away from each other). Both works on weekdays only. She initiates the texts. Oh, and he's been hanging out with another woman during the weekends and only with that certain one.

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  5. 1 hour ago, Evangeline Yang said:


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    Btw, the princess has the most terrible ending. Many people got stunned and felt that even though she was bad. But is due to love that she did all she did but the ending really was terrible...


    Omg i felt the same way. yeah she did terrible and unforgiving things but for her to meet her demise like that is utterly... i cant even find the word to describe it. im a little disappointed actually.

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  6. hmm to be honest the only thing that got to me during the wedding was when XF's assistant died protecting him and the emperor using the last of his powers to collect XF's soul.


    i think the whole wedding scene itself could have been a lot more dramatic and heartfelt. maybe im just heartless though. but i had hoped that they could have had JM push XF off of her since she was so resentful towards him already. they should have also ended the memories with her telling him she likes him from the mortal trial before she threw up the pill. i don't know i guess i wanted more from the moment.

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  7. I don't know about anyone else but I found it pretty pathetic how the water and wind god couldn't put up a better fight. I mean come on he did a better against the empress all the other times. And that lady assistant of RY, I really dislike her. Just because she loves or whatever him doesn't mean she mess with other's life.


    I can't wait for the face offs. Let the anger be release!

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  8. On 3/26/2018 at 1:19 PM, Dhakra said:

    No, what you did was right. Good call on your part, the way you said it was fitting and really good. It wasn't too aggressive, your words were well chosen. 


    I'm completely on your side.

    Thank you. I wished he would understand a little but he doesn't seem to be because he hasn't talked with me since.

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  9. its been a little over a month since we've last seen each other and so he wanted us to spend saturday together. of course i was excited but then half the day goes by not hearing from him and when he did finally get back to me he asked if i wanted to see him for a little bit because his friend had asked him out for dinner later that night around 7/8pm. of course i got angry because i dont get to see him often and its an hour drive to him. it was 4 almost 5pm when he ask to see me. that doesn't even give us any time to do anything. so i told just told him that we'll do it another time. he asked when and i told him when he makes the time just for the two of us. was what i said too aggressive?


    i know he has a life outside of me and im not trying to take away his time with his family and friends but when its our time together he always cuts it to go hangout with his friends who he just spent time with the day before. that makes me angry.



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  10. I was a fool for saying those words and for second guessing myself. When others asked, you didn't even try to lie to say that I was a friend, but just a "someone". To finally actually hear it from you it hurts but now I understand who you see me as.


    So what the richard simmons did I ever do to you for you to treat me the way you did you richard simmons? 

  11. @Nynda Some nights, yes, things does happened. Some nights she just sleeps over because he doesn't want her driving home tired. Or sometimes she just stays because she didn't want him driving her back home so late. So then it doesn't matter either way because it means he doesn't love or is interested in her that way?

  12. So the boyfriend always asks the girlfriend to stay the night and she does, but as soon as they wake up he has her leave even though both has nothing to do for the rest of that day. Is that common when the girl stays over for the night or did he only want her for only a day and night and no more than that?

  13. @Dhakra

    Am I interested? I find him attractive but I'll keep my options open.

    Did I respond? Yes, I did. He's texted everyday but I kept the talk to a minimum.

    Do I want to date him now? I'll leave that option open also.



    Are they still close? I have no idea.

    Distance? Most of his relationships ended with the girl moving away. So I'm guessing he wants one where both are close.


    What did you mean when you said me not knowing when their relationship ended says a lot?

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  14. @CamelKnight @Dhakra You two are the best, love your conversations.


    Current update: so I was told from a close friend of hers (and other several) that they ended their relationship a few months ago because she transferred to a different location in another city a few weeks ago.


    I think I know what you two are going to be asking but ask away. :D

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  15. @Dhakra He's been gone about 3 days (2 week vacation) and have text yesterday and again today. I'm not missing him or anything and I don't wish for him or anyone to be single if they're already not.


    So I shouldn't cut contact and just let things go as is?

  16. @CamelKnight I do find him attractive and could possibly open up but since he is in a relationship I won't take it further than just having small talks. His girlfriend and I aren't close we work together in the same building but in different areas so we barely if even run into each other at all. A lot of people in the building knows them and their relationship so yeah that's something I definitely would not want to be involve in. Should I just cut contact with him? If they break up later I don't want to be the reason.


    @Dhakra In this case am I the one suffering or is he because he texted me (he's on vacation now out of state) and I haven't responded back.

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  17. So whenever he takes a vacation outside of state, he'll ask me how I would feel if he doesn't return. My answer was if that is what makes him happy or if he's happier wherever he's going then I wish him the best. I guess my answer wasn't what he was asking for so he asked if it would make me sad or lonely. I said I don't know because I really don't know. I mean we're not friends or close and he has a girlfriend.


    So why would he ask? Why does he keep asking? What are his intentions, if he has any?

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