Does my coworker like me?

My Coworker and I we work closely, side by side. We have our
own rooms at work. I've been getting a lot of mixed signals from him and would
like some opinions please.

Positive Signs Maybe?

- Every morning he'd greet everyone first and then come into my office. He'd
greet me, sit down or just hang around and ask questions like "what's going on?
What's new? What do you know?" I'm like his last stop of the morning I guess?

- Evening time if he finishes his work first, he'll come and chill in my room
till it's time to leave. He'd walk around the office saying goodbye and finally
return to my room to say goodbye to me. I'm also like his last stop of the day.
Once, after he made his usual goodbye rounds, the guy in my adjacent office was
talking to him. He stood between our rooms and though he was listening to the guy,
he glanced over and me and did a small wave with his fingers to say goodbye.

- Sometimes I'd ask him for a lift home as it's on
his way. He's never said no before. He's offered on his own accord before.

- We usually have a more down to earth and warm
conversations in his car. He'd tell things in detail. About his family,
friends, his plans for the evening/weekend. We talk about just anything. Sometimes
we joke around and tease each other. One time, we were talking about another
person who was sick that day. Then he said she wasn't as sick as him. I teased
him and asked 'are you talking about mentally or physically?' he slowed down
his car and playfully asked me to get out.

- Another time I was applying red lipstick in his
car preparing for a Friday night date. He glanced over once to see what I was
doing and then looked again. He had this amused yet mesmerised look on his
face. He did that look twice thing. He decided to tease me by jerking his car
around hence making it hard for me to apply my lipstick.

- There was once when I was very sleepy I was
dozing off in his car. I had a function that night to attend and I was worried I'd
fall asleep. I told him about it. He went to fill up his car, and I took a
really quick nap. Well, I tried. He saw me and when he returned to the car he
yelled my name loudly that everyone turned to look. It was so embarrassing and
hilarious of him but we were just laughing. He said he did it to wake me up. I
closed my eyes for a short second and then he started jerking his car around.
Again, he said it's to keep me awake. Haha!

- i was having guy trouble one day. It was really
distracting me. He spent most of the day cheering me up. He made me laugh
throughout the day. I don't know if he did it intentionally or not.

- When we talk, he'll usually stare into my eyes.
Just stare. Or even when we're just beside each other not talking, he'd stare. Hard
stare. And then we'd smile and laugh afterwards.

-We're usually in each other's rooms at work that
when someone rings his office and he's not in there, the next number they'll
ring is my extension, and vice versa. A snitch even reported on us once saying
that we hung out too much together. (no, my workplace doesn't have a no office
romance clause. The snitch was just too bored.)

- Sometimes when he's bored he'll come and sit
down in my room and we'd talk or play some online trivias.

- He helps me with my work though he doesn't have
to. Usually before we have recording sessions, I'd sort out the scripts for the
session. He'd come and help me out. After the sessions, I'm supposed to sort
the scripts out and again, he'd help me. It's become a routine for us now. He'd
even initiate to do it.

- Once in the filing room, we were doing some
filing together eventhough it wasn't our job. He somehow dragged me into
helping him after he volunteered to do the filing (this was after the snitch
ratted us out). While he was sitting on the floor putting away a file, I told
him to sit still and went beside him. Told him I was going to take a picture of
us and he didn't say no. we took the picture and he teased me saying he knew I was
going to send it to my friend and wanted to see what I'd told my friend. I
showed him the conversation and he seemed pretty pleased.

- He calls me random, weird nicknames. Nicknames specifically
for me. He doesn't call anyone else with nicknames. Not that I've heard of.

- Sometimes I'd playfully ask him to make coffee/tea
for me and he'd kindly do it.

- He enjoys teasing me a whole lot. A LOT! The nicknames,
he says mean things occasionally just to taunt me. Sometimes when I ask him
something, before I can finish he'd say no just to taunt me. He'd say it with a
smiling face. He seems to enjoy watching me get frustrated. Sometimes he'd come
in and instead of just handing me the scripts, he'd place them on my head. Lol!
Sometimes he tosses stuff at me. Like my blanket, the balloons in my room, etc.
non dangerous stuff. Sometimes even water. Sometimes he'd purposely block the
entrance of my room with heavy boxes or furniture just so I couldn't go out.

- Once, I was sitting with my legs up and my shoes
were just resting under my desk. He came in and took one of my shoes, made this
really sheepish face and disappeared into the adjacent room. I didn't know yet
at that time that he'd taken my shoe. I asked him what he was up to and he said
nothing with an innocent face. It was only when he was sitting beside me
dusting his trousers and I asked what he did to get that dust on his trousers
that he admitted that it was caused by my shoe. I looked down and saw only one
side. I don't think any guy has ever touched my shoe before!

