[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Because Monday is a few days away... and to stop myself from watching certain scenes again, I've resorted to BTS or interviews. Mostly stuff that isn't subbed. I just like seeing them laugh and smile and joke around. 

 

 

Speaking of laugh... I wonder. Will we ever witness Nam Se Hee laughing? We've seen him smile, we've seen him kiss. But my goodness if this drama ends without a laugh... 

 

So I guess I've added another one to my wish list -- a bed scene, family life, and a laughing Se Hee. 

 

Oh,  and I hope Ji Ho has a drinking session with her girls and finally can get in on the "intimate jokes." Maybe "woori" will be their thing? 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

4 minutes ago, yusefull said:

 

 

Personally I found that when JH at the begining put the guy on the segway and cry from anger so funny.

 

I laughed so much at this right now, I'm coughing a bit. LOL thanks for the reminder! I remember the audiences' faces as they were watching the actor scream in fury while moving slowly on the Segway. Pedestrians were faster than him! bwahahahhaha

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Other PPLs--Samsung phones, the tablet that Se Hee hid behind when they were blaming him for the app name, the tablet/laptop that Su Ji designed a bra made a database with. 

 

Again, I didn't stick out as unusual and I appreciate how they flowed with the story. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

11 minutes ago, kelmaoneko said:

He did nearly cry here though  Look at those red eyes and that little sigh of relief haha

 

 

I think re-watching Episodes 11 and 12 over and over and OVER again made me blind to the epic moments before them. So sorry... I'll try to refresh my memory :).

 

I guess I'm wanting a big Saranghae moment. Not like a flash mob dancing in the park kind, but hopefully something uniquely Se Hee. Something that indicates his complete and utter surrender to his feelings for Ji Ho. Of course, I'm not expecting this next week but at least by the finale? 

 

Speaking of red eyes... his eyes were so red in the bus ride to Seoul from Namhae. Boy, I hope these actors are getting some rest. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Someone once commented here that the real Second Lead Rival to Se Hee is Cat. Judging from the morning after in the preview, I'd say... that it's probably the truth. LOL

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Some eagle-eye comment in the YouTube clip of the final scene of Ep 12 saw that there were beers on Ji Ho's table-desk in her room. I'm guessing they needed some beer before going to bed...?

 

Hahahaha I wonder though... to get sleepy? To quell their nervousness? 

I guess that's why alcohol is called liquid courage, hehehehe. 

Though, wouldn't alcohol lower their inhibitions... hehehehhe

 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

39 minutes ago, wateryroseapple said:

Sorry to cut your post

 

How about this kind of SH? This is too out of his character though but who knows! Hehe 

 

 

YAAAAAAS! 

 

But yes. Too out of character. That was a fun movie. And strangely enough, that screencap and the line he was saying is somewhat fitting for their situation, if ever Ji Ho moves out hehehehehe. 

 

Thank you! You made me smile, @wateryroseapple and now I'm reminded of the shirt-ripping scene... not too farfetched if the Pandora's Box of Ji Ho's desires are unleashed hehehehe.  Sorry for the off-topic, Spellbound post. hehehehe. 

 

And yes, happy tears are good too, @yusefull Though I imagine CEO Ma doing this more than Se Hee.

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Seriously... this thread, the First Lifers are giving me life hehehe or you guys are my vitamins, especially in this fog of flu. Thank you.

 

Something occurred to me... why is it that somehow I want to see Se Hee cry over Ji Ho? I'm not trying to be cruel. Or maybe not crying, some huge show of emotion at one point? In defense of or because of his feelings for Ji Ho? Like the climax of it all. 

 

hope I'm making some sort of sense. I like the pace but with 4 episodes left, I'm curious as to where it's leading. 

 

And would someone let me know if and when he starts speaking banmal to her? I know very little Korean to actually tell the difference. Thanks so much! 

4 minutes ago, Jillia said:

They're honestly really cute!

 

Credit: I made this gif

 

 

One of the best use of PPL i've seen. Actually, overall the show has been really smooth in incorporating PPL. I used to remember other dramas wherein the only restaurants that exist are a certain Sandwich or Ice Cream shop.

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

3 hours ago, lclarakl said:

 

 

@8mel, as much as I would have loved for it to be a scene from the future, I think this is a behind the scene clip, because this is when JH went to help with the ancestry celebration and the kids are SH's nephew and niece.

