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How to tell difference between fake nice person and genuinely nice person?

Charmingbestfriend96Charmingbestfriend96 Posts: 355Member
edited November 2011 in general discussion
Any post/opinion is welcomed !

There are people who are genuinely nice but than there are people who act sweet and nice to get what they want or try to befriend u for their own advantage

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  • NPB-XKNPB-XK Thread Hijacker Area-Sexy-One - MontrPosts: 5,097Member

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    edited November 2011
    From what I've observed... The genuinely nice people are found when they are very open at letting you see their bad side but they leave their "good side" as a mystery and up to you to observe... So that way, there's no point in hiding and faking... Until you find out by yourself all the genuine good side of that person and you'd know he's genuinely a nice person... If you don't find anything then he's either good at hiding his good side or he's just genuinely full of bad stuff...
    Everyone has something "bad" in them... It's nicer to let the person know it right away than letting it be a bad surprise (when the person finds out later). Good surprises are always best! I think it's cool to honestly say "I'm sorry I feel like I tend to artificially be a super nice person at the beginning but I don't think I'm that nice for real... Just wanna let you know in advance... :tears: "... Honesty shows there and it makes you a genuinely nice person in my opinion to be that honest. B)
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  • hypermotardhypermotard Posts: 157Member
    It depends.  Sometimes you can see right through a person.  Someone fake probably will act different at different times.  It takes observation and getting to know the person..
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  • daRingsdaRings Posts: 1,085Member

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    hmm good question!
    but i think only God knows who we really are in our heart...
    i may think someone is just being fake, but he could think otherwise.

    but if u ask me, based on my experience, u know someone is really a genuine person, when u felt her/his sincerity.
    its like an "intuition"
    u really have to be a good person-reader to distinguish between someone who is fake or not.

    but u know what, it doesnt matter...
    its in that person's conscience if that person is just using you.
    so if ever u encounter someone who is just using u for her/his benefit, let him be.
    coz God will be the one who will judge that person at the end, as long as u stayed as a good person, that's all that matters :)
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  • monkeyinabarrelmonkeyinabarrel Posts: 1,371Member
    pay attention on how they act around with various people, more specifically strangers. Usually fake people tend to treat the "lower" (people who dont have any value that the person can get from) people worse.
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  • StellarEffectStellarEffect SeoulPosts: 369Member
    edited November 2011
    Hm. I don’t think there’s a“right” answer to this, but I do believe in giving all people the benefit of the doubt. Even if that person starts off with the wrong intentions in pursuing a friendship with you, if they are a decent human being, I think they can have a change in heart if they perceive you to be someone who is genuinely a good person. Of course, there will always be those that still take advantage of and hurt you, but ultimately, I think it’s better to live life being open-minded of everyone then to be mistrustful of everyone. Don't let yourself undermine the nature of other people just because of your own biases and prejudices. 

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  • damyoungjidamyoungji Toronto, CanadaPosts: 4,213Member

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    It is difficult to determine how to differentiate between someone who is fake and someone who is real. There is no clear definition of what is considered fake or real because everyone is different and some cover up their lies better than others. If you hang out with someone long enough, and get to know them better, you usually find out whether they are real or fake by their words and actions. But as usual, there are those who do it so well and will go all the way to use someone that their fake personality is never uncovered.. or at least not until they step over the line. Just think of a relationship between a couple. How can one tell if the other person truly loves them and everything they see is what defines the person? The fact that there are married couples who divorce many years later is your answer. It is not possible to tell whether someone is either being fake or real. It is a hit and miss no matter who you meet.
  • MaokyMaoky Posts: 22Member
    edited November 2011
    monkeyinabarrel wrote on 29 November 2011 - 05:49 PM:

    pay attention on how they act around with various people, more specifically strangers. Usually fake people tend to treat the "lower" (people who dont have any value that the person can get from) people worse.


    I don't necessarily think that's the case. Watch how a person behaves when they don't think they are being judged. Watch what they try to keep more covert. 
    Artifically nice people will proclaim they are nice, whether subtly or overtly. They also tend to complain about how nice people never get a chance (cf. the 'nice guys' who always complain about getting walked over by girls). 

    Truly nice people don't do things for notice. They don't do things to get girls. They do it because they genuinely feel compassion for others, and a lot of the times it's hard to pick up because someone who seems to have a scraggy, mean demeanor and appearance could be the same person who secretly volunteers at the local soup kitchen every saturday (just pulling an example). 

    And I agree with the posters before. They will show their insecurities. They will show you that they are fallible, and that they're human just like you, because it's a sense of empathy when you can connect your problems with someone else and admit that you need help too. The ones that act all cerebral, and try to solve every little problem they get given, instead of sometimes just offering a hug are the pretentious ones in my eyes. You don't treat your friends like babies and tell them how to solve their problems. You support them, and let them learn from their own mistakes.