- When I wear new clothes or do something new with
my hair, he'd compliment me and once he even said I should wear more clothes like
one particular dress cause I look nice in it.

- Christmas party last year, we were seated at
opposite ends of the table. It was a long table. He came all the way to my end
and sat down beside me. He realised that he forgot to bring his beer with him
and went all the way to get it and back to me again. We were slightly tipsy so
we were more playful. We took selfies and when he noticed my food was barely
touched he told me it was the best part and that I should eat it. I opened my
mouth and he fed me. Lol!

- He is very unintentionally sweet to me. He knows
I can't really stand cold temperatures. Neither can he. Once it was freezing in
the office and I casually told him I was cold. The next thing I know he told
our lady boss and got her to turn off the air conditioning in my office. We have
a central system but can individual zones can be switched off. As if that wasn't
sweet enough, he came to me and asked if I wanted to borrow his jumper. I said
okay. He went down and out to his car and back in and up to me. So sweet!

- We talk about just anything. Often we talk about
our families, friends, life. Just the other day he asked me what he should get
for his mom's birthday. We surfed the internet together and browsed some sites
for a gift for his mom.he was having housemate troubles, he told me about it.

- He will never hurt me again. After that one time
where he hurt me, he said sorry numerous times and told me to pretend it never
happened. He didn't mean what he said. After that if he ever said something he
perceived to be hurtful to me, he'd quickly say things like "you can beat me
later/ laugh at me later". He's careful not to hurt my feelings.

- Once when we were in his room doing some work, we took a break. And I was kneeling on the chair and spinning around. Lost my
balance and my hands found its way to the desk behind me. Instead of landing on
the desk, my hand landed on his hand which was on the mouse. He didn't flinch! He
just looked and continued clicking away with my hand on his. I said ooopsie and
quickly removed my hand from his. Our hands often touch. He teases me about
being a pervert cause he knows I like his legs. Lol!

- On Fridays when we have drinks. He'd usually be the one to bring the drink to me.

- Sometimes he comes into my office, puts down work on my desk, smiles and walks out. We don't even have to talk. We just

smile knowingly.

- We have amazing chemistry together. We get along

so well that now I'm concern that others might actually mistake us for a
couple. We play around and hangout with each other too much. He just got told
off (playfully by lady boss) that he shouldn't have fun with me and got told to
return to his own room after she saw him here. We were laughing then.

Negatives

- He's naturally friendly. Friendly with everyone in the office and outside.

- Sometimes when he's grumpy he doesn't even talk to me.

- He calls me bro from time to time. Bro-zoned?

- Sometimes he's really mean and scary!

- We don't meet outside of work.

- We don't have lunch or tea together. Rarely.

- Sometimes he walks into my office, leaves work
for me without saying anything.

Opinions please? thanks!

No

I'm not sure about whether he likes you or not- for that you would have to just ask him (if you are okay with co-worker relationships). Personally, I would stay away from that. I have seen friends go into relationships with co-workers and its awkward for the people that work with them; and if you do ever break up it's just awkward all around. And if the awkwardness interferes with your work it could lead to the chopping block.

That aside though, there are some things that are leading to "red-flags". While he seems like a mostly nice and sweet guy, some of the things you mentioned are question worthy. For example "sometimes he's really mean and scary!" and "Sometimes he tosses stuff at me" and "he says mean things occasionally just to taunt me" those are signs of trouble. I know the general consensus is that when boys are mean it really means they like you. However, that only works (MAYBE) with grade school students. As an adult, a man doesn't have to be mean to show he likes someone. Actually, majority of the time being nice and super friendly is when the possibility of liking even arises.

However, even if he does like you, I personally think you should really consider the phrases I highlighted in the previous paragraph. I'm sorry, but those are signs of a potentially abusive relationship. If I misinterpreted your words then I'm sorry, but I guess my opinion is to stay away and keep the relationship professional.

I'm sorry if this is negative or discouraging-I just wanted to give you my honest opinion

he doesn't like you, yo.

Ask him to post his own self-assessment and description of how he views your interactions on this thread.  Maybe we'll get a better gauge of if he likes you.
OK, j/k.

But in reading your post it seems apparent to me that it's more about how you like him - and its evident by how you're more descriptive about the positive things, yet practically short and abrupt about the negatives.  Without the objectivity, it would be hard for us to really say because you're kind of painting the picture to steer us more towards an opinion you want to hear.

angelala89 said: A snitch even reported on us once saying

that we hung out too much together. (no, my workplace doesn't have a no office
romance clause. The snitch was just too bored.)

HERMIT said: Ask him to post his own self-assessment and description of how he views your interactions on this thread.  Maybe we'll get a better gauge of if he likes you.
OK, j/k.

