I was around school today and heard this woman getting upset with her friend because her friend said to another friend that she's aggressive, behind her back. So then she was all pissed off saying "Stop talking about me behind my back. Backstabber. I'd rather you say it in front of my face". So then her friend's like "i meant it in a good way. I hardly ever speak up, so i said you're aggressive because you always fight for what you want. I wish i can be more like you. I meant that you're assertive. It's the same thing". So then the woman said "no, aggressiveness is not the same as assertiveness. Aggressive has a negative meaning to it. quit backstabbing me".
When i heard it, i was like
. I didn't think describing someone who's aggressive is something horrible either. I say that someone's aggressive all the time too. Like if my friend fights for what she wants, i just said "ooh she's aggressive!" but i just mean it in a admirable way. But now i'm worried that it IS supposed to be a negative term. I'm worried i dissed a lot of people without realizing it
. what do you guys think?? is the word "aggressive" actually a negative meaning to describe a friend?