    Sorry kinda rambling now haha. 
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  • Want2LoveUWant2LoveU Posts: 934Member
    How can someone be a genuine nice person? Is there like universal fundamental principles? I mean there must be theoretical approach to setting to standards as to what is considered the right way of a genuinely nice person. If not is it inborn into us? Or is it taught from a young age?

    I am not even sure, if I am genuinely nice person. I have got compliments of being a nice person, but not genuinely nice person. I don't want to think of myself as one because I can be mean to people. But in reality being a genuinely nice person has to be verified by other people not yourself. Just because you think you are genuinely nice doesn't make you so in the eyes of others. So when someone asks me to describe myself I don't know how to approach that answer. I could say I am caring, kind, and nice, but do people see that in me? Or is it just me? If its just me doesn't that really just make my word lies? When you think of someone as a genuinely nice person, than he might be just pretending. Especially if they are extremely nice to girls, and treat other people mini cooper like my cousin.
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  • theninthtracktheninthtrack pholover Posts: 2,482Member

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    edited November 2011
    Sometimes you can tell right away, but sometimes only time can tell.

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  • lullerbyelullerbye Posts: 169Member
    edited December 2011
    I don't think there's ever really a "genuine nice person." It's just impossible to put any label on any person. We're just people. Everyone has the potential to be nice and everyone has the potential to be rotten. Every person has their ups and downs. Some people are still changing who they are and discovering themselves which is why sometimes their actions can be misleading. That's not the only reason though. It's scary how some people can just change their lifestyle and point of view in the blink of an eye. It's kind of like when you break up with someone you made promises with, yet a week after you break up they already have a new lover. Their point of view just changed rapidly. Everyone does things they regret and I don't think people should judge anyone on their past. But again, I don't believe anyone can truly be fake. Beneath those superficial actions there is a regular human being under there. Someone with empathy and insecurities. (Unless of course if this person has a mental disorder and have no sympathy. ex: serial killers.)

    Everyone has shared their opinions about other people(whether it's good or bad) or have had some sort of materialistic craze, but I don't think that those things should be held against anyone. 

    Some people are just mean. Being mean isn't fake. If you meet a "friend" who talks to you with ulterior motives, just stop talking to them. You never really know until you talk to them! Once you get to observe them it can be pretty obvious to tell what their true intentions are. Just watch out for people who's opinions constantly change. They'll talk to you and they agree with everything you say. Then the next day they talk to someone else who has completely different beliefs from you and agrees with them too. They're trying to get on everyone's good side, but those are the friends who can end up hurting you the most. I hope this helps!
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  • starrynight288starrynight288 CanadaPosts: 1,704Member

    IDOL

    From personal experience:
    A fake nice person takes advantage of their reputation and does things that usually benefit themselves.
    A nice person is someone who can be a meanie but makes an effort not to.
  • HERMITHERMIT Posts: 10,094Friend of Soompi

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    WELL, ONLINE-WISE I CAN TELL IF A PERSON WAS INSINCERE MERELY BY THE WAY THEY POST OR IN THE MANNER OF HOW THEY MIGHT REPLY TO YOU.
    I MEAN, IT COULD BE SOMETHING SUBTLE - LYK, JUST IN THE IMPLIED TONE OF WHAT THEY WRITE, YOU KNOW WHAT I AM SAYING?!?

    BUT OTHER TIMES, YOU CAN ALSO TELL A PERSON IS SINCERE ONLINE BECAUSE THEIR POSTS ARE PERSONAL, THOUGHT OUT, AND WRITTEN IN A SOOTHING AND INFORMATIVE WAY THAT'S BENEFICIAL TO ALL READERS.
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  • BoonmieBoonmie Posts: 29Member
    I don't really think about it. I can just see straight  through people, which is why I chose to study for the career that I did (psychiatry)
  • fred2265fred2265 Posts: 95Member
    I find that fake people tend to behave in an ingratiating manner whoever they are with. (Much like salespeople :) )
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  • CrunchyrunchyCrunchyrunchy Posts: 640Member

    IDOL

    This thread is relevant to my "fake niceness" 
  • adiavoyadiavoy Posts: 2,281Member
    Well... you just need some intuition. Some people are nice because they want something, and some people are nice... just because they want to be nice. They ask for nothing.
  • The_UsernameThe_Username Posts: 460New Member
    http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/surveys/smiles/

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  • SamudSamud Posts: 727Member
    you can tell after you got stabbed in the back.
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