 

I will say that even in the behind the scene clip they look like a real couple.

 

Gaaaaah. I loved how he was still looking in her direction and where his left arm landed. Argh. Cannot. Ship. Nooo. 

 

Hey at least we are just a few days away from 13. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

3 minutes ago, VanillaSalt said:

hmm...was Ji Ho saying this in reference to herself and se hee's relationship? Or just about marriage roles in general? because it seems like their relationship has a nice equalness to it where they share certain duties. Maybe JM saw the example of Se Hee's mother and father dynamic and was afraid of that happening to them?  I really want to know what se hee's personality was like back then. I don't think he was THAT much different, I'm sure he was calculative and all, but was it as much as he is now? I'm desperate for a whole episode of his POV, but it's too late in the drama for that. 

 

I have no idea about the context. The voiceover came after Jung Min saying something about “having tried something like marriage once.”

 

This makes me curious about where exactly the other episodes are taking us. Suddenly, 16 seems too short. 

 

Clearly, I might be overthinking. But I am constantly fascinated at how books and poetry are being utilized in this drama. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

I have a question about the Ep 13 preview. I watched it on Viki and something bugged me about the last lines—I think it was Ji Ho speaking. On the subs she referred to “being each other’s Room Nineteen” and the subs explained it to be a reference to Doris Lessing’s story “To room nineteen.” Based on a summary I found in google, the story doesn’t not have a happy ending. But it is tale that casts a spotlight on marriage the pressures it puts on women and their role in the household and eventual loss of identity and purpose beyond the institution. 

 

I don’t mean to scare anyone, I know some angst is coming... I just wonder if anyone else caught that at the end of the preview?

 

if the subs are indeed accurate then, wow. Looks like there are heavier themes at play in this drama, all centering on the various roles and perspectives of women and bringing awareness towards issues that impact women. 

 

 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

15 hours ago, polarbear99 said:

This drama is too good!

Rewatching again from the start    Really enjoyed reading the analyses of the members here.

 

I’m now again on ep2 and noticed that See Hee actually smiled a lot and showed his softer side/face here which is more evident in the later ep 11-12!

 

Being too obsessed with this,

I have some random questions which I hope some of you can help enlighten me:

 

I’m wondering if Ji Ho’s mom saw them kissing on the beach that’s why she called her that time? Or was it coincidence? 

 

Is there an online English version of the poetry book?

 

Once this drama is finished do they publish the screenplay? In English version, too?

 

Where can we find all the PPL featured in this drama? The fashion is well curated! Does the stylist have an IG? I saw descriptions of some of the clothes/bags/items they wear here and there but not in one place or account.

 

Does the cast/writers/PD read our forum? Do we influence their production? given that I believe that this is catering to a more international fan base.  

 

I hope they release the new BTS soon! The BTS of the kimchi making and the kiss scene would be awesome! 

 

Monday is too far away...

 

 

 

So many good questions.  I don’t have answers but  I wondered the same thing about Ji Ho’s mom. And that maybe her brother was in on it. This is  how it played in my head:

 

JH Mom: Where’s your sister? And your brother in law? Wait... What are you and your wife giggling about? Why are you holding your phone up like that? Are you taking a selca? 

 

JH Bro: Eomma! Sssh!!! (Motions for her to come closer) Look! 

 

Mom peers at the screen. Her eyes widen and she slaps her son’s arm hard. 

 

Mom: stop that! Leave them alone! They’re newlyweds!

 

brother: But they are making out in broad daylight! Aish, these two... (rubs his arm but keeps filming) 

 

Mom pulls out her phone and dials Ji Ho.

 

(conversation in the show happens)

 

“Aigoo if she only knew what I saved her from.” Mom mutters to herself after she ended the call. 

 

Brother: Eomma! Why’d you have to ruin our fun?

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

20 minutes ago, hannajo said:

Nice to meet you!  

