If you honestly had to pick between the two, who would it be? If I'm truly in love with my SO, and I know I can spend the rest of my life with him, then I will pick my lover without a second thought. As cheesy as it sounds, if I know I found "the one" then to me they're not just my lover, but also a best friend. I only consider my SO to be my best friend in any case. It's someone that I will one day live with, and start a family with. II'm not going to do that with my friends. Most likely, I'll never be living with them anyway. I know people usually say their friends essentially come first because in case anything happens then at least you still got your friends. However, I feel that's just the way society shapes us into thinking. It's as if it's wrong to say you'll pick your lover over your friend. Also, the quote, "Lovers come and go, but true friends always stay" doesn't justify for me. I mean, if the person is your true lover then they'd do anything to stay too. Obviously, you shouldn't have to choose between the two, but if you had to, who would it ultimately be?