Guest Starlitelet Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 If you honestly had to pick between the two, who would it be? If I'm truly in love with my SO, and I know I can spend the rest of my life with him, then I will pick my lover without a second thought. As cheesy as it sounds, if I know I found "the one" then to me they're not just my lover, but also a best friend. I only consider my SO to be my best friend in any case. It's someone that I will one day live with, and start a family with. II'm not going to do that with my friends. Most likely, I'll never be living with them anyway. I know people usually say their friends essentially come first because in case anything happens then at least you still got your friends. However, I feel that's just the way society shapes us into thinking. It's as if it's wrong to say you'll pick your lover over your friend. Also, the quote, "Lovers come and go, but true friends always stay" doesn't justify for me. I mean, if the person is your true lover then they'd do anything to stay too.Obviously, you shouldn't have to choose between the two, but if you had to, who would it ultimately be? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tainted.skies Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Hmm, I would choose my lover in a heartbeat. He knows me better than any of my friends do, regardless of how close they are to me. I'd personally say that it is the friends that come and go, and that it is much harder to replace your significant other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest brokenmachine Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I think it's just the definition of "lover", which in the context of the quote only means a romantic thing, so if you and your best friend fell for the same guy, don't cat fight over it...But if it was your s/o from a serious relationship, of course it will be him/her as top priority, and doubt there would be many circumstances where you would need to choose between s/o and friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 a true lover stays, a true friend stays.... people who make these sayings just never had the experience.look at ur parents, im sure the majority of us have parents that dont seem to have many close friends, but are together all the time as a family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Krrypton Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 i think i would choose my friends. In need, a friend can be a mother, father ,guide, mentor even a lover. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raymondc27 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Personally i would choose either friends comes and go family comes and go also. I experience things i shouldnt have at my age. Ive been betrayed by both party and i trust people to easy. If anything ill choose my kids over anything or perhaps my right hand lol anyways why choose when you can have both Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest I_play_with_dolls Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 Depending on my situation at that moment, as of right now I would choose my SO because he's pretty much the only friend I have now. To be honest though if I was still friends with my ex best friend of three years I would choose him over my SO but after our incident that answer has totally changed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hearthealer Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 My SO better get along with my friends or there will be issues.True friends are harder to come by than lovers. My friends have seen me through some really rough periods in my life and always stuck it out with me and I cannot imagine being forced to pick one over the other....I have picked fights with ex-SOs over their disdain for my best friends and honestly IMHO, if he/she really loves you, they won't interfere in your friendships because they would understand that everyone needs a support/network system and they won't pressure you to give anything (that's not harmful to you, like say drugs and over-boozing) up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest HERMIT Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 I'd choose my Lover over friends.No way I'm gonna chop my right hand off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aresika Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 I agree, and think the same way as you do; my fiance is much more than a lover, he is also my best friend, someone who understands me and is able to communicate with me on other topics. I put my lover in first place because he will be the person that I will marry and spend the rest of my life, and build a family with. True friends could always be there too, but eventually all your friends will find their other halves, marry, and have their own families; sooner or later the friendship will somewhat diminish, because they too will be focusing on their family as well. Before I dated my fiance, I didn't have a best friend nor any "close" friends, I had friends but non of them could ever really communicate with me on the same level, nor knew me well either. So all in all most of my friends were on an acquantiance-level type of bonding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest alisonbrown856 Posted November 19, 2014 Share Posted November 19, 2014 Actually its depends upon the situation because friends and love they both are having there on place in our life so In my life I want both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BingBong_514 Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Of course if I need to prioritise then Lover will always come first before Friend. But if it was a situation and I had to choose whether to be friends or Lovers with somebody, then I'll rather be friends than risk losing our friendship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
polarbear88 Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 I would pick lover. But hopefully lover wouldn't make me choose between her and a friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
halfmoonsmile Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Hmm...I would choose money. Money can be exchanged for great stuff like delicious food. A lover can cheat on you. A friend (though my current friends are great people) can betray you, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laskud Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 I would pick lover too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nn_nn Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 my lover will be my friend so I will choose my LOVER in a heartbeat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda22 Posted January 27, 2016 Share Posted January 27, 2016 I choose my friend because my friend also my lover Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laskud Posted January 27, 2016 Share Posted January 27, 2016 Yes, it often happens that friend becomes lover. Me too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivana b. anonymous Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 Lover > Friend Sad, but true. And anyone who objects to that...well, you just don't love your significant other enough. On the other hand, no one in either positions would make you pick them over the other if they truly love you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lenora johnson Posted February 10, 2016 Share Posted February 10, 2016 On 3/13/2013 at 11:39 PM, Starlitelet said: If you honestly had to pick between the two, who would it be? If I'm truly in love with my SO, and I know I can spend the rest of my life with him, then I will pick my lover without a second thought. As cheesy as it sounds, if I know I found "the one" then to me they're not just my lover, but also a best friend. I only consider my SO to be my best friend in any case. It's someone that I will one day live with, and start a family with. II'm not going to do that with my friends. Most likely, I'll never be living with them anyway. I know people usually say their friends essentially come first because in case anything happens then at least you still got your friends. However, I feel that's just the way society shapes us into thinking. It's as if it's wrong to say you'll pick your lover over your friend. Also, the quote, "Lovers come and go, but true friends always stay" doesn't justify for me. I mean, if the person is your true lover then they'd do anything to stay too. Obviously, you shouldn't have to choose between the two, but if you had to, who would it ultimately be? Hello Friend... Just relax and dont think too much about friendship and love... All that u have to do is sit and make yourself strong in both.. Live with both equal relationships without any expectation and Love them without flaws.. You have to be a good friend as well as a true lover... If u are really confused in relationshiip, just play a game Everything will be clear after diverting yourself into something interesting..Let me suggest u a online game .. Compare your love with celebrity couples and share it to one you love and make them feel special.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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