 

This thread moves so quickly; I can hardly catch up! It's so fun to read all of your views on Ji-Ho and Se-hee's current relationship, whether I agree or disagree with them. I see that some are envisioning what SH might be like as a parent. I'm LOL-ing so hard just thinking about it!  I used to be as rigid and uptight as SH about my finances and my time. Then my kid came along and changed EVERYTHING, forcing me out of my INTJ mode and to accept flexibility and unpredictability in my life. It was a painful process for me, having to accommodate unforeseen expenses on a kid and having my daily schedule wrecked. I can laugh about it now only because I've become way more relaxed and adaptable. I still approach parenting in a very INTJ-like manner though. Think: schedules, a lot of reading on prenatal care and child psychology, strategising the best approach towards my child's education, analysing child's behaviour & noting them in a journal, etc. But it's no longer painful for me to accept changes in my life, so I have my kid to thank for that.

 

Personalities like mine and Se-hee's don't make for outwardly affectionate parents and sometimes we may even appear cold & uncaring, being unswayed by extreme emotions which children are prone to. But we care very deeply and will spare no expense (money, time, energy) for our children (and other people we've accepted into the idealistic INTJ world in our heads, haha). So yes, SH buying JH expensive earrings and spending 20 bucks to play for a snail plushie is a big deal, guys. That's love right there. I'm sure he'll do much more for his child, if he had one. I can totally see him collecting & analysing data on diapers and daycare centres before the child is even born. HAHAHAHAHA

 

I can see the excel spreadsheets now... or even better, an app!!! LOL

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Don’t tempt me with fan fiction. I honestly used to write them for a couple I used to ship. (That ship had sunk in the worst way) If I get fed up, I just might... 

 

I can imagine Ji Ho screeching at him in Satoori while giving birth, too. Hahahahahhahh

 

I can also see Se Hee arguing with the pediatrician regarding growth rates and whether or not his child is in the upper percentile. And then being all high and mighty at parent teacher conferences. Ah the possibilities. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Just now, kimnabong said:

hahahahahaha i can imagine it. LOL I can also imagine JH going with it despite the obnoxious part, much like she went and analyzed the charts with him on whether she could or could not be a roommate. Or how they handled the wedding chart for that matter. On second thought, I take back my pessimisim. Hahaha... now episode 13? Please? 

 

I can see him being a know-it-all nagging Ji Ho about certain things about pregnancy and Ji Ho side-eyeing him muttering, "As if he knows how it feels to carry a human being inside his body."

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

You rock, @Jillia . I love that scene so much. Along with... you know.  So I've been pretty much been replaying the first few minutes of Ep 12 a lot. Hahahah

 

AND I LOVE how right after that, Ji Ho goes all soft spoken again when she said goodbye to the family. Heheheh

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

9 minutes ago, kimnabong said:

lol he wasn't just caught. he was continuously responsive. hahahahha and being in your wife's hometown with her parent's so near must have required logic to resurface. lol. I'm sure he has pretty much logically deduced that this call is likely going to be from the mother. They were all over each other.

 

It's hard for me to imagine this couple having a baby. i just don't know how SH will deal with diapers and tantrums and whatever. He is for sure going to crack for all the algorithms he wouldn't be able to establish. it would be a biiiiiig thing if he initiates the want for one. Normally he'd be very scared for the baby. He'll probably go on full planning complete with charts. in this sense, he'll be just like his dad. But nothing JH can't balance though.

 

 

4

 

Was he? Now I want to watch that scene. Again. I'm just looking for an excuse. I blame the cough and cold meds. 

 

On the contrary, I think he might take pregnancy to a different level. To an obnoxious level, even. Much to Ji Ho's dismay. Everything from the nutrition, to childbirthing classes, to babyproofing, to playing music. Heck, even the labor itself and setting it up for success (music in the delivery room, birth plans, etc) Anything that's backed by data and charts, he'll probably use.  

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

@Jillia May I request a GIF of Se Hee looking so happy and proud when Ji Ho drank the makgeolli for him? Pretty please? 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

15 minutes ago, amyrrhielle said:

Hi everyone, silent lurker here, but I thought I'd share with you my favorite scene from both episodes. I'm a bit unconventional. I loved the kiss, and I loved the date; however, what really made me believe SH was a goner with JH was how his face lit up like a Christmas tree when JH arrived at Namhae to "rescue" him. 

 

This scene reminds me of the look my then-boyfriend (now husband) gave me whenever I decided to surprise him with baked goodies when he was reviewing for his licensure exam. Even now, he still gives me the look whenever I decide to surprise him by showing up at his workplace (after a long shift) instead of waiting for him at home. 