But in reading your post it seems apparent to me that it's more about how you like him - and its evident by how you're more descriptive about the positive things, yet practically short and abrupt about the negatives.  Without the objectivity, it would be hard for us to really say because you're kind of painting the picture to steer us more towards an opinion you want to hear.

it's not that i don't want to elaborate on the negative points, but there really isn't much to elaborate about.

Doesn't sound like he likes you, especially not after he calls you bro from time to time. A guy who likes you will not call you bro. He's treating you as a good friend

I don't think he likes you. 
- he doesn't take you out outside of work.- he sounds very rude, like leaving work on your desk without saying anything? It's like he is expecting you to do the work for him. He sounds controlling. 

@mightyleaf he isn't controlling at all. if anything, he's more obliging. when i saw leave work on my desk. i mean leave it for me. it's my work, not his.

no one here meets outside of work. hardly.

It sounds like you really want him to like you, from the way you wrote your initial post and all your posts defending his actions.

He's clearly friendly to you and likes you at least as a colleague but it's true that sometimes naturally friendly guys will just act that way. He seems flirty definitely but the fact that he has never asked you out is telling. Sometimes guys can be natural flirts too. You said no one in the office meets outside of work... but is anyone in the office interested in anyone else in the office? If not then I don't think that's really relevant.

I don't want to discourage you! Everything you said can be taken as signs that he is interested but maybe he's trying to test the waters to see how you would respond? Perhaps he's shy or thinks you might have a boyfriend. Do you have his no? Try texting him casually out of work and see how he responds. Or next time you're chatting in the car start discussing movies and if there's a movie you want to see mention it. It's a pretty clear sign and gives him a good opening to ask you out if he's been thinking about it.

If he doesn't respond to your signals then possibly he just likes to flirt or as a girlfriend that he hasn't mentioned so he can't act on anything even if like you said there is chemistry there

Good luck!

@angelala89: Better question do you want the guy to like you? Love yourself more and put more effort into the good/great guy you're probably ignoring instead of chasing the fantasy of a guy who clearly mistreats you, doesn't have much respect for you, and isn't into you!


@moonshinechance: I was thinking the same thing.
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Well, I have a suggestion. You should make a pro and cons list about asking him out, and a pro and cons list about not asking him out. Good luck.

From your description,  it sounds like he is just try to be a good friend. 

angelala89 said:

He stood between our rooms and though he was listening to the guy,
he glanced over and me and did a small wave with his fingers to say goodbye.

he glanced over and me and did a small wave with his fingers to say goodbye.

and did a small wave with his fingers to say goodbye.

did a small wave with his fingers

@moonshinechance first things first, thanks for your reply. your reply is the most objective. About the part about meeting outside of work. Well, considering that i'm the only girl in that office( the other one is partnered), and the guys who would be interested in guys already have their respective partners, it is relevant. And he recently asked me out to attend his gig. Everything else you said is true. Agreed. And I know for a fact that he doesn't have a girlfriend. But it doesn't matter cause I have no intentions of being with him. 
@writerstale and @cristolephe and pretty much everyone else, thank you for your opinions and judgments. I don't know where you got the presumption that I want to date this guy cause all I asked for was opinions on whether he likes me or not. not if i should ask him out or not. I just want to know if his actions are friendly or more than friendly. that's all. 
@Sherlock_Mowg it's called having manners. it would be rude to just walk away from his conversation with his male colleague. what he did was right.i'd do the same in his situation. i wouldn't have it any other way.

angelala89 said: @moonshinechance first things first, thanks for your reply. your reply is the most objective. About the part about meeting outside of work. Well, considering that i'm the only girl in that office( the other one is partnered), and the guys who would be interested in guys already have their respective partners, it is relevant. And he recently asked me out to attend his gig. Everything else you said is true. Agreed. And I know for a fact that he doesn't have a girlfriend. But it doesn't matter cause I have no intentions of being with him. 
@writerstale and @cristolephe and pretty much everyone else, thank you for your opinions and judgments. I don't know where you got the presumption that I want to date this guy cause all I asked for was opinions on whether he likes me or not. not if i should ask him out or not. I just want to know if his actions are friendly or more than friendly. that's all. 
@Sherlock_Mowg it's called having manners. it would be rude to just walk away from his conversation with his male colleague. what he did was right.i'd do the same in his situation. i wouldn't have it any other way.

That's how I am to my co-workers lol though I have a different job... There's only one girl in our team though... But I'm like that to co-workers I'm close with (mostly guys). I'm like that with the girl too but she's a tomboy...I cannot picture the staring scenario though... Even worse the lipstick scenario next to me, don't wanna see that from mah buds while I'm driving... I'd keep my eyes on the road.

Yeah I also think you like him more than he likes you. I think he might like you but might be shy to outright say it sense you work with him. If I were you I would start sending him signals if you like him. Make a move sooner or later. Never know unless you let him know you like him.