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    I moved to Korea when I was a kid. I respect your opinion on Korea. Korea isn't a perfect country and there are times when I want to move out. I'll explain later. First, I'll give you a male's perspective. Are you sure that they weren't joking? I know a lot of Koreans who'd think that their opinions are absurd. And I know a few guys who used to choose girls only by looks until they decided that it would be better for them to think of the inner side first. From what I've seen, more disappointment comes in the long term when choosing someone to date by looks. Because in a lot of those cases, the decisions were made before knowing what personality that person would have. I think they think this way because they got influenced by their own mothers' experiences. And I get the feeling that they're repeating what their own mothers told them. It was different when the older generations were younger. I noticed that it was very hard for me to find a woman to date in Korea if they knew that I was originally from the States. Koreans these days will quickly assume that an American adult in Korea is an English teacher. I'm sorry to say this if there are any English teachers in this forum... Many Korean women will avoid an English teacher because they prefer someone who makes more money. And English teachers in Korea have a bad reputation because of a few who caused problems a long time ago. Of course, there are some Korean women who'd accept an English teacher, but get ready for a lot of rejections before finding that woman. Many Koreans have this prejudice on the U.S. citizens. And I heard some Korean women say that they thought I was an English teacher and that they have low opinions on one. I noticed this with the guys also. The ways that both of the genders treated me were different from before and after they realized what my occupation really was. It was hard to just get a conversation with a Korean woman until I joined some expatriate groups. That being said, I noticed a few European women who said similar things as you mentioned above about their own boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. I know an Austrian woman who complained that his boyfriend isn't responsible enough and doesn't have a bright future. To be honest, I get the feeling that she'll separate from him eventually. This happens with a lot of the expatriates in Korea. And I know a Dutch girl who complained that her ex-boyfriend (who's American) in China wanted to marry her. Understandably, she refused because it was too early for her (she is a university student) and she said that she was concerned about him not making enough money for a family. I noticed that some of the women from outside Korea get offended if their boyfriends pay for them. I'd pay for a woman's meal in Korea because it's what a Korean woman expects. I'd never be accepted if I didn't. On the other hand, I noticed some Korean women who pay for their boyfriends once in a while. South Korea used to be a very poor country before the 70s. And it took time for South Korea to become the economy that it is now. So money is still deep in the minds of a lot of the Koreans. I wouldn't do any of the above. Not all of the Korean men do this. And not all of the Korean women would accept this. I know because a Korean friend posted on her Facebook that she just glared at her boyfriend when he asked her where she was going with the short dress that she was wearing. Haha! There are Korean women who prefer men who are open-minded. So they join an expatriate group if they can't find an open-minded Korean man. One Korean woman in an expatriate group used to avoid me for months. And she used to speak to me as if I was a lowly thing during the time when she rarely talked to me. That suddenly changed as soon as she found out that I was originally from another country. She said, "you're American? I didn't know that! I thought you were Korean!" She is more open to me now. It's a very strange experience. Another Korean woman in that group asked me, "are you Korean?" I said that I was. She walked away. She still doesn't know that I'm from another country. This has definitely changed in Korea. Many of the Korean women I know weren't taught in home-making skills, including my mother. They learned themselves after they got married. On the other hand, my sister's husband is from Korea and he was actually taught when he was a kid. This is an unusual case in Korea, though. In Korea, only the wife of the oldest son is in charge of taking care of the in-laws. The other siblings' wives rarely meet their in-laws. Most of them meet their in-laws only once a year. There are many single women who are over forty in Korea because of the reasons that you stated above. And most of the Korean women get married in their late twenties or after thirty. My American friend counterparts on average get married earlier. I wasn't aware of that. Most of the Koreans don't want to be in the military. The military isn't a friendly place and can be very abusive. And it takes away the time when they should be seeking their careers. Conditions have improved, but there are still bad incidents that appear on the news. I think much more hidden things happen in the military. It was terrible when my dad was in the military. He told me that all of the lower ranking Korean soldiers used to get hit by their superiors everyday. After living in the States and in Korea, I believe that life is what we make of it. Many ethnic immigrants in the States experienced obstacles and hardships, even the European ones in the old past - examples are the Irish-Americans and the German-Americans. One of the issues that the Asian-Americans express today are the lack of Asians and the way they were depicted in Hollywood. I think the Asians should take the moment in their own hands and direct their own movies. We didn't see a lot of Asians depicted in a good way in Hollywood in the past because Asians are a fewer minority in the States and they're much fewer in Hollywood. Nowadays, there are more Asian-Americans starting their own companies. In Korea, there are more women starting their own companies, and some of them are making a lot of money. My aunt is one of them. Understandably, many people don't do this because it's a huge risk to take. Not everyone succeeds in starting on their own. And people are trained to work for others. There are young Korean women who own their own businesses. On the other hand, my aunt started to become wealthy just last year. She went through failures and difficult times before. She learned from her experiences and never gave up. As you stated, both genders go through the same difficulties at work in certain companies. I don't think solving gender inequality alone will solve this problem. Some higher ranking men do it to their male juniors. And I know of higher ranking women who oppressed and blackmailed their female juniors. My sister was a victim when she worked in Korea. A higher ranking woman made her do too much work and then blackmailed her. My sister used to come home after 10pm because of her. The higher ranking lady was jealous that my sister was fluent in English. And her boss told everyone over there that the reports should be done in a way that my sister did. I guess the higher ranking woman was afraid that she might lose her job. My sister found out that the lady was blackmailing her when she noticed that all the other workers were being hostile to her and she asked them why.
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