 

Note: I had screencaps of the "look," but I'm not sure how to insert them here...

 

Made a collage of it. Then uploaded it on imgur. (Had to create a free account.) When you host a photo somewhere, right click on it, select copy link address/image link address and then paste the copied address in the "Insert Other Media > Insert photo from URL".

 

That button is on the lower right-hand corner of the reply/comment box. 

 

Hope this helps! I had one more frame that I didn't include of his face because it was blurry. 

 

But I wholeheartedly agree. I love this scene. He's like a kid on Christmas morning. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

3 minutes ago, fastheart said:

 

It is really difficult to not reciprocate "open-mouth" kisses when the other party is doing it. It is almost like a breathing rhythm that you just go along. And that's why when JH stopped, SH also could stop and take his normal breath. So, it was a really hilarious scene.

 

SH being very logical, of course, tried to stop, unsuccessfully. He should have just ignored it, but, hey, it's SH.

 

Yup. Tries to stop... opened his lips to talk while his bottom lip was still caught in JI Ho's lips. I don't think he was trying that hard hahahahahaha. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

3 hours ago, yusefull said:

What if SH realise he love JH when he cut his hair and change his hairstyle ? Like they say women change after a break up, since it's a reverse genre for many things, that could be one too. He was letting go of the hairstyle that go with his ex (he got the same when you see the flashback).

 

And I still love that after he tell her how he learned how they say the word pretty in her town, he doesn't answer her and smile at her face wondering about it.

 

You know what surprises me about Se Hee? That he has awkward joke delivery (Cat taking a taxi from the vet) but can be such a tease. 

 

Examples: 

"Kiss"

SH: That's not a kiss. It was just a meeting of lips... (insert the whole monologue about the kiss) here's how you kiss...

 

AND

 

SH: (Paraphrasing) So... do you understand it now? Or do you need to know more?

JH: I need more. 

SH smiles and swoops back in. 

 

"Pretty"

SH:  "No. They asked if I found you pretty."

JH: And...?

SH changes the subject, walks away. Smiling to himself. 

 

I have a feeling there's more. Teasing, I mean... that wasn't shown to us or we have yet to see. He's a sneaky one. 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Looks like I am coming down with the fever--like fever, fever.  Not "love fever" for this show--I believe I've been afflicted by that since Ep 1. Bwahahaha. 

 

Anyway, I had a teensy wish. I don't know if everyone saw Suspicious Partner but I kinda want something like that for Se Hee and Ji Ho... from the walls to the bed. And the guy waking up in the morning and watching his wife sleep--or maybe in this case, snore hehehe. 

 

Like... come on. Single-since-birth woman meets 12-years-celibate man. Hope their home is soundproof. 

 

Took your advice, @lavender2love ... I am not scrubbing away my thoughts. hehehe

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

15 minutes ago, b4l01 said:

 

I call that a bad habit.  SH certainly violates the rule "Don't talk when your mouth is full" 

 

I must admit that I replayed this scene a bit too much. AND I cracked up at Se Hee’s multitasking. He wasn’t pulling away OR pushing her away. Had it not been for the call...

 

Guys. Get a room. I mean that in the most positive and supportive way. 

 

Can you imagine? That was just a... taste ... ehem... of these two. What if we finally see the day that Pandora’s box is blown wide open? 

 

Okay I think my mind needs to be scrubbed the way Ji Ho scrubbed that table. So dirty hahahhaha

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

Disclaimer: BARELY slept. Again. Obsessing over this drama is not healthy for me. LOL. First thing I did when I woke up (from restless sleep) was... watch Ep 12 subbed. Again. Watched it before I went to sleep. Watched it raw yesterday. So First Lifer fam, please be patient with my rambles. Thank you and you rock. 

 

I take back what I said. About my misgivings about Episode 12. 

 

If ever I posted about the cutesy stuff as an abrupt shift in their dynamic, I admit that I was wrong. Very. 

 

If anything, I like the progression. Of course, the drama is not perfect (but... in my mind, very close.) and I'm sure everyone had seen dramas wherein nothing happens then BOOM, second to the last episode OR WORSE last episode we get bombarded with sugar sweet moments. 

 

I also love the progression of their hand-holding. From the Wedding, to the Rescue, to the Date. 

 

Agree with @hannajo's MBTI comments and thank her for sharing her personal experience! I've had a boss who is of the same category. He did say that it isn't that Introverts are socially withdrawn, it's that they prefer socializing at a certain pace. That being with a group is fine but they need to recharge alone after. It drains them. We saw this in early Se Hee enjoying his box lunch and admonishing Ma Sang Gu on the phone about how hard it is being with them for a week. 

 

But back to Se Hee's feelings and expression of affection. 

 

It was building up from Ep 1. Even if they weren't involved yet. I know I've said this before that he is deliberate with whom he engages with. He could have easily let Ji Ho go after the back-slapping, inadvertent rejection, he could have walked away from the bus stop and made an excuse (he could have even been perfectly rude about it, too. She is still a stranger.) 

 

He started opening the door from the moment he asked her about Arsenal. 

 

There were so many opportunities for him to just walk away, politely decline, close the door of his life on her. Se Hee drawing the line at "Woori" was his attempt to defend himself. 

 

But as we've all seen, he's pretty much defenseless against the onslaught of Ji Ho in his life, mind, and heart. 

 

But beyond Ji Ho, another thing that captured his heart, I feel was Ji Ho's family. Starting with her mom. That he saw how, despite their own dynamics that they felt like a family. 

 

I saw that continued gratitude in his eyes when Ji Ho's drunken Dad was telling them to be careful of cars and wars. And the important line here is "If war breaks out, the first target will be Seoul so come straight here!!!" 

 

Remember the line about tenant-landlord? Se Hee, in that fight with his father, felt he had no father. He had no home. 

 

Years later, here he was. Being welcomed by his new family. And his new family worries about him and his well-being. We haven't seen enough of that from his family. 

 

You could see the gratitude and longing. And for Ji Ho to step in and call him her "groom" and defend him, you could see that warmth and pride spread across his face. 

 

* * *

 

Not surprised that they were awkward after the kiss. It's a tricky situation (The phrase, are we or aren't we? comes to mind) and pretty much a waiting game on each other. Very glad that Se Hee stepped up. I almost thought he'd take Ji Ho's outburst of "There's nothing I want to do today!!! (sub-text... except of course... ahehehhehehehehehehhehehehhe) as a rejection and suggest that they go home. Glad he took her out on a date. (The lips though. arghhhhh)

 

Ehem. Anyway, not surprised that he splurged on Ji Ho either. We've seen him spare no expense on Kitty. It's about time he spared some expense on Ji Ho. 

 

* * *

 

Though I was initially blown away by the Jeong Min's presence (like the difference between her and Ji Ho is strikingly apparent in the way they carry themselves. Great acting. I can't do it justice with words. ), I have since gotten over her being in the drama. I think she's not a threat to the OTP's love but rather, she is more of a threat to Se Hee's confidence to loving someone fully and not hurting someone. 

 

* * *

 

According to the subs I watched, Se Hee pretty much admitted to Won Seok that he had feelings for Ji Ho. Is this correct? 

 

* * *

Final thought - LMK is the king of microexpressions for me. The last few scenes--and we've seen him with adoration on his face for Ji Ho...  I saw the apprehension. I saw the same expression he uses when he is about to close himself off to anyone. His expressions were getting more and more apparent and open but after the post-it, you could see his struggle. To be honest, even his door-grabbing face (but traitorous eyes... going back and forth from Ji Ho's lips-eyes-lips-eyes) was still a bit harsh. I've seen him softer. But I think... it was still a reflection of the internal tug of war between his heart and mind, and his past and his present. 

 

And in that moment, he made a decision. You can see the resolution all over his face. There was still tension. I believe that he took a step towards his happiness. And another step into another possible future with Ji Ho. 

 

For their first time.

 

[[Drama 2017] Because This Is My First Life 이번 생은 처음이라]

8 minutes ago, meiil said:

btw the translation that came up in the subs was slightly different and more of impact from the early ones we've read.

 

"I do adore this woman. What she thinks is cute.

However, at the same time, I’m afraid of myself.

I’m scared of myself for hurting someone again.

But…

Now…

I want to be happy."

 

 

 

 

 

Dear lord. My heart is bursting. 

 

